I'm sad today. I had to smack Romi last night. The offense was definitely terrible, and it was a justified smacking, but still. It bothers me.
He has been progressively more and more growly over bones. Nothing else, just bones. He has begun to take bones into his bed, and will protect them come hell or high water. Last night, he and Gracie were growling over bones; all she does is bark at him, and she does growl back, but will back off.
But last night, he was in the bedroom, and I was coming in for something or other. And he growled at me...
I laid over the bed, and gave him the "mad dog" look. It's enough to get Gracie to back off, but not Romi. He growled right in my face. I growled back. He looked a bit surprised, but still...kept growling. So, because *I* am pack leader, I reached down to remove the bone (because darn it, that is what the pack leader would do...take the bone if they wanted it). He snarled. Not just growled, but actual lips back snarled at me.
So I popped him (very gently, mind you, very gently), told him "no", and took the bone away. He was so surprised, but still maintained his nasty posture. And growled (at least it wasn't snarling) again. And then got another bone and put it in front of himself, and growled at me again. So I reached down to get it, and he curled his lip at me. So I popped him again (very gently, please know that!!). This time, he moved all the way off his bed, broke eye contact, and gave "submissive posture".
He didn't growl at me or Gracie again last night, but he did keep one bone in his bed with him.
I'm at a bit of a loss. I don't want to stop giving bones, as I believe they are very important for both dental health as well as emotional health. But I won't tolerate a growly, snarly dog either. Grace did that over her food once, so I took it away (the only meal she's ever missed), and she never did it again.
So I'm thinking about curtailing the bones. I am thinking of restricting the collection of bones (meaning, removing all bones that are not the "current" one). And I'm thinking of limiting the place he can take the bone, meaning only in the living room.
I still feel terribly about popping him...it didn't hurt (I'd never hurt any animal unless they were hurting me...), but it was needed to let him know "I am the giver of the bone, and I am the taker of the bone" and I just can't tolerate a snarling dog. He needs to know that I'm the boss, even over the bones.
This is the ONLY time I've ever popped him. And he is only like this around bones. So I'm at a bit of a loss as to how to correct this, still allow him to have his own personality and satisfy his needs, but that does not include dominance over me.
Any one have any other ideas? I'm kinda lost. And I feel terrible, too. He's not holding it against me - came for cuddles last night, gave me lovies this morning - but I feel so sad.
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