SIDEBAR #55 - Travis Alexander forum

[Bernina]

I have a zero clearance fireplace on the main floor of my home. The blowers need to be replaced. I called around about replacement blowers and the cheapest was $269.00 each - I need two.

Where I live, there is a general store, two restaurants and a hardware store. I called the hardware store last week about replacement blowers and the owner (whom I'm friends with) says "Jody, you just called at the right time. My heating rep is here right now and I'm inquiring about the blowers". In the meantime, I had dropped off the manual for the fireplace. The phone rings about 15 minutes later and the owner asks if she can send the Rep over to take a look at the blowers to which I responded sure. Rep comes over, takes pictures and says he will do his best to find replacement blowers.

I just had a call about 25 minutes ago from the local hardware store. Their heating Rep found the blowes and they're $69.00 each. I told her she must be mistaken, but she said no, that was the price and did I want her to go ahead and order them as they are a special order? I told her "of course"!!!

The sad thing is the $269.00 blowers were "universal" blowers - what a rip-off. The $69.00 blowers are the OEM blowers.

It sure pays to shop around.

It pays to shop around!!!!
I know exactly how you feel as far as "fireplaces" as I heat with a woodstove.
When I had the roof re-done, I needed to get a flat roof stack flashing, new spark arrestor, and stack collar. I called around within a 50 mile radius, including Lowes and Home Depot, and OMG. $1000 (+/-)!!!!:headbang: Got all 3 online after a diligent search for less than $100.
Before that, was looking for a new blower on this woodstove that is no longer manufactured....like kill me now!!!!! The sellers like that $250-$300 range and I'm "You have got to be kidding me, it's a stupid blower, nothing more than an encased squirrel cage with an off/on toggle, screwed into the back of the woodstove.....grrrr!"
Found a discount OEM parts place on the net and got the exact blower for around $60.

If you have a model # for just about anything, you can find a replacement at a reasonable price if you take the time to compare.

Jasper, you did GOOD!

 

[Bernina]

Positive vibes going the direction of SB buds in the path of the storm!!!!

 

[Bernina]

Niner, hang in there!

I'm going through a similar situation with the BF. 4 trips to the VA Hospital emergency room in 2 days. He's been having issues for 6 weeks, they don't know what's going on. Started as intense restless leg syndrome (RLS)......and medication hell.

But my situation ends there............

I am at the end of my rope. Seriously. BF asked me to marry him right before I took him in for the first of 4 times in the last 2 days.
I'm like stunned. I'm a coward. I did not sign up for this. I've spent 12 years with someone who lied about his interests and his intentions, capabilities, etc., etc. He kept the drama coming in for the first 4-5 years so I really didn't take the time to step back and say "Hey, that seems off" or "I thought he said he knew how to do this". He lies for the sake of lying. We have nothing in common but PTSD and depression.
Does he fear being by himself? Dying alone? Wanting someone to care for him?
My head is ready to explode. He calls and says he deposited a check into my account this morning. He gets home and says he didn't. WTF. Same stuff, different day. He's been slowly killing himself with bad eating habits, junk food, and no excersize, but lies right to my face when I SEE what he's eating and doing.
I have had maybe 6 hours of sleep the last 3 days because he's up all night watching TV......sleeping all day. Add to it all the other medical issues he has.....GAH. 13 years older than me and he's not going to change, he's gotten racist and bigoted, harsh and verbally cruel.

Holy crap, excuse the pity party. My life is in chaos and I just need an anchor.

 

[daisymae]

Flagged down a friend and her son got the cooler down for me!

Always be prepared is what Girl Scouts taught me. :happydance:

Watching the news I'm more concerned for NC, VA and our Gigi plus all on the east coast.

 

[GigiG]

Niner, hang in there!

I'm going through a similar situation with the BF. 4 trips to the VA Hospital emergency room in 2 days. He's been having issues for 6 weeks, they don't know what's going on. Started as intense restless leg syndrome (RLS)......and medication hell.

But my situation ends there............

I am at the end of my rope. Seriously. BF asked me to marry him right before I took him in for the first of 4 times in the last 2 days.
I'm like stunned. I'm a coward. I did not sign up for this. I've spent 12 years with someone who lied about his interests and his intentions, capabilities, etc., etc. He kept the drama coming in for the first 4-5 years so I really didn't take the time to step back and say "Hey, that seems off" or "I thought he said he knew how to do this". He lies for the sake of lying. We have nothing in common but PTSD and depression.
Does he fear being by himself? Dying alone? Wanting someone to care for him?
My head is ready to explode. He calls and says he deposited a check into my account this morning. He gets home and says he didn't. WTF. Same stuff, different day. He's been slowly killing himself with bad eating habits, junk food, and no excersize, but lies right to my face when I SEE what he's eating and doing.
I have had maybe 6 hours of sleep the last 3 days because he's up all night watching TV......sleeping all day. Add to it all the other medical issues he has.....GAH. 13 years older than me and he's not going to change, he's gotten racist and bigoted, harsh and verbally cruel.

