Peterson's Ex-Mistress Frey to Wed

[PrayersForMaura]

I don't think Amber is too bright. Bad choices with men, selling herself out with the help of Gloria. Can't form a sentence when being interviewed. Goes thru men like water. Oh ya, I thought she was a born again christian. Don't they frown on premarital sex?????????????????? :waitasec:

Most catholism-based religions frown upon pre-martial hanky panky.
Not all of us heed those rules though.

I think Amber is just shy. She can form sentences when interviewed. In fact, she spoke well the many times I've seen/heard her.

 

[PrayersForMaura]

I haven't read all the thread, do we know for sure she is pregnant? Golly!!! I hope not. Is there a link?

I have two friends who became unwed mom, both of them will not date or marry until the kids are 18. Concentrating on raising their child.
Bringing in different men into the kids lives a big no no. Especially after Scott the murderer.

I haven't read anywhere but on this forum that she's even withchild, so I doubt seriously that she's pregnant.
If I see a story about it, i may believe it.
The tabloids or even people magazine would've printed something about it if she was, surely.

 

[PrayersForMaura]

And the bad thing is by doing this in front of her children (and creating more children), and she's teaching these kids that this is the norm...and it's not. What kind of a message is she sending to that daughter (and the son)?

Once she started bringing children into the world, things changed, at least IMO.

And she is so lucky she didn't get pregnant with Scott's baby...and I have no doubt that she would have...eventually. She said she had unprotected sex with him...and that's nuts. She's lucky she's alive. You'd think she would have learned a great deal from that relationship.

Most kids that are her children's age don't even think twice about this stuff. Most don't even know where babies come from.

Shoot, what kind of message is being sent to children from what is seen in movies, on tv and on the news?
Surely you jest!

 

[PrayersForMaura]

What I cannot understand is why Amber has to have a child with every guy she thinks she is in a serious relationship with. This must be the way that some women think. Thank goodness she didn't get pregnant by Scott or she would have ended up in the bottom of the Bay also.

She has not had a child with every guy she's serious with.
i don't have a list of all the men who she dated.
Does anyone here?
I know she dated Scott and had no children with him. That's a start.

 

[PrayersForMaura]

I think she's a girl searching for something...it's just too bad all these little kids are caught up in this.

All these "TWO" little kids?
Two is not a lot. Not to me.
It's not like there are six kids,
LOL.
And no one knows for sure that she is even pregnant now. it's all rumor.

 

[PrayersForMaura]

She reminds me of a girl I knew in high school. Knocked up by every Jerk that said she was nice and promised her the world. They never delivered. So Amber needs to think for herself and not be so pathetic about counting on a man. She has kids that KNOW she lacks confidence. God, imagine her with Scott a few more months. EWWW

Hmmm, how do you know what her children think(who are under the age of 4, right?).
Psychic?

I think she is thinking for herself. She is doing what makes her happy and not what makes any of us happy. That's surely thinking for herself.

 

[Seeker]

I don't know that I believe Seeker's source.
What I read in the article:

"


LOS ANGELES (AP) - Amber Frey, the former mistress of Scott Peterson who became a key witness in his murder case, planned to marry her neighbor Wednesday, her attorney said.

Frey, 31, is marrying Robert Hernandez, a neighbor who works in law enforcement, said her lawyer, Gloria Allred, confirming a report on People magazine's Web site. Hernandez, who was not involved in the Peterson case, proposed after taking Frey and her two young children to Disneyland. The couple met in October 2005. "

Oh really, just what don't you believe about what I've written?

Let me know and I'll try to clarify it for you.

 

[Seeker]

All these "TWO" little kids?
Two is not a lot. Not to me.
It's not like there are six kids,
LOL.
And no one knows for sure that she is even pregnant now. it's all rumor.

Sorry, it is not rumor just because it isn't written about in a tabloid.

I know for sure she's pregnant and I'm fairly certain I could make a list of most of the guys she's "dated"...not that you'd recognize the names other than the last 4.

 

[PrayersForMaura]

Sorry, it is not rumor just because it isn't written about in a tabloid.

I know for sure she's pregnant and I'm fairly certain I could make a list of most of the guys she's "dated"...not that you'd recognize the names other than the last 4.

