Today marks my first full day stuck using only Tapatalk.. I have no idea how you guys tolerate it.. also, apparently it leads to pent up verbosity, so I apologize in advance. What today revealed was just.. disgusting. I guess most of us knew this would be the outcome in some shape or form at some point, but actually hearing it, and seeing the photos of the parties responsible standing that close to Terry? One of the more appalling aspects is the fact that the IE occurred in such close proximity to the murder. How you could be intimate with somebody knowing you're about to go take somebody's life, regardless of mismatched enthusiasm or elements of coercion? And doing it again afterwards? Boasting about doing it on Facebook? It's either straight up sexual sadism or TM using sex as a tool of terrorization and power, much like a rapist. When they say "rape isn't about sex" I now firmly believe they're accounting for defective psyches like that of TM's.
Also, I don't have a link, but it was on the dis boards post in which TM floored all her admirers into breathless awe and wonder with her gritty and poignant depictions of a lascivious rock star past (aka, IMO!, "hi um can I get a picture with you? one of my concert photos was in a hotel brochure!").. After a relatively recent post-children photo with some lead singer she posted another photo of said singer with his young, blonde wife and their own child, captioned (paraphrased): "[So and so]'s wife. She's a playboy model.
Might as well include her I guess."
Regardless of context, that struck me as dripping with baseless vitriol. I'm sure TM's the type to throw around misogynistic slurs, since we saw her do it in that early rant about Heather. How can someone so allegedly open and unorthodox in their own sexuality be so condemning? IMO her fear of the "promiscuous temptress," and the need to be selected over her, has been eating Tammy up on the inside since day one.
Another eerie parallel to my disturbing and controlling and hypocritically philandering college roommate and her boyfriend who wasn't allowed to talk to other girls yet on FB was "best boyfriend ever!" due to bouquets he had to buy her as apology for god knows what. He was strictly forbidden from looking at




and she could burst into tears at the thought of him doing it. She loved humiliating him, threatening him, belittling him. They had a "threesome" in which he and a girl from the internet took turns doing things to her, but weren't allowed to undress or look at, much less touch, each other. Sorry if I keep bringing this up, it's just severely unsettling how many similarities I see, and I don't know what to call these psychological patterns that manifest in people's relationships but it's absolutely terrifying.. and in Tammy's case, took the most tragic turn possible. From what I observed of said roommate, the rage seemed justified even if there was no proof of
conversation having occurred. It was targeted at the lustful thoughts she assumed he was having. As others have said about HE and SM, it may have been the mere potential for romantic feelings that triggered all this, and not even the physicality. I don't think any action of Heather's contributed to this in any way, despite what comments on certain articles are suggesting. Knowing what we know now I think a similar fate could've been sealed for her the day Tammy saw her gazing absentmindedly in her husband's direction. Nothing anyone said to her would have mattered provided her own fantasy was set in stone, and I think that's been true of most things, and most relationships, for most of her life. MOO.