(from the previous thread)
Rayemonde
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I have to say though, I'm still having a hard time believing that the mom had anything to do with Rainn's disappearance. Presumably if she did, she made up all that stuff about the diaper rash that needed IV antibiotics and the hallucinating from dehydration - because who would *intentionally* inflict that on their child??
But even if Rainn was placed in that field by a person who took her from the house, that person showed a blatant disregard for Rainn's well-being. Putting her in a field, where there are coyotes and probably ponds and ditches nearby and people are driving around on quad bikes and could have ran her over. Or she could have wandered onto the main road and been hit by a truck. Or someone might have found her and decided to abduct her for real - we already know that there are RSOs in the area. I find it hard to believe that someone close to Rainn would be *that* thoughtless.
I felt the same way and then it dawned on me; I know a mother who might cause harm to her children to get them back. As crazy as it seems, it can happen. The woman I know had her children placed in their aunt and uncles care (my close friends), while she was asked to get her life together. Her sister was not allowed contact with them either, but they had a very hard time keeping the mother and her sister within court ordered guidelines. I could ABSOLUTELY see this mother doing something strange (in a drug haze), to regain custody of her kids. In this person's case, she did the bare minimum to regain custody only to have the children removed again and the family found it would be in the children's best interest to adopt them to an unknown family and remove all parental rights from the mom and dad. It has been heartbreaking but in the end, hopefully those kiddos have a decent shot in life.
So while it may seem completely absurd to US for any mother to intentionally cause harm only to regain custody, I don't think it is really too far fetched. People like the one I mentioned above are strange, selfish, and do not think clearly. Luckily, they are also usually very transparent to social workers and LE.
I worked at an advocacy center, it absolutely does happen. The worst case I ever saw of this was a mother who harmed her daughter in such a way, that it would look like sexual abuse to be blamed on the father. The poor little girl was so terrified when she told a psychologist and police interviewer that it was mom. She had a full on panic attack.