I have a very good male friend who I will say, is pretty much a lothario/player whatever you want to call it but he's still a very good platonic friend of mine (and I might add very much like
Travis--charismatic, spiritual, a friend to everyone, giving, a great dad with really a way with women and ..anyway, he's like that and quite open about it). He was involved w/ a former friend of mine who I met through him a few years ago and they engaged in a "friends with benefits" situation for about two years. As I got to know her privately, I realized this was NOT the case for her and she was putting upwith it hoping he would finally "land" on her. He went along thinking this was a perfectly balanced and friendly situation for them both and continued dating other women some of whom she knew.
SHe finally had a meltdown of sorts and I was with her that weekend--she confessed to me she'd cyberstalked all the women he had dated, had access to all of his passwords, pin numbers, house security codes etc. He was still thinking she was copacetic with the entire arrangement but in reality she was basically psycho while smiling and acting normal in public. I was shocked when she said "there is not one drawer of pocket in an article of clothing in his house that I"ve not gone through. He has having her housesit for him when he went away on business!
When she confessed all of this to me I was in a serious situation--to repeat it to him, it was confidential, to tell anyone else...I just directed her to a freaking therapist which she did...the relationship ended. She gained access to his house while he was gone and chopped down all of his parsely of all things in his huge garden as he had once nicknamed her that. Psycho yes, dangerous no. But I realy couldn't blame him as she gained those passwords over his shoulder and in all kinds of sneaky subversive ways...when he'd had too much to drink, offering to get cash for him from an ATM, things like that. She just always seemed so "ok" on the outside. SOrry to ramble on but I couldn't help but think of her and how easy it all was to her and how he never knew any of ths was going on.
After the final breakup I just said to him "trust me on this--change all your passwords on everything" and he did. She got mad at me for staying friends with him (duh he was my friend first) and dumped me, thankfully. It was all so freaking awkward.
I'm sure Jodi employed similar sneaky maneuvers. I recently watched the early interview tapes w/ her parents and so much about her paranoia about THEM snooping onher...100% projection. I'm sure her stalking cyber and otherwise is far past what any of us know.
(sorry so long)