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He's dead. He died at age 70 in 2013. His obituary noted his distinguished and long career in law enforcement, which ended when he retired, not because he was forced out for being a rapist. His obituary also referenced his 2 Marine Corps combat tours in Vietnam during the 1960's. He was in fact accorded a full honors military burial.
If he had other victims they too were silent, or silenced after speaking up, because he was clearly never held accountable. I'm sorry too, but not for myself. I appreciate the support here, but it is genuinely undeserved. I should have reported him, no matter how difficult or impossible that seemed back then. Who knows how many other women were victimized by him because I stayed silent. The guilt I feel about that remains.
As I said earlier, I'm in awe of Ms. Comstand's courage. What she went through after she reported being raped was terrible, but any "alleged" rapes that occurred after she reported her rapist are not even in the very slightest little bit her responsibility. I'm willing to bet she's very aware of the difference that makes in being able to heal.
You did what you were capable of at the time. The important thing is that you are speaking out now. I too, never reported my uncle because of the shame I felt and I was right in that my family wouldn't believe me. If I didn't fear his daughter suing me, I'd publically name him. But I did get the satisfaction of stomping on his grave, and I donated the wedding money he gave me to a charity for rape victims.:grouphug: