GUILTY SC - Sherryle Terry, 35, pregnant, murdered, Lamar, 26 Oct 2008

[rosepetal1065]

I totally agree it's the lack of morals. It has NOTHING to do with a parent that works or stays home.

The question is: will we ever get back to a more respectful society??

This is JMO, but I fear that we won't.
Every week we learn about crime commited by young people and they're shocking crimes.
Not just stealing a bike or a car (these are bad too) but crazy stuff like, kids setting the homeless on fire, shooting each other and killing their parents/family is unreal but it's in the news daily.

 

[SuziQ]

Alot of background info at the below link:

http://www.thestate.com/breaking/story/570463.html

Taveio Boston loved his mother. He just didn’t want anyone else to.
Fourteen-year-old Taveio had lived with his mother, Sherryle Terry, but had trouble adjusting to his new home life once his mother remarried about three years ago, several family members said Tuesday.
His grades plummeted. He got into fights at school. He took his mother’s car, according to family members.

The car was the last straw, and Terry sent him to live with his father in Darlington, family members said. He visited his mother on weekends.
When Terry announced she was pregnant, Taveio didn’t like that either. He saw the child as competition for his mother’s affections, family members said.
(more at link)

 

[OrdinaryLife]

I do not believe this is about whether you are a stay at home parent or one who works outside the home. This is about a 14 year old child who made the decision to shoot his mother and sister. Period.

There is more to this young teen than we know as SuziQ has pointed out. No need to debate "blame" when it all simply comes down to this young man making his choice to do as he did. He knows right from wrong. It just may contradict what the normal "right and wrong" is in normal life. I think he has his own definition.

IMO

 

[passionflower]

So many people including kids way out of control..........world is going CRAZY!

 

[oceanblueeyes]

Alot of background info at the below link:

http://www.thestate.com/breaking/story/570463.html

Taveio Boston loved his mother. He just didn’t want anyone else to.
Fourteen-year-old Taveio had lived with his mother, Sherryle Terry, but had trouble adjusting to his new home life once his mother remarried about three years ago, several family members said Tuesday.
His grades plummeted. He got into fights at school. He took his mother’s car, according to family members.

The car was the last straw, and Terry sent him to live with his father in Darlington, family members said. He visited his mother on weekends.
When Terry announced she was pregnant, Taveio didn’t like that either. He saw the child as competition for his mother’s affections, family members said.
(more at link)

My goodness. This just shows how some children can be so self centered. He expected his mom to have no life other than with him.

So sad for this poor mom..... who had every right to be both wife and mother.

imoo

 

[Bobbisangel]

It must have been just him and mom from the time he was born or very small. Yes, kids get used to it being just them and the parent when the parent is divorced or has never been married. Some adjust to a stepdad if the couple include the child in things that they do...places they go. If the man takes time to get to know the child, etc. Some don't adjust no matter how hard the man trys to be their friend. I can just imagine what this boy thought when he found out his mom was going to have a baby. He probably thought that he would be shoved all the way out of her life and the baby would take his place. This isn't uncommon either. But most kids don't go to the extreme of killing their mom. How sad for everyone that this happened. My heart goes out to the husband. He lost his wife and his child. I wonder if this boy had any counseling?

I wonder what the outcome will be for this boy?

 

[RebeccaAdrianne]

my point is children are less connected/bonded to their parents and society. parents hand em a gameboy, plop em in front of the tv and allow hours on end playing video games when they are home. basically daycares aka strangers and electronics aka free babysitters are raising the kids

imo true parenting is a lost art.

Let me guess, you must be a stay at home mom? Or former stay at home mom. Daycare, 10 hours a day. What choice do most families have anymore? It takes many people 2 incomes to even pay the mortgage and support children and what the kids want. I guess I must be selfish because I have to earn a living to give my children what they want and to make life comfortable.

 

[Garnan]

Our vet clinic has a client who just adopted twin Ethiopian boys and they are SO WELL behaved. I commented to someone else "We sure don't raise them like that here in the US" Sat quietly on a bench while Mom checked in and always replied "Yes Mother" and waited for appropriate pauses in conversation to ask any questions in the room. And SO EAGER for knowledge. Delightful kids.

No offense, but they sound like little robots. My son goes to school with a girl who is like that. Incredibly polite. She calls me Mrs. Garnan, ma'am. My name is three words. She starts or finishes every sentence directed at me with those three words.

She is terribly abused. It's a defense mechanism and has helped her survive her mother all these years. I hope she makes it to college.

