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I think both of these observations are right but we have to look at them through a framework of extreme family dysfunction rather than what normal people would consider a motive for doing something.
*There's a long history of parents committing murder to get custody of children (watch Dateline. It's like a theme on that show.) Some do it because they don't trust the other parent; others do it because they are unwilling to share; still others do it out of spite or revenge. Some may want to reconstitute the family with a new spouse in the old one's place; that is, they see the "spouse" role as a kind of placeholder that can be switched out as desired. What all of these "motives" have in common is gross ENTITLEMENT, the core belief that they can have what they want because the rules for others don't apply to them.
*There's a long history of men, in particular, of murdering intimate partners for daring to leave them (and taking the children). This is a danger that all WSers know, that the most dangerous point in a dysfunctional relationship with an angry man is when the woman tries to leave. We see that clearly in this case when Tabitha and Beth run for their lives (to the point where Tabitha is willing to run from her son, whom she loves).
An armchair shrink with a list of criteria from the DSM-5 could diagnose the Wagner family members as each having "anti-social personality disorder"--a disorder itself, when applied to individuals, that has both genetic and environmental components. We can look to those raised in organized crime families to see the influence of environment. In this case, the cult-like aspect of how this family functioned, along with the parents' anti-social personality disorder explains how these two things collide--how the need to control children in such an enmeshed, dysfunctional family collides with the individual disorders of the individuals. Jake seems to me to be almost a stereotypical example of someone who murders his domestic partner because "if I can't have you, no one can." And Angela--well, the article I'm linking points to women with ASPD as "more likely to...lie frequently, forge someone's signature, and harass, threaten or blackmail someone." And Billy? Look at this list of characteristics of men who have ASPD (I cut the references to reckless driving, etc.)
- do things that could easily hurt themselves or other...
- destroy others’ property
- start a fire on purpose
- make money illegally
- do anything that could lead to arrest
- hit someone hard enough to injure them
- hurt an animal on purpose.
Both Jake and George were raised to be like their father.
I'm not a psychologist, but it seems to me that we tie ourselves in knots trying to discern motives of people who are not like us in any way. The massacre they committed comes out of both being part of an anti-social crime family and from being themselves individuals who are anti-social and entitled to do whatever they want, regardless of consequences to others. And this is why ordinary families who live together and help each other are not "enmeshed" in this way. It's what separates the Rhodens (in spite of Chris and KR growing weed, etc.) from the Wagners. Chris wasn't a sociopath.
It's correct to say "custody" was at the root of this massacre but not the way we think of custody as "going to court" or fighting over who gets time with a child. It's about the Wagner
entitlement to custody,
entitlement to control others and
total disregard for laws or social norms. I would love to read a true crime book about this case, but more than that I would want a forensic psychologist to lay out this intergenerational abuse of women and children and the impact of family sociopathy. The biggest hurdle for the state is that none of us are equipped with the world experience to understand these freaks.
I found this article among others helpful because it looks at both men and women:
Antisocial Personality Disorder | Abnormal Psychology