SIDEBAR #20- Arias/Alexander forum

[ElleElle]

argh i need something from target and they don't ship here can't find the things anywhere else either

Can you get someone to ship it for you from the US?

 

[Kensie]

argh i need something from target and they don't ship here can't find the things anywhere else either

Did you try Amazon - that is my favorite place for almost everything?
Also, Zappos has more than shoes.

How is your ankle doing these days???

 

[TotallyObsessed]

Hi everybody! Haven't posted in ages, but today while reading headlines this came up and I IMMEDIATELY HAD TO COME HERE TO POST. LOL! Take that Jodi

http://www.foxnews.com/us/2013/10/0...ith-wooden-spoon-not-abuse/?intcmp=latestnews


SAN JOSE, Calif. – A state appeals court on Tuesday tossed out child abuse findings against a frustrated Northern California mother who spanked her 12-year-old daughter hard enough with a wooden spoon to cause bruising.

The 6th District Court of Appeal in San Jose reversed the child abuse determination made by the Santa Clara County Department of Social Services. Social workers waned to report Vernica Gonzalez to the state Department of Justice's child abuse database with a "substantiated" abuse determination. That determination was upheld by a trial court judge.

The appeals court said the spanking came close to abuse, but that social workers and the lower court judge failed to consider the family's entire circumstances.

Gonzalez and her husband testified that other forms of punishment such as groundings and taking away her phone had failed to persuade their 12-year-old daughter to do her schoolwork and avoid gang culture. The parents said that other family members had testified that spankings in the household were a rarity.

The appeals court said the mother's growing frustration with her daughter's behavior and her intention not to inflict harm in the April 2010 spanking weighed heavily in its ruling.

"Nothing in the record suggests the mother should have known she was inflicting bruises," Justice Conrad Rushing wrote for the unanimous three-judge panel. Rushing continued that "the spanking was entirely the product of a genuine and deliberate disciplinary purpose, i.e., to arrest troubling behavior patterns exhibited by the daughter."

The court ordered the child abuse report to be withdrawn or Gonzalez given another hearing in which the San Jose family's entire circumstances are considered and the spanking put into context with the parents' growing frustration with a recalcitrant daughter.

"We cannot say that the use of a wooden spoon to administer a spanking necessarily exceeds the bounds of reasonable parental discipline," Rushing concluded.

 

[gcharlie]

The government shutdown includes IRS offices, which are now closed.

The $hit has hit the fan with my mother's estate and as an absolute last measure I want to talk to the IRS to make sure that we don't complicate matters further.

Extended tax returns are due next Tuesday. All deadlines still remain in place while the office is closed.

Words of advice to those who own IRAs as part of their estate and to those who may come into an inheritance that includes IRAs as part of the estate: be very, very, very careful. This is a very complex area in terms of naming beneficiaries and what might happen if no beneficiaries are named. While there are ways for beneficiaries to elect different options for the distribution and taxation of IRA funds, the rules are very specific and must be followed to the letter of the law. One unintended step can have drastic tax consequence and the IRS does not have the authority to waive taxes because Congress wrote the tax laws.

So please be sure to take as much time as you need to ask all of the questions and get all of the answers that you need before you make any decisions or take any action. Don't rely on just one source. Ask the trust or estate administrator for full disclosure of the exact intended IRA transactions and their taxability before the exercise any action.

I am learning from the unfortunate mistake made by another. It will take years to unwind and cost a fortune to get everything straightened out.

 

[josie1986]

Did you try Amazon - that is my favorite place for almost everything?
Also, Zappos has more than shoes.

How is your ankle doing these days???

i did see it on amazon but they wanted $71 plus shipping per item and i need 2...where as they are only $29.99 each in target.

i still have my trusty boot,i am on week 9 i think. off to the hospital the coming monday,getting a bit anxious though. scared of getting it off because my balance is so off i can't walk without my crutches and i feel dizzy and sick even when i do :sigh:

 

[Kensie]

Josie, send me the link of the item that you want at Target and I will see if I can find it anyplace. Tried to PM you but WS got lost in cyberland.

 

[janx]

The request for extension is asking for a delay on an already scheduled appearance on the court calendar, as I understand things. Please correct me if I'm wrong.

So what the DT is saying is that for one reason or another, they will not be able to either argue motions on 10/18 and 11/1 or be able to participate in the settlement conference.

I call BS and will be beside myself if Stephens grants this request. These dates have been scheduled and there should be more than enough time to prepare for them. As I understand it, CMJA is Nurmi's only client, so this is the only thing on his plate.

Schedule conflict...nope, dates were mutually agreed upon before this date...doesn't fly.

Need more time...sorry...you've had plenty of time.

Upcoming migraine...now you're going to make me really mad.:stormingmad:

Thanks for posting this information. Has Stevens ruled on any of the motions addressed on Oct. 4? I'm very busy with work these days and haven't been able to investigate. :seeya:

 

[gcharlie]

Thanks for posting this information. Has Stevens ruled on any of the motions addressed on Oct. 4? I'm very busy with work these days and haven't been able to investigate. :seeya:

Nope, no rulings announced yet. Monica Lyndstrom, a legal analyst in Arizona who worked as a prosecutor and defense attorney said that a judge has 60 days to rule on motions. I learned something new with that.

