cheko1 said:I am certain his wife & his family feel simply horrible about what has happened. They are not to blame......but I'd not want them at the funeral. I'd want people who loved my child to attend. My anger wouldn't be at the family. It would be at the purp who did this to my child.
My brother died a horrid death at 12 yrs old. A friend of his, deliberately threw a match on him after gasoline spilled on him. He had over 98% of his body burnt. He lived 27 days, he died a horrible death. I am not consumed in pity nor hate. Nor do I think daily of his death or what happened to him. Since his friend was 14 my folks never pressed charges. I rarelly allow mysellf to think of it. The guy (now 51) has lived with himself daily. I don't know or care what happened to him. He would never be a friend of mine! Nor would he be welcome in my home. I'd never give him a chance to harm my family again.
Gosh, that's awful. Your poor parents, what a sad thing to have happen to your brother. Wonder what the other boy was thinking in that instant the threw the match, or was he thinking? I don't know if I could be as gracious as your family and not file charges.
There's a older guy near here who walks the street and is known as being "crazy". When he and his family were younger, their house caught on fire and one of his sons came running out with his clothes on fire. The man picked up an old milk jug of clear liquid thinking it was water and doused him with it. Turns out it was kerosene that had been in the jug so long it had lost it's color