 

[oceanblueeyes]

No offense, but they sound like little robots. My son goes to school with a girl who is like that. Incredibly polite. She calls me Mrs. Garnan, ma'am. My name is three words. She starts or finishes every sentence directed at me with those three words.

She is terribly abused. It's a defense mechanism and has helped her survive her mother all these years. I hope she makes it to college.

They sound refreshing to me. Most kids today imo are uncontrollable spoiled brats. They scream, they cry at the least little thing...they interrupt continuously BUT thankfully I do see some that have very good manners and are respectful. They don't have to scream to get their point across and they are very engaging and friendly with everyone they meet. Frankly I wish I saw more of them. I have had to leave a restaurant before after paying good money just because I wasn't going to put up with someone else's unruly kid screaming lile a banshee.

Imo it shows that the parents have taught them to show respect by giving respect to their children. When I see so many of these parents cussing up a blue streak at their kids.........I just cringed and then later on they will wonder where they got their trash mouths and back talk from.

imo

 

[OrdinaryLife]

Let me guess, you must be a stay at home mom? Or former stay at home mom. Daycare, 10 hours a day. What choice do most families have anymore? It takes many people 2 incomes to even pay the mortgage and support children and what the kids want. I guess I must be selfish because I have to earn a living to give my children what they want and to make life comfortable.

I disagree with this post, no insult intended. I was a stay at home parent and it was not easy. It is unfortunate that there are many who judge SAHM as well as working parents who are judged by SAHM. It's seems to be an equal opportunity of blame instead of understanding that we *all* choose to do the best that we can for our families.

Look at the situations for what they are, not as a "whole". This young teen chose to do what he did. He knows right from wrong, but obviously had some huge issues. I do not doubt there were signs, but may have been ignored due to circumstances of change, age, or those who knew him, rationalizing. No one wants to believe the worst of anyone especially a young man going through early teen years and more new stuff to deal with.

imvho...

 

[tippytoes]

I think it doesn't help matters much when so many parents now are incredibly selfish. So many have forgotten to put their children first. Too many moms think it's no big deal to drop an infant at the age of 6 weeks off at daycare for 10 hours a day and never look back. Too many families don't even eat dinner together unless chowing down Mc Donalds in the minivan on the way somewhere.

all IMO

I disagree with this post, no insult intended. I was a stay at home parent and it was not easy. It is unfortunate that there are many who judge SAHM as well as working parents who are judged by SAHM. It's seems to be an equal opportunity of blame instead of understanding that we *all* choose to do the best that we can for our families.

Look at the situations for what they are, not as a "whole". This young teen chose to do what he did. He knows right from wrong, but obviously had some huge issues. I do not doubt there were signs, but may have been ignored due to circumstances of change, age, or those who knew him, rationalizing. No one wants to believe the worst of anyone especially a young man going through early teen years and more new stuff to deal with.

imvho...

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Hey, OL. I have no horse in this race as I have no children, but as true with all of us, I *am* someone's child.

I know RebeccaAdrienne was responding directly to the first quote, which made it seem like busy moms were somehow inadequate.

I have yet to see a justified killing based on daycare and fast food so I also see the unfairness and the reaction.

Today, so many families NEED to work two jobs (sometimes more!) to support the children....not just the extras, but basic food, shelter, and clothing. I, personally, don't fault a parent for working. It's certainly not grounds for an offspring to gun them down and blame detachment and video games.

(My older sister, BTW, is a stay-at-home-mom to three boys under the age of 6. THAT is a fulltime job and then some)

I think most here look at it as a "whole." Even SAHMs feed their kids in minivans and own video games. I will not blame parenting for this kind of murder.

If someone says the parent was abusive, that's a different story, but feeding a kid from McDonald's? Then, I think, we would almost all grow up to be killers and that's just not the case. (I grew up in the 70s, SAHM, ATARI and yes, take out.) You are right to shift the focus back to the accused and not the victim.

 

[OkieGranny]

From September 2011:

http://www.scnow.com/news/local/article_45aafff4-676e-556a-bd49-5f976a853485.html

Taveio Rauolbilla Boston, 17, was charged as an adult with two counts of murder: one for the death of his mother, Sherryle Evonne Terry, and the other for the death of her unborn daughter. Boston also was charged with assault and battery with intent to kill for shooting his then-12-year-old sister... who survived...

After pleading guilty to the charges in Chesterfield County on Wednesday... Burch sentenced Boston to 36 years in prison for each murder charge and 20 years for the assault charge. The sentences will run concurrently.