Holy crap, excuse the pity party. My life is in chaos and I just need an anchor.

I hear you, Bernina. My BF suffered a traumatic brain injury after *choosing* to ride with one of those half shell helmets. I have always worn a full face helmet, and urged him to do the same. but, noooo. I think he thought it didn't look cool. And, just before his accident, he cancelled his health insurance to spite his ex-wife. Good move!

After his accident and--I forget--I think 45 days in a coma(?), then several months in a rehab hospital, his family was very keen on him going home to live with me. Mind you, I had two young-ish (tween) children at the time, who really needed me to be there for THEM. If it weren't for my mother intervening on my behalf, I probably would have gone along with it (and died of exhaustion), but thank God, she was able to verbally smack some sense into me.

Needy people come in all sorts of packages. Some are needy through no fault of their own, and they deserve compassion and tenderness. But people who are needy through their own arrogance, stupidity or carelessness, hmmmm, not so much. As the saying goes: "Poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part". There's only so much you can give and only so much people can expect. It's a sliding scale, but you are the one who gets to decide where on the scale that is depending on the person and the situation.

 

[Jasper52]

It pays to shop around!!!!
I know exactly how you feel as far as "fireplaces" as I heat with a woodstove.
When I had the roof re-done, I needed to get a flat roof stack flashing, new spark arrestor, and stack collar. I called around within a 50 mile radius, including Lowes and Home Depot, and OMG. $1000 (+/-)!!!!:headbang: Got all 3 online after a diligent search for less than $100.
Before that, was looking for a new blower on this woodstove that is no longer manufactured....like kill me now!!!!! The sellers like that $250-$300 range and I'm "You have got to be kidding me, it's a stupid blower, nothing more than an encased squirrel cage with an off/on toggle, screwed into the back of the woodstove.....grrrr!"
Found a discount OEM parts place on the net and got the exact blower for around $60.

If you have a model # for just about anything, you can find a replacement at a reasonable price if you take the time to compare.

Jasper, you did GOOD!

Benina, my problem with this fireplace is it's all one unit. The blowers are attached with no way to remove them other than a reciprocating saw and new blowers replaced with self-tapping screws.

The only model numbers were for the upper baffle, side and rear brick baffle plates.

The manual gave no model number for the blowers, so the heating rep took a picture of the blowers and blew it up to read the fine print on the front of them! That's what the others did when I called about replacements - came to the house and took pictures.

I'm a happy camper now!

My main source of heat is my big bad boy Napolian wood stove downstairs. She's a beauty! Other than that, it's electric heat and I refuse to turn it on as our hydro bills are outragous now with the delivery charges and all the other charges they manage to sneak in.

I actually put a fire on in the fireplace today to take the chill off - we're supposed to get frost tonight. It's too early for this crazy weather!

You did good too! That's the only thing about being a woman, we seem to get taken advantage of - guess they think we're dumb!!! :thinking:

 

[Jasper52]

I hear you, Bernina. My BF suffered a traumatic brain injury after *choosing* to ride with one of those half shell helmets. I have always worn a full face helmet, and urged him to do the same. but, noooo. I think he thought it didn't look cool. And, just before his accident, he cancelled his health insurance to spite his ex-wife. Good move!

After his accident and--I forget--I think 45 days in a coma(?), then several months in a rehab hospital, his family was very keen on him going home to live with me. Mind you, I had two young-ish (tween) children at the time, who really needed me to be there for THEM. If it weren't for my mother intervening on my behalf, I probably would have gone along with it (and died of exhaustion), but thank God, she was able to verbally smack some sense into me.

Needy people come in all sorts of packages. Some are needy through no fault of their own, and they deserve compassion and tenderness. But people who are needy through their own arrogance, stupidity or carelessness, hmmmm, not so much. As the saying goes: "Poor planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part". There's only so much you can give and only so much people can expect. It's a sliding scale, but you are the one who gets to decide where on the scale that is depending on the person and the situation.

Well said, Gigi.

Bernina, you look after yourself first. I don't know whether to congratulate you or not - I hope you make the right decision for you. I know so many couples who lived together for years and they were very happy. Most of them eventually married and they are all divorced now. Funny how that works.

 

[ILikeToBendPages]

Here's a new quiz for y'all to take:

What secret emotion are you hiding?

http://www.littlethings.com/secret-emotion-quiz/

My Result: Love
"On the inside, you are truly full of love. You are a kind and warm individual. Since you have such a beautiful and open heart, there is no reason to hide it from the world. Let your love out for everyone to see!"