Yikes! Sorry, wasn't trying to suggest you were lying. I didn't know you knew her personally. I just know how people can hear a rumor and take it as truth.
I haven't seen pictures of her or anything like that, just heard it here that she was pregnant. Always like to double check my sources, it's the journalist in me, nothing personal.

Sorry!

 

[PrayersForMaura]

Oh really, just what don't you believe about what I've written?

Let me know and I'll try to clarify it for you.

I didn't believe that she was pregnant, that's all.
Nothing more. I thought you had heard it from someone. I must've misunderstood your previous posts.
My apologies.
Not trying to make this personal, I just haven't read anything about her being pregnant. I take what I read on message boards (rumors that I can't verify as fact) with a grain of salt, that's all.

 

[narlacat]

It's a forum, anyone can post. And I wasn't even responding to Narlacat about spending time with their kids... she chose to respond to a post I made to someone else and she chose to get defensive and take it personally.
I was merely asking a question about whaty constitutes neglecting a child.


Best to check the facts before jumping on someone's case.

Nopey nope Maura, I did not take anything personally, I was actually trying to defend someone else.
I thought what you said was unwarranted.
I am sorry if I misunderstood your post.
I get confused at times.

Me thinks someone who hasn't got kids should stop telling Amber Frey what to do with hers.

 

[PrayersForMaura]

Nopey nope Maura, I did not take anything personally, I was actually trying to defend someone else.
I thought what you said was unwarranted.
I am sorry if I misunderstood your post.

Me thinks someone who hasn't got kids should stop telling Amber Frey what to do with hers.

Well, since you're getting personal here....
Me thinks someone who isn't Amber should stop telling her what to do with her kids (or her life) just because they have kids of their own
They are not your kids to worry about! She's not worrying about yours, either.

If social services isn't involved and she hasn't been declared "unfit" as a mother, then I think everyone's time would best be spent on saving children who are in violent homes or homes where their parents neglect them.

additionally, if you didn't take it personally, I don't understand why you justified how much time you spend with your child? I wasn't suggesting that you do not spend time with your child, yet in the post you quoted from me, you commented that I was getting "mean" and more.

 

[Seeker]

I didn't believe that she was pregnant, that's all.
Nothing more. I thought you had heard it from someone. I must've misunderstood your previous posts.
My apologies.
Not trying to make this personal, I just haven't read anything about her being pregnant. I take what I read on message boards (rumors that I can't verify as fact) with a grain of salt, that's all.

No problem PFM, that's why I said I'd try to clarify it. I don't always write what I'm trying to say real well. I know what I want to say, just lack the ability to put it in writing so that it makes sense.

You questioned my source and I wanted to know why. An article saying they met in October doesn't mean that's when they actually got together. Know what I mean?

 

[narlacat]

Well, since you're getting personal here....
Me thinks someone who isn't Amber should stop telling her what to do with her kids (or her life) just because they have kids of their own
They are not your kids to worry about! She's not worrying about yours, either.

If social services isn't involved and she hasn't been declared "unfit" as a mother, then I think everyone's time would best be spent on saving children who are in violent homes or homes where their parents neglect them.

additionally, if you didn't take it personally, I don't understand why you justified how much time you spend with your child? I wasn't suggesting that you do not spend time with your child, yet in the post you quoted from me, you commented that I was getting "mean" and more.

What's the 'more' that I said?

If you re read this thread Maura, you will see that I'm not one of the ones here saying what Amber should and shouldn't do with her kids.

I added the bit about myself because what you said made me think, hmmm I wonder if anyone thinks that about me lol, I was just being paranoid I guess.

 

[luvbeaches]

Most kids that are her children's age don't even think twice about this stuff. Most don't even know where babies come from.

Shoot, what kind of message is being sent to children from what is seen in movies, on tv and on the news?
Surely you jest!

I don't "jest" at all. The kids should come first.

 

[PrayersForMaura]

No problem PFM, that's why I said I'd try to clarify it. I don't always write what I'm trying to say real well. I know what I want to say, just lack the ability to put it in writing so that it makes sense.

You questioned my source and I wanted to know why. An article saying they met in October doesn't mean that's when they actually got together. Know what I mean?

I get it. LOL
Sorry ... I understand now though!

