Oh Niner, my heart goes out to you and your poor husband. It sounds like he's going through a really tough time.
I think we can all kind of relate to what he's feeling. Hasn't everyone at some point been so sick or injured that you just want to throw in the towel? It's so easy to forget that those are temporary states of reality; it can feel as though your life has been permanently redefined against your will. When everything is going fine, it's easy to live in the present, and also mentally project into the future. But when you feel like crap, the present seems inescapable and the future feels nonexistent.
I hope you can cheer him up with talk about plans for what you can do together once this :temporary: situation is resolved. Give him something to look forward to. Anything to get his mind off what he's going through at this moment. Or maybe even some funny pet videos (always a good Rx, IMO).
He seems like a truly wonderful guy, so I am wishing him a speedy recovery, and both of you a long and happy future together.
Morning Kids! :wave:
I'm LOLing here Zuri - just watched a commercial for "Angie's List" and a lady was admiring her new granite counter tops!
Susza - have FUN kayaking! I always wanted to do that, but I don't swim... :lol: looks like fun!! and YES! we need pictures!
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ILikeToBendPages - glad to hear that Lily is doing good!! or is that well?? My Huz always corrects me on that... but of course, English is my third language...
Well... it's going to be a lovely day here in the foothills! :summer: Just finished watering all our flowers, as the Huz could not walk yesterday, so had to cancel his heart doctor's appointment - a new one has been made. I don't know what do for him... :waitasec: he is NOT getting better; hopefully, maybe, the physical therapy will help him some - he's going to start that next week. He just moans and groans as he sits next to me watching a movie last night. And of course - no home cooked meals... :gaah: Our roommate last night bought take out Chinese, so I am good for two more nights of food! Huz barely eats, as he is still throwing up in the mornings... Ritz crackers and Saltines... and water is about as much he has eaten in the last week or so. What to do??!!! He's already talking about killing himself if this does not get better... he was doing that in 2011 when his liver, kidneys and heart were giving out! Started a carbon monoxide thingy to help him die.... :scared: He does not want to live life like this, and I don't blame him, but he's too young to go!! ?????????
Okay - off to read some of my other threads.cguru:
Talk with you all later! :seeya:
ETA - I'm the only one here... :tears:
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Dentist Who Killed Cecil The Lion Writes Apology To Patients
The lion's death has "nothing to do with my profession," he says.
"...Palmer wrote that he thought the hunt was on the up-and-up after paying $55,000 to hunt a lion with a bow and arrow. But in actuality, Cecil was lured from the park, stalked for 40 hours, shot with a rifle and decapitated. Only afterward, Palmer said, did he learn that Cecil was a prized 13-year-old male lion from the park. ...
'To my valued patients...'..."
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry...ba5a72148?utm_hp_ref=crime&ir=Crime§ion=crime
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I don't think he really wants to die, IMO- he just wants to stop hurting and the pain has become unbearable; life is hopeless at this time for him, and he thinks this period of pain in his life will never end or never change. I'm not saying you shouldn't be concerned- take it seriously as a warning and talk to him about it some more. Talk about all the alternatives to his dying- the medical help he will receive; tell him that he may not believe it now, but the way he's feeling will change when the pain is in control. Let him talk about his pain and feelings so he feels less alone- even if you have heard all of it before. Reassure him that help is available and that the suicidal feelings are temporary and let him know that his life is important to you- try to restore hope in him in any way you can. Ask him "If we got your pain under control, would you still feel this way?" .
Maybe you can ask him to teach you how to cook as a distraction, so you don't have to have take-out all the time. It might be a funny adventure for him and for you too.
I do think if he has a "plan" again (like the exhaust), you should definitely get professional help for him, as I think this goes beyond just the idea of killing himself.
Pain is a terrible thing and just drags a person to the lower depths of life. In addition to the pain meds the MD has given him, maybe he needs anti- depressant meds also for his depression until he 's feeling better? If he is taking depression meds already, maybe they need to be adjusted/changed?
He needs effective pain management first and foremost. There are healthcare professionals that just specialize in pain. The stress of his pain is triggering his depression, IMO, and the hopelessness that results from it can be treated with the right meds.
Oh, Niner, I feel for you. Please take care. It would be tragic if he made a permanent decision about a temporary problem that could be treated, IMO.
Tell your husband that I said: the dead look terribly dead when they're dead (and that's "from scratch
BTW: why is he not able to hold down his food? too much pain???
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