My emotion reminds me a Sunday school song. I've Got Joy Joy Joy Down In my Heart.

Glad to see you Yes,I didn't know if you were having trouble with your bandwidth or Windows 10 still.

 

[daisymae]

SC declared a state of emergency. Still not bad here but tomorrow will be worse is my guess.

 

[ILikeToBendPages]

1965 - You Were on My Mind - We Five tops the charts. Tell the truth, is your fellow sidebar friends on websleuths one of your first thoughts when you wake up? How are they. Is Zuri doing better? Has DasiyMae shoulder gotten any better? You know things like that. I always thought that Bernina would be out feeding the horses and other critters. I've never looked at her as weak in any way.

[video=youtu;W-7QHWJOzbE]http://youtu.be/W-7QHWJOzbE[/video]

 

[Alice253]

Gary Richrath, Guitarist And Songwriter For REO Speedwagon, Dead At 65

"Gary Richrath, the longtime lead guitarist for the rock band REO Speedwagon, died on Sunday. He was 65.
Erik Stein, a publicist for the band, confirmed the death but did not specify the cause or where Mr. Richrath died..."

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry...2e4b00e2cd5e7d061?ncid=newsltushpmg000 00003

[video=youtube;l6sNZv7J43U]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l6sNZv7J43U[/video]

RIP :candle:

REO - my favorite rock band ever. Just saw them in concert on the 16th of September. Kevin Cronin did a beautiful tribute to Gary.

RIP Gary. [emoji174]

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[Jasper52]

Tell the truth, is your fellow sidebar friends on websleuths one of your first thoughts when you wake up? How are they. Is Zuri doing better? Has DasiyMae shoulder gotten any better? You know things like that. I always thought that Bernina would be out feeding the horses and other critters. I've never looked at her as weak in any way.

Yep! I look forward to getting on here in the morning and seeing what's up and how everyone is doing/coping etc. Sometimes there's tears of happiness and joy, other times tears of sorrow - kinda bittersweet at times and other times, fits of laughter to boot. But, we all seem to cope and manage and get by. It's just awesome to be able to count on friends here for support, no matter what the issue may be.

 

[GigiG]

SC declared a state of emergency. Still not bad here but tomorrow will be worse is my guess.

A state of emergency has been issued in most of the states on the east coast. BUT, things are looking up! According to the latest reports I've read, Joaquin will head back east:

From WJLA: "The current forecast track has Joaquin tracking a little bit farther east off of the East Coast and possibly eventually making landfall more into New England, or even Nova Scotia."

Hopefully, it will be much weakened by the time it gets all the way to Canada! Jasper, you're way inland from Nova Scotia, right?

We've had several inches of rain in the past few days and much flooding already, so whatever rain Joaquin brings will be adding insult to injury.

Sure hope he does decide to head east, asap!

 

[GigiG]

My emotion reminds me a Sunday school song. I've Got Joy Joy Joy Down In my Heart.

Glad to see you Yes,I didn't know if you were having trouble with your bandwidth or Windows 10 still.

My emotion was love, but I thought it was a weird little quiz. Just by clicking on different parts photos? Dunno about that...

 

[YESorNO]

Checking the murder's hashtag on twitter and something is going on in the murderer's appeal process:


TrialBy ‏@Trial_By 3h3 hours ago
#jodiarias Motion to Recuse the COA is about Cattani's article, but she says whole court is disqualified by it 1/9

(more pages at link)

https://twitter.com/Trial_By/status/649710575795081216/photo/1

TrialBy ‏@Trial_By 3h3 hours ago
@DallasDietzenba This is the motion that was posted in Court of Appeals - she wants to skip COA & go directly to Supreme Court b/c article

Wonder what "article" they are talking about????

--
Lots of activity in murderer's case history:

Disposition Information
Party Name ARSCode Description Crime Date Disposition Code Disposition Date
Jodi Ann Arias 13-1105 (F1) MURDER 1ST DEGREE 6/4/2008 Guilty By Jury Guilty By Jury 3/5/2015

Case Documents

Filing Date Description Docket Date Filing Party
10/1/2015 023 - ME: Order Entered By Court - Party (001) 10/1/2015
10/1/2015 TSP - Transcript of Proceedings - Party (001) 10/1/2015
NOTE: 12/12/2012 BY BARBARA H. STOCKFORD
10/1/2015 TSP - Transcript of Proceedings - Party (001) 10/1/2015
NOTE: 05/01/2013 BY BARBARA H. STOCKFORD
10/1/2015 TSP - Transcript of Proceedings - Party (001) 10/1/2015
NOTE: 3-4-13 BARBARA H STOCKFORD
10/1/2015 TSP - Transcript of Proceedings - Party (001) 10/1/2015
NOTE: 03/05/13 BY BARBARA H STOCKFORD
10/1/2015 TSP - Transcript of Proceedings - Party (001) 10/1/2015
NOTE: 07/15/2011 BY SCOTT A KINDLE
9/29/2015 023 - ME: Order Entered By Court - Party (001) 9/29/2015

http://www.superiorcourt.maricopa.g...rtCases/caseInfo.asp?caseNumber=CR2008-031021

 

[Jasper52]

Gigi, I'm in Ontario so no worries here. We always get rain when the hurricanes hit - they're calling for rain here starting Sunday right through next week.

