SIDEBAR #22- Arias/Alexander forum

[Zuri]

PSM had 2 ovarian masses that were huge. Her fear was that they were malignant as they looked that way on the scans. In Canada, it takes time in between scans, tests and then surgery. She was symptomatic in the summer with abdominal pain. IIRC, with most ovarian cancers, by the time you have stomach pain which for many is the first sign, the cancer has spread. I am devastated. Simply devastated.

 

[neesaki]

PSM had 2 ovarian masses that were huge. Her fear was that they were malignant as they looked that way on the scans. In Canada, it takes time in between scans, tests and then surgery. She was symptomatic in the summer with abdominal pain. IIRC, with most ovarian cancers, by the time you have stomach pain which for many is the first sign, the cancer has spread. I am devastated. Simply devastated.

She was havig abdominal pain in the summer, and no surgery scheduled until the end of October ? Unbelievable, that poor baby. :cry: And if this is the kind of thing we have to look forward to here in the states, that is very scary... :scared:

 

[21merc7]

Oh no!!!! Not PrincessSezMe!

 

[Niner]

Oh my heart is heavy today... :rose: to Princess's family and friends...

 

[geevee]

I'm glad her family let us know but I'm so, so sad.

 

[josie1986]

So sad about princess....I am at a loss for words

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[coeurfragile]

Oh no, that is so sad to hear! Princess was a staple around these parts.

 

[gcharlie]

Very, very sad about Princess. RIP

My heart goes out to her sons.

My head is swimming with thoughts right now, especially how worried she was about her surgery. She had said that the growth was a teratoma and I had researched that, trying to figure if it could have been cancerous. What I read said that ultrasound was highly specific for being able to diagnose this kind on non-cancerous tumor. So I did breathe a sigh a relief.

If she died at the end of October, it was essentially concurrent with her surgery. I am so unsettled by her premonition.

Sending out a big hug to all of you.

Princess, you have been missed. We will think of you fondly.

 

[Niner]

Oh - I can post again!! :skip:
Haven't been able to get in here since Christmas eve... this thread kept freezing up on me!!

Glad to be back!! :loveyou:

 

[Zuri]

Zuri
Did you contact daisy? I know she is away this week until New Years.
Isn't this so heartbreaking?

Yes I did as soon as I read here.

 

[PMLsmom]

Wow, just read PSM's post re: her surgery (thread 20, post #1053) and what happened to her mom - SO SAD

 

[Mollyandme]

my heart is broken. we will miss you Princess. prayers for princess and her family. the love she had for her two sons was clear by so many of her posts on here, i have no other words

 

[Ricki]

Wow, just read PSM's post re: her surgery (thread 20, post #1053) and what happened to her mom - SO SAD

I went back to reread that post and that was really lousy, unprofessional, uncaring treatment her mom got. I also read a few post above, 1045 I believe. She was posting from work that day and it was only two weeks before her surgery. Kimster said she passed at the end of October. Now I am wondering if she never made it off the operating table.

 

[Harmony 2]

Rest in peace princess! You were a sweetheart and you will be sorely missed by many here...

 

[YESorNO]

I went to the convent today and asked my sisters in Christ to say some prayers for our princess- and lite some candles for her, her family and us here at WS.
Many voices can be heard better than one voice. IMO.
I don't know if this helps her where she is (with the angels), but it helped give me some peace. Hope her family will find peace.
------------------
Away

I cannot say and I will not say
That she is dead, she is just away.
With a cheery smile and a wave of hand
She has wandered into an unknown land;
And left us dreaming how very fair
Its needs must be, since she lingers there.

And you-oh you, who the wildest yearn
From the old-time step and the glad return-
Think of her faring on, as dear
In the love of there, as the love of here
Think of her still the same way, I say;
She is not dead, she is just away.

James Whitcomb Riley, American poet (1849 - 1916)

 

[gcharlie]

YesorNo, thank you for the verse.

It reminds me of the one I found for my mother, which I will now share in memory of Princess:

Death is nothing at all

I have only slipped away into the next room

I am I and you are you

Whatever we were to each other

That we are still

Call me by my old familiar name

Speak to me in the easy way you always used

Put no difference into your tone

Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow

Laugh as we always laughed

At the little jokes we always enjoyed together

Play, smile, think of me, pray for me

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was

Let it be spoken without effort

Without the ghost of a shadow in it

Life means all that it ever meant

It is the same as it ever was

There is absolute unbroken continuity

What is death but a negligible accident?