I have to admit think it's kind of nice to have first hand knowledge. I am a curious person. If I lived by her or by any celebrity for that matter (I lived by a few, actually!), I'd be aware of what they were doing, too!
I remember when a certain all star athlete would come home after games at night... I'd notice quite often because I was out walking my dogs!
It's easy to get the scoop when you live that close.
If you find out more, please share if you don't mind.

I like Amber and I don't even know her.
While she has made some decisions I haven't made, I don't think that makes me better than her or makes her a bad person. I, for example, have dated a lot and lived with a few guys and never got pregnant. I never wanted to.
When I was younger and still the big "V" (til my mid 20s!!), I was very very quick to judge someone. I thought people who had abortions were the worst people. I also thought girls who slept around and had kids from multiple guys were terrible, poor excuses for women.
I tell ya, I was not nice when it came to judging people.
But then as I got older -- and I still consider myself conservative -- I just started softening up to people, realizing that not everyone is bad because they do things I do not approve of.

I think many of you might be mistaking me for someone who totally supports everything Amber does. I wouldn't have made the same decisions Amber did on many things; however, I don't think I should judge her because I've done many questionable things myself. It's hard to fault her when I myself could've avoided some of the things I've gotten myself into, or could've been in her position.

I just can't bring myself to judge her.

Anyway, I got off track.
I surely appreciate your inside info, Seeker.

 

[PrayersForMaura]

What's the 'more' that I said?

If you re read this thread Maura, you will see that I'm not one of the ones here saying what Amber should and shouldn't do with her kids.

I added the bit about myself because what you said made me think, hmmm I wonder if anyone thinks that about me lol, I was just being paranoid I guess.

:truce: I am really sorry if I am offending you. I wasn't intending too...
I wasn't thinking anyone here spends too much time online, I was kind of just being sarcastic about what constitutes spending more time with your kids or not ignoring them and stuff like that. But it wasn't directed at any one person.

And regarding the "more" that you said ... it wasn't meant to mean that you wrote a ton more, you just wrote more stuff in your post that I couldn't recall off the top of my head at the moment. I guess I should just stop typing today, lol. I am making a mess!!

I have a huge sunburn and I think the sun is affecting my brain because I can't explain myself very well today. :doh:

 

[luvbeaches]

All these "TWO" little kids?
Two is not a lot. Not to me.
It's not like there are six kids,
LOL.
And no one knows for sure that she is even pregnant now. it's all rumor.

I'm curious, do you have children? Would you think it's okay to have "sleepovers" with your "boyfriend" while your young children are in the next room?

Before you laugh too hard, Amber may have six kids (in the not-too distant future). She's sure got a good track record going.

I personally don't care if it's one or ten kids, it's not a good idea to do what she's doing. She's allowing these men, that she hardly knows, into her life, and her children. Sorry, but kids need stability, and I hardly think that a revolving-door of "who's your daddy" is a good game to play.

Date them, have sex with them, whatever, but keep them out of the kids' lives until they are serious contenders for a long-term relationship. Don't move them in after date #1...don't allow them to be alone with your child...until you at least know the guy.

The Daddy of The Week club isn't one that kids should be involved with. As an adult, you have to put your kids first. And if that means no sex, so be it. It's not like it's rocket science! lol Just say no more sex. Does sex and finding a partner mean more to her than her kids? It looks that way to me. She may love those kids, but if she was truly worried about their welfare, she wouldn't do this. And when those kids grow up...they'll think that's normal behavior in a relationship, and it's not, at least when you have kids in the mix. Or at least it shouldn't be.

I am not in any way condeming her for her behavior. She's an adult. She can sleep with men...or women, I don't care. She can move them in and move them out...whatever. I do not think any less of her as a person for living her life as she choooses. BUT, when you add children to the mix, it changes, and it changes big-time. She needs to protect those kids as much as she can. And, IMO, jumping from relationship-to-relationship is sending many mixed messages to these kids, not to mention putting them into situations they shouldn't be in (like with Scooter).

 

[PrayersForMaura]

I'm curious, do you have children? Would you think it's okay to have "sleepovers" with your "boyfriend" while your young children are in the next room?

Before you laugh too hard, Amber may have six kids (in the not-too distant future). She's sure got a good track record going.

