Chris_Texas
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If he was grooming her, by rough housing with her, praising her, spending time with her, then she would look that way. She probably did like it, at first.
But if he is 23 and she is 11, and he is not her brother, then rough housing and wrestling is questionable, imo.
My 20 yr old uncle LOVED to make a big spectacle of rough housing with me in front of the family. He would tickle me until I cried, and make it seem like I was enjoying it.
Let me say first that I am sorry to hear about your experiences.
Respectfully, the problem here is that evil ends are often preceeded by good-seeming behavior. Serial killers smile, genocidal dictators kiss babies, incestuous molestors hug and tickle, terrorists wave Bibles and Korans and proclaim their love of god while murdering children. As intelligent people we have to make a choice, do we condemn the mask or the maniac.
Our fear driven media urges us to do the former. They would have us locked up tight, huddled before our TVs awaiting their next warning. But the truth is this: the man who smiled at your kid is almost certainly nothing more than a nice guy who likes kids, the smile is not a perverted lear; the tickle or hug was horseplay and nothing more; the guy with the holy book praising Allah or Jesus probably doesn't dream of mass murder; the quiet neighbor does not have a cellar full of dead hookers.
That's part of the tragedy of crime, the damage continues long after the actual perpetrator has exited the scene. Good and decent is seen as evil, and viewed with suspition -- and often in direct proportion.
Obviously in this case we suspect that the most horrid crime imaginable took place, so it is proper that we view everyone as a potential suspect. My only caution is this, in bold for emphasis:
GOOD SEEMING BEHAVIOR IS NOT EVIDENCE OF EVIL. It is evidence of itself, in this case that these two had a close relationship at that point in time. Nothing more can or should be infered from it.
Again, I am sorry for what you went through as a child.