I frankly doubt if you can be a "hands on parent" when you are 2000 miles away.
that probably would have been tough 25 years ago, but today with cell phones (cheap long distance) and email (and now texts and Facebook and Skype) it is much easier to stay in emotional and psychological contact. Especially for grown children, physical proximity is not as imperative as being only a phone call away.
Ah, let's be clear; RFG did
not "fake his death." If he had wished to, he could have left a suicide note and walked away.
I said faking his death or disappearing. Frankly, this is to me a distinction without a difference, given that he is now legally dead.
Well, first of all, RFG was a lawyer, and a good one. He looking at the world for a third of century legalistically, just by the nature of what he did. So now we have some factors.
1. RFG has a daughter, but she is out of the area and an independent adult. He does not have to look out for her.
2. RFG, legalistically, sees that, if he retires and gets hit by a bus in 2006, his daughter will not inherit as much. If he dies in 2005, she will get more.
3. RFG, knows that his daughter will, eventually, have to testify that she has not heard from him. Legalistically, he knows that if he tells her, she either can't declare him dead or commits perjury. The simplest solution is not telling her.
I know a lot of lawyers and none of them who would abandon their adult kids for these "legalistic" reasons. RG might or might not have been aware of the estate implications of his pension; I couldn't tell you for sure what mine are and I am nearing retirement. The estate part doesn't matter because I will need the money to live on. Second, it is not a "legalistic" point to say that because a child is an adult, it is fine to abandon her and put her through horrible pain and suffering but she will get a few extra bucks sooner than if he retired. What kind of person thinks like this?
RFG obviously does not have to be there physically for LG; he hasn't been there in her day to day life for years. His absence does not change that.
He can contribute greater assets to her, by
not being there. He knows that in 2006, by not being there, LG will not get the greater assets.
At what expense to her emotional and psychological well-being? What kind of father would think this way, as if his absence would not matter. My father died 20 years ago, and I still miss him. Every day. I know kids who long for their drug-addicted fathers who abandoned them at birth to show up for just one birthday. This reasoning only works if RG was entirely consumed by money and its importance, which of course can't be true because he walked away from everything he had in the bank and his pension. So this notion is too much of a contradiction to stand, in my view.
If he did walk away, he knows that by not telling LG, he protects her from committing perjury.
We know that 1 and 2 are there; those are the effects, but don't know the intent. On 3, I can very easily see any moderately good father saying, "I don't want my daughter convicted of a felony and ending up in a cell with Large Marge."
A man who would abandon his child and his other family members cannot be considered a 'moderately good father." He would be at best a horrifically failed father and perhaps a soul-sucking narcissist. And why would he care if she committed perjury? He was walking away from her, from walking her down the aisle at her wedding, from her career successes, from her children, from any health problems she would have in the future. And it isn't perjury unless she is under oath in court. She can lie like a rug to LE and for that matter, lie in court and unless he turns up, how would anyone know?
Well, because, this way, she'd get more.

One published account was that RFG pension was worth more than $300 K. Had he died, or vanished, after retirement, it would have been less.
That's a startling statement, assuming as it does that all that would matter to RG is money and he assumed that all that would matter to his daughter would be money.
The emotional/moral argument really is flimsy.