I personally don't care if it's one or ten kids, it's not a good idea to do what she's doing. She's allowing these men, that she hardly knows, into her life, and her children. Sorry, but kids need stability, and I hardly think that a revolving-door of "who's your daddy" is a good game to play.

Date them, have sex with them, whatever, but keep them out of the kids' lives until they are serious contenders for a long-term relationship. Don't move them in after date #1...don't allow them to be alone with your child...until you at least know the guy.

The Daddy of The Week club isn't one that kids should be involved with. As an adult, you have to put your kids first. And if that means no sex, so be it. It's not like it's rocket science! lol Just say no more sex. Does sex and finding a partner mean more to her than her kids? It looks that way to me. She may love those kids, but if she was truly worried about their welfare, she wouldn't do this. And when those kids grow up...they'll think that's normal behavior in a relationship, and it's not, at least when you have kids in the mix. Or at least it shouldn't be.

I am not in any way condeming her for her behavior. She's an adult. She can sleep with men...or women, I don't care. She can move them in and move them out...whatever. I do not think any less of her as a person for living her life as she choooses. BUT, when you add children to the mix, it changes, and it changes big-time. She needs to protect those kids as much as she can. And, IMO, jumping from relationship-to-relationship is sending many mixed messages to these kids, not to mention putting them into situations they shouldn't be in (like with Scooter).

I do not have children, but I have nieces and nephews and friends with children. I know it's not the same thing at all, and I'm not suggesting anyone here with kids knows less than I do. I understand that as parents, your opinions change. But I also know that Amber has not been charged with any crime or with childn endangerment, so the way she is raising her kids or exposing them to men who won't be a long term part of her life is not necessarily "wrong". It what we as a culture have deemed as "immoral" or "unsafe". But there's no written way as to how a parent should conduct their personal lives with people of the opposite gender.
If I had a baby with my live in boyfriend, the baby would be in the spare room next to ours. My boyfriend is a part of my life, and would be a part of the baby's life, too. That's all I can say for sure.
I have my nieces and nephews spend the night and am in my room with my boyfriend while they are in the guest room.
Parents in general sleep in separate rooms from their children most of the time and who knows what they do behind closed doors.

I would raise my child the way I felt was best and not based on a text-book version of what is "right" or "wrong".
I don't have all the answers. I am not all-knowing.
I just know that Amber seems to be a good mom.
I can not judge her or fault her for how she spends her time with men because it apparently hasn't gotten her in trouble where her kids are concerned. They are safe and loved and she has custody. She is earning a living and is not on welfare. She is doing a pretty good job.

 

[luvbeaches]

I would raise my child the way I felt was best and not based on a text-book version of what is "right" or "wrong".

Well, I suppose we are just going to have to disagree. I have children, and there's not a snowballs chance in you know where, that I'd be doing what she's doing. But to each his own.

You know, just because it's not against the law, doesn't mean that it's in the best interest of the child. Maybe if you had a child of your own, you might understand what I am saying. And maybe if I didn't have children, I might understand what you are saying.

There are plenty of people who live together and have a child...that's not what I am talking about. It's the revolving door of men, coming and going. Pregnant by one guy, telling another it's his (with her daughter), then there's Scott...and trusting him with the girl and having him for "sleepovers." And having unprotected sex with him (and who knows who else), and then we move on to the next baby. And his father moves in (I believe) and then out. During this time, it's possible she has gotten pregnant with another child from another man.

When you have a child, you have to put that child first. If she keeps on this path...she might lose one or more of these kids. She may be a loving mom...she may love them dearly, but she has to quit having babies, and all these men in the lives of her children. I find it sickening that she would do this to the kids.

I have many friends that are divorced. I have many friends that are single moms. And of those, none of them expose their kids to the "dating" thing. They don't bring the guys around to meet the children until it is serious...why would they? The ones that are divorced...the kids have been through enough, that they don't need a "daddy of the week" around.

Personally, I don't think Amber shows a very good head when it comes to men. She gets pregnant, and then tries to get a relationship going around that. That's a real odd way of doing things. Jackie did that also.

As a parent, you have to put the kids first. Amber isn't doing that. She's putting her own wants and needs first. And that...is sad.