 

[Ricki]

I am so upset, I am on the verge of tears. The job was offered to the other candidate.
The email I received said both candidates were impressive, yet the CEO and President made the final decision. I give up.

 

[gcharlie]

I am so upset, I am on the verge of tears. The job was offered to the other candidate.
The email I received said both candidates were impressive, yet the CEO and President made the final decision. I give up.

Oh, Ricki, I'm sorry.

The fact that you were one of the top two candidates speaks volumes. Please take that to heart and don't give up.

When it boils down to the final two, both candidates have desirable skills. Usually what they look for is who is going to fit in the best in their workplace. They probably thought you were great, but the other person was a better match personality/style wise for their organization...if true, you may not have been happy with the job. Does that make sense?

Yea, you were one of the top two! Use that to your advantage when you go to your next interview.

 

[Ricki]

Oh, Ricki, I'm sorry.

The fact that you were one of the top two candidates speaks volumes. Please take that to heart and don't give up.

When it boils down to the final two, both candidates have desirable skills. Usually what they look for is who is going to fit in the best in their workplace. They probably thought you were great, but the other person was a better match personality/style wise for their organization...if true, you may not have been happy with the job. Does that make sense?

Yea, you were one of the top two! Use that to your advantage when you go to your next interview.

Thank you for trying to build me up. It's not working at the moment. I really thought the job was perfect for me and I could of been of use to them. I guess I am taking it personally.

 

[Kensie]

I am so upset, I am on the verge of tears. The job was offered to the other candidate.
The email I received said both candidates were impressive, yet the CEO and President made the final decision. I give up.

I am so sorry. We knew that you would be impressive. I am sorry.

 

[21merc7]

Oh Ricki! :grouphug:

I'm so sorry, I know it is like having your heartbroken when this happens. I think gcharlie is right though. I do think things happen for a reason bigger than we know. The place that is a good fit for a good person like you will happen, and it will be just where you need to be. I really do believe it. Hang in there, we are here for you!

 

[Mollyandme]

Thank you for trying to build me up. It's not working at the moment. I really thought the job was perfect for me and I could of been of use to them. I guess I am taking it personally.

im so sorry ricki. i know it's easy for me to say "dont take it personally" but i know it's human nature to take things like this as rejection or take it personally. something better will come along, which i know you will hear a lot, but it really is true. aren't you with a staffing agency now? maybe they will have something else open up that they will recommend you for. everything will be ok i promise.

 

[Ricki]

im so sorry ricki. i know it's easy for me to say "dont take it personally" but i know it's human nature to take things like this as rejection or take it personally. something better will come along, which i know you will hear a lot, but it really is true. aren't you with a staffing agency now? maybe they will have something else open up that they will recommend you for. everything will be ok i promise.

Thanks. I will get over this.
You have enough to worry about with things going on with you, but I certainly appreciate your words.

 

[Mollyandme]

Thanks. I will get over this.
You have enough to worry about with things going on with you, but I certainly appreciate your words.

oh ricki you are so sweet. i'm fine really, i promise! i will write an update in a second. but honestly, something better will come along. what about medical billing/coding or something like that? do you have experience in that?

 

[ElleElle]

I am so upset, I am on the verge of tears. The job was offered to the other candidate.
The email I received said both candidates were impressive, yet the CEO and President made the final decision. I give up.

Don't give up! I look at things like this as, "at least I got interviewing practice".

Turn it into a positive. Have you asked for feedback as to why you were not chosen?

Hang in there. :seeya:

 

[Mollyandme]

thank you so much everyone for your kind words, you are all so sweet!

i went back to doc today and i'm still measuring at 6 weeks w/no heartbeat so basically it's inevitable that i am going to miscarry. dr said he'd like my body to pass the tissue (i feel weird calling it that just using his words), naturally before doing a D&C but he's going to give me until next friday to do so, if not I will have to have D&C early that next week due to infection risk. He sent me home with pain meds in case it starts and i have bad cramps, if not i can save them for after the D&C. As i said earlier and i truly mean, I am really not that upset. Maybe that will change but I just am so focused on my two young children right now that I haven't really processed it. I expressed this to my doctor and he said that a lot of women do feel that way but not to be suprised if my feelings change once the actual physical aspect of the miscarriage starts so we'll see. It really is true about woman's intuition. I had a feeling since the get-go that something wasn't right with this pregnancy, I guess I'm just grateful that we caught it early and not later when it might have been more emotionally difficult. Thank you all for listening/reading/showing your support, you all rock!

 

[Ricki]

oh ricki you are so sweet. i'm fine really, i promise! i will write an update in a second. but honestly, something better will come along. what about medical billing/coding or something like that? do you have experience in that?

No experience there. Wish I did. They make decent money and it seems everyone wants experience and are not willing to train.

 

[Ricki]

Don't give up! I look at things like this as, "at least I got interviewing practice".

Turn it into a positive. Have you asked for feedback as to why you were not chosen?

Hang in there. :seeya:

Yes, I did ask. What I got was, both candidates were impressive but the 2 men that interviewed me on interview 2, offered the job to the other candidate. The woman who interviewed me and sent me the email said she did not know what the deciding factor was.