Why should I be out of mind

Because I am out of sight?

I am waiting for you for an interval

Somewhere very near

Just around the corner

All is well.

Nothing is past; nothing is lost

One brief moment and all will be as it was before

How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!



Canon Henry Scott-Holland, 1847-1918, Canon of St Paul's Cathedral

 

[YESorNO]

YesorNo, thank you for the verse.

It reminds me of the one I found for my mother, which I will now share in memory of Princess:

Death is nothing at all

I have only slipped away into the next room

I am I and you are you

Whatever we were to each other

That we are still

Call me by my old familiar name

Speak to me in the easy way you always used

Put no difference into your tone

Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow

Laugh as we always laughed

At the little jokes we always enjoyed together

Play, smile, think of me, pray for me

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was

Let it be spoken without effort

Without the ghost of a shadow in it

Life means all that it ever meant

It is the same as it ever was

There is absolute unbroken continuity

What is death but a negligible accident?

Why should I be out of mind

Because I am out of sight?

I am waiting for you for an interval

Somewhere very near

Just around the corner

All is well.

Nothing is past; nothing is lost

One brief moment and all will be as it was before

How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!



Canon Henry Scott-Holland, 1847-1918, Canon of St Paul's Cathedral

Thanks, professor, for posting that- it is precious. :blowkiss:
I know we will meet our princess again.

 

[Zuri]

I went back to reread that post and that was really lousy, unprofessional, uncaring treatment her mom got. I also read a few post above, 1045 I believe. She was posting from work that day and it was only two weeks before her surgery. Kimster said she passed at the end of October. Now I am wondering if she never made it off the operating table.

The docs were going to try to do the surgery laparoscopically or open. If open they were going to do a total hyster. Did the doc nick her uterine artery? I have been going over this in my head all day. I am hoping that Kimster can get her obit so we can send notes to her family. I know she had biopsies, so I just don't get this. The teratoma was benign or so she thought. I jokingly told her to have them put it in a jar so she could meet her twin as they are often an absorbed twin. This is devastating on so many levels.

 

[gcharlie]

The docs were going to try to do the surgery laparoscopically or open. If open they were going to do a total hyster. Did the doc nick her uterine artery? I have been going over this in my head all day. I am hoping that Kimster can get her obit so we can send notes to her family. I know she had biopsies, so I just don't get this. The teratoma was benign or so she thought. I jokingly told her to have them put it in a jar so she could meet her twin as they are often an absorbed twin. This is devastating on so many levels.

Zuri, I agree that it is devastating.

I had one PM with her on the subject and then decided to let her share with all of us, instead of trying to overload her. I do recall that she was scheduled for one more diagnostic scan before surgery and she never followed up on that here to let us know what they might have found. As far as I knew, she had one teratoma which was over 9 cm, or about the size of a lime. A teratoma should show up very distinct from other tumorous masses on ultrasound, so I rested easier and did not worry so much about cancer.

It's impossible to know what happened, but it does sound like something went very badly with surgery.

Princess definitely planned to be here on WS while she was recuperating. She said that to all of us and we were rightfully concerned when we did not hear from her, especially after a lot us us sent her PMs.

I am very thankful that her family was kind enough to let us here know of her passing. It must be a sorrowful time for them and I hope that we can give them some comfort in sharing our memories of a very special lady.

 

[Ricki]

The docs were going to try to do the surgery laparoscopically or open. If open they were going to do a total hyster. Did the doc nick her uterine artery? I have been going over this in my head all day. I am hoping that Kimster can get her obit so we can send notes to her family. I know she had biopsies, so I just don't get this. The teratoma was benign or so she thought. I jokingly told her to have them put it in a jar so she could meet her twin as they are often an absorbed twin. This is devastating on so many levels.

So, you are thinking that something might have gone wrong. That might be the case since she certainly did not seem like she was at deaths door and she was at work 2 weeks prior to her surgery. Not like this isn't bad enough, but if it was due to human error, that just sucks even more.
I did not know what a teratoma was. Interesting that it could of been a twin absorbed. Just read a bit about them.