Found Deceased OR - Joshua McCoy, 5, Autism, goes by "Josh" or "Joshie", may not respond, missing when mom woke up frm nap at 5:30pm, Stage Rd, Hauser, 10 Nov 2024

[Deleted member 296739]

This raises questions about the father and mother if grandmother wanted to adopt J. Why would you adopt if either parent were reliable? Strange
IMO

Perhaps she had better benefits or there was more stability in her home- I’m not sure- moo

 

[GRT]

This raises questions about the father and mother if grandmother wanted to adopt J. Why would you adopt if either parent were reliable? Strange
IMO

It makes me wonder if the biological mother mentioned that caring for the child was beyond what she felt she could do.

I understand that some people really find it challenging to care for special needs kids. It was probably difficult when there were two parents to care for J. But, with just one, maybe it was overly fatiguing, and the grandmother felt she could provide a more stable home.

So sad all the way around.

 

[GRT]

Have they released a cause of death yet?

 

[Flutterflies]

Have they released a cause of death yet?

Not yet.

 

[GRT]

Not yet.

Thank you!

From the missing poster -- it seems like today would have been his birthday. Nov. 16th.

Happy heavenly birthday, Joshua.

 

[Flutterflies]

Thank you!

From the missing poster -- it seems like today would have been his birthday. Nov. 16th.

Happy heavenly birthday, Joshua.

You’re welcome. Yes, he would have been six today. The community is doing a candlelight vigil tonight at 6 p.m.

A Jeep and motorcycle run is also scheduled for 5 p.m. Saturday at Coos Cycle, in honor of Josh's love for Jeeps, organizers said.

 

[Gemmie]

This raises questions about the father and mother if grandmother wanted to adopt J. Why would you adopt if either parent were reliable? Strange
IMO

I had the same thought and was going to ask this group if it's normal for a grandmother to want to adopt a child (I'm childless), if there were no issues at the home, and the mother was doing a good job of raising the child. It's just such an odd statement IMO.

 

[Deleted member 296739]

I had the same thought and was going to ask this group if it's normal for a grandmother to want to adopt a child (I'm childless), if there were no issues at the home, and the mother was doing a good job of raising the child. It's just such an odd statement IMO.

Kinship adoption and family adoption sometimes makes sense if a grandparent or other relative are the primary caregiver and or guardian for a variety of situations- trouble in the home life is often a factor- in my experience but we just don’t know the details or context of this family dynamic- it could be a big deal and a sign of something or a grieving grandmother and wishing that he lived closer - it is odd under normal circumstances I would say for a grandparent to adopt a grandchild- most cases I know personally have involved a death, or terminal illness or single parents- which do not apply for this case-

This has to be such a profoundly sad day for everyone who loved him

moo

 

[Rixey]

This raises questions about the father and mother if grandmother wanted to adopt J. Why would you adopt if either parent were reliable? Strange
IMO

I have no more information than anyone else regarding the parenting abilities of either parent or the relationships with other family members, however I would not jump to conclusions about the mother based on that statement. Having followed the Veronica Butler murder case makes it clear that not every grandmother has a heart of gold and their motives can be anything but honorable.

 

[Deleted member 296739]

I have no more information than anyone else regarding the parenting abilities of either parent or the relationships with other family members, however I would not jump to conclusions about the mother based on that statement. Having followed the Veronica Butler murder case makes it clear that not every grandmother has a heart of gold and their motives can be anything but honorable.

Agreed- We really just have no clue on context or family dynamics or what actually happened post breakup or COD MOD- so many unknowns -

right now mom and dad and relatives are victims grieving on his 6th birthday-

 

[taylorss]

So sad

 

[Gemmie]

As you all know, Joshie's candlelight vigil starts in a few hours from now at 6pm PST on 11/16, his 6th birthday. The vigil will be held at North Bay Elementary School in North Bend, in the field behind the playground. Here's a pic of Joshie that I haven't seen before:

https://kobi5.com/news/local-news/candlelight-vigil-for-boy-found-deceased-in-coos-county-256529/

 

[Shamrock1]

This raises questions about the father and mother if grandmother wanted to adopt J. Why would you adopt if either parent were reliable? Strange
IMO

Temporary guardianship, maybe. That’s not uncommon to use when both parents are ill, deployed, etc. But not actual adoption. And it raises the issue of when the grandmother wanted to adopt. When the mother was pregnant? When her son was the primary caregiver? When the parents broke up?

 

[Gemmie]

Looks like the family had planned on traveling to North Bend to attend the vigil tonight, but father and grandmother didn't feel well enough to travel.

https://kobi5.com/news/local-news/uncle-of-deceased-5-year-old-thankful-for-coos-county-community-256834/

 

[Gemmie]

They're talking about the vigil set to happen in ~20 minutes, but I wanted to share the video that looks like the search party from a few days ago.

 

[caradana]

Handsome little guy! My faith grants the solace that he is in a much better place. I feel like we’re in a moment of societal ugly truth, though, and here I go: MOO: this was a family that was on the brink resource- and parenting-capability wise even before severe autism hit.

We can go all free rights and liberties with this and say that it’s the family’s job to solve it, maybe they will rise up to meet the need, etc. … but I am a mom of 3 with resources and my daughters are all thankfully developmentally at par, and I feel safe to confess that MOO: my biggest fear in life as each of them were born was to encounter severe autism in a child. That is a crushing responsibility for decades in the future, and I feel massive respect for families who are dealt this hand and can meet it, they are saints, and the best among them find the good in it. But I get where a lot of people can’t, and they fail. This is not an excuse. When they fail criminally, they should be punished for it, and are. (For what it’s worth, I think a prison sentence is easier). But I am aware that it’s 2024, that the incidence of this is rising, and that we are going to see more and more of this as our nation grows.

 

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[Gemmie]

Joshie's vigil last night.

Candlelight vigil for Joshua McCoy

A candlelight vigil was held outside the Douglas County Courthouse on Saturday night when over a dozen people showed up in solidarity of Joshua McCoy. Joshua, a five-year-old boy, was

www.nrtoday.com

 

[MollyHarps]

The Fact the police haven’t come out and said ‘no suspicious circumstances’ concerns me greatly.

I now have a bad feeling about this case.

 

[Gemmie]

The Fact the police haven’t come out and said ‘no suspicious circumstances’ concerns me greatly.

I now have a bad feeling about this case.

Unfortunately I've had it from the get go after the 4.5 hour nap that some can (understandably) relate to.