~ curious the distance the JW church is now trying to take concerning this attender of their church ("irregular attender"); .
The man that gave the statement (which included the term "irregular attender" is Jim Vaughn. Fri night/ Sat he was praised here by many posters for being "good", "very calm and well-spoken" "a gentleman", "dignified". By stating that JH was "irregular attender" isn't it possible that he was merely stating factual information regarding the recent status JH has taken in the congregation? I'm sure the public is curious as to where JH stood in the congregation. Should Jim have lied and said JH was a regular attender if he wasn't? If his aim was to "put distance" he could have done so more effectively by bashing JH publicly.
Someone who was considered "not a regular attender" would be termed "inactive" or "weak" in this faith...and a step away from being considered apostate (if he admitted not believing anymore, or not following the governing body of JW). Things do not necessarily go well for those apostate in this belief system.
I'd much prefer to not have to type these responses, but things are sometimes innocently said by non-members of a group that are not altogether accurate. So as one of JWs all my life (48 yrs.. gulp!) I feel I must clarify to prevent misinformation from spreading. To say that an "inactive" one is "a step away" from "apostate" is like saying the stock boy at Walmart is a step away from being the CEO. Among all the hundreds of JW's I've known there have been several who have become inactive, NOT ONE is considered "Apostate" (by definition: renunciation
and [italics wiki's] criticism of, or opposition to, a person's former religion). Apostates publically speak out against their formal religion in an attempt to get others to fall away. JH was NOT this or else the Heichels would not be watering their plants or helping with a motorcycle. We don't associate with apostates. To put this in perspective: if you had a certain belief (political, religious, moral, etc) would you seek to associate with someone who vehemently and bitterly ripped at this belief in an effort to change your belief whenever you are together? I don't think anyone would want to put themselves in that position.
~ curious that though only 'acquaintances' the wives were facebook friends, and they were close enough neighbors to water plants, etc., for the Holts when they went on vacation; we only have our longtime closest neighbor friend do watering and mail collection for us when we go on trips--certainly not anyone who we'd categorize as only an 'acquaintance' has access to our house key
Speaking personally, I've accepted facebook friend requests from persons who are even less than acquaintances. Often, I've done so just to not offend them, no closeness there at all. I've since gotten brave enough to "just say no" tho! LOL I've learned that "facebook friend" and "friend" can hold two very different definitions.
Re: the plant watering. Notice that the Holts asked the Heichels. The Holts (or maybe the wife only arranged the plant watering) obviously felt the Heichels were trustworthy. Either Whitney had no plants or pets or they got someone else to tend to them when they were away. Otherwise, I'm sure it would have been stated, "We watered each other's plants when we went on vacation".
Clint said in the interview, "I helped him with his (JH) motorcycle, you know, just to be friendly." That doesn't sound like a relationship where they are doing things together a lot. If they were watching Sunday football games together and having bar b ques, why would Clint have use helping him with his motorcycle "to be friendly"? Doesn't make sense.
One neighbor was watching the goings on in the complex enough to tell the press that JH always kept his motorcycle on every time he entered his home after parking his bike yet with several neighbors interviewed they all said they
never saw the Holts and Heichels together.
Here's my take, for what it's worth... We all have oddballs in our secular or social circles. Persons that function in life but are just a little off. You can't quite put your finger on it so rather than be overtly rude, you just put on a friendly face, act "neighborly" but keep your distance. I think that JH was getting into things that didn't fit the standards of JW's-




, drugs, drunkeness. We know he was a peeper. He had distanced himself from the congregation by becoming an irregular attendee. Something was brewing but maybe was just at the rumor stage. I think Clint and Whitney chose to keep their distance. The Heichels were very social and had a lot of friends they did stuff with (see Whitney's fb pix) but did Clint say about the Holts, "I just don't understand it. They were our FRIENDS. We shared so many good times. We were so close! Why? How could he do this?" ? No he boiled their relationship down to the "neighborly" actions of watering plants and helping start a motorcycle. Whoopie. Fun stuff! No, I don't think they were close at all.