Isn't the only time that physical sex was actually mentioned in any kind of documentation (with confirmation from him) the time with the tub and the flower petals? It was mostly just phone sex? And she cobbled together the sex tape so that separate fantasies would look like just one example of a really big deal? After all, a chaperone was required on the trip to the Grand Canyon: in that world, there was no hint that TA and JA are actually sexual.
Jodi did like her posed photo ops and draping herself over TA, but he's pulled away from her in those photos. In the photo in the waterfall at Grand Canyon, she practically has her hand around his neck. This might not seem significant, but there are photos earlier in the day of her "pretend" pushing him over a cliff.
There are a couple of situations that give me pause about the extent to which they consummated sex. One was the photo of her in a bathrobe outside a hotel bedroom. With him (I forget)? We have no reliable way to interpret this photo, however. Her room? His room? The room of the person taking the photo? The second was they do seem to agree that KY was involved in their relationship.
By the way, is TA even in the erased photos of JA? .... She staged them.
I'm thinking the "sex photos" (the ones that were erased) were taken when she surprised TA masturbating (no kiddie porn involved). She's the kind of person that would hate for a "boyfriend" to satisfy any kind of sexual need without her being involved, she's that much of a narcissist. This wasn't just about TA looking for someone else to be a life partner, but his ability to find pleasure in ways that excluded her. TA didn't need her in his relationship with himself, and he had made that quite clear. Perhaps part of the "you are the worst thing" accusation was that she turned some of his self-pleasuring into evidence of sex with her and was blackmailing him with it.
PS I realize masturbation probably doesn't go along with the rules of chastity, either, but I would guess it has fewer repercussions than full-out, straight, partner sex.
What she definitely lied about was how early they were intimate in any way. Think about the entrapment tape she did, and what was NOT on it. She wanted him recorded as admitting they had full intercourse, that they got kinky, that he masturbated, every single "incriminating" episode that had happened.
What wasn't there, but sure as heck would have been had it happened, was any "intimacy" whatsoever on the day she was baptized.
The earliest time they got physical she brings up is about the time they grinded in that Anna whatever hotel. Pretty tame stuff.
I don't think she ever respected his beliefs about anything, but obviously knew he was looking for Mormon wife material, which is why she put on the rediculous show of walking around reading the Bible, etc.
The seduce in earnest didn't begin until she slapped aside his vehement objections and moved into his backyard, and I agree that even then, for the first few months, there was precious little physical contact because he was unhappy she was there and because he was pursuing Lisa in earnest.
Which is why she went psycho, including the tire slashing, and the ever bolder invasions of his privacy. Reading his texts from late January and in Feb, plus what I remember from everything else, he became increasingly vulnerable to her because she was succeeding in blowing up his relationships, and because he was under tremendous stress financially.
During that time he is definitely reaching out for frisky romps---- but not with her, at least not by text. I can't imagine that she DIDN'T read his texts, regularly, while he was asleep or in the bathroom or when he left his phone unattended for 5 minutes.
IMO she knew he was more vulnerable, not feeling good about himself, not interested in her, and wide open to being dragged into sex. Her initiative, but for part of February and in March 2008 I think she snagged him less often than she suggests, but not infrequently either. JMO.