 

[GigiG]

Been pouring rain here for several days, but today I made it my mission to get provisions. Just in case.

No sooner did I drive away from my house than my "low tire pressure" alert came on. In my car, it causes a very alarming sound to go off. I pulled over into the first gas station and got out my quarters ($1.00 for air). I then went around my car and unscrewed all the caps, before putting in the money and filling up the tires with air.

I have changed more tires in my life than any woman should ever have to--dozens--so I was definitely okay with adding air to my tires. But... I don't know if I should be flattered or insulted that no "guy" came to my rescue or offered to help. Here I am, a middle-aged woman, soaking wet. There are mechanics and other guys standing around, and I'm on my hands and knees in the pouring rain. harumph...chivalry IS dead.

 

[GigiG]

Checking the murder's hashtag on twitter and something is going on in the murderer's appeal process:


TrialBy ‏@Trial_By 3h3 hours ago
#jodiarias Motion to Recuse the COA is about Cattani's article, but she says whole court is disqualified by it 1/9

(more pages at link)

https://twitter.com/Trial_By/status/649710575795081216/photo/1

TrialBy ‏@Trial_By 3h3 hours ago
@DallasDietzenba This is the motion that was posted in Court of Appeals - she wants to skip COA & go directly to Supreme Court b/c article

Wonder what "article" they are talking about????

--
Lots of activity in murderer's case history:

Disposition Information
Party Name ARSCode Description Crime Date Disposition Code Disposition Date
Jodi Ann Arias 13-1105 (F1) MURDER 1ST DEGREE 6/4/2008 Guilty By Jury Guilty By Jury 3/5/2015

Case Documents

Filing Date Description Docket Date Filing Party
10/1/2015 023 - ME: Order Entered By Court - Party (001) 10/1/2015
10/1/2015 TSP - Transcript of Proceedings - Party (001) 10/1/2015
NOTE: 12/12/2012 BY BARBARA H. STOCKFORD
10/1/2015 TSP - Transcript of Proceedings - Party (001) 10/1/2015
NOTE: 05/01/2013 BY BARBARA H. STOCKFORD
10/1/2015 TSP - Transcript of Proceedings - Party (001) 10/1/2015
NOTE: 3-4-13 BARBARA H STOCKFORD
10/1/2015 TSP - Transcript of Proceedings - Party (001) 10/1/2015
NOTE: 03/05/13 BY BARBARA H STOCKFORD
10/1/2015 TSP - Transcript of Proceedings - Party (001) 10/1/2015
NOTE: 07/15/2011 BY SCOTT A KINDLE
9/29/2015 023 - ME: Order Entered By Court - Party (001) 9/29/2015

http://www.superiorcourt.maricopa.g...rtCases/caseInfo.asp?caseNumber=CR2008-031021

BBM

She's delusional. And this is just further proof that her appeals attorneys have very little to work with.

Here's the article to which they referred: http://www.judges.org/jody-arias-and-the-cost-of-seeking-the-death-penalty/

 

[ILikeToBendPages]

1918 - Lawrence of Arabia and a combined force of Arab, Australian and British soldiers triumphantly entered the city of Damascus. The event marked the culmination of the Arab Revolt of 1916 – 1918, ending centuries of Ottoman Rule over the Arab people of the Middle East.

 

[U2forever]

Something to make you feel good about today:

the advocate, david egan

"David Egan is the first person with an intellectual disability to be awarded the Joseph P. Kennedy Foundation Public Policy Fellowship. Watch his inspiring story that continues to foster awareness for persons with disabilities..."

[video=youtube;tT0Yp9YnYlc]https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=117&v=tT0Yp9YnYlc[/video]

YESorNO, thank you for posting this video. I needed to see this. Back in the 90's before I had to retire my career as a Master Nail Artisan/Educator, I had some very special clients whom I loved dearly. Beth was born with Downs and her mum insisted she stay home vs. institution.
Beth at that time was 21, working, boyfriend, friends and an incredible loving family. Beth was about to move out on her own when I had to quit. She taught me so much, not only about myself but about her and downs.
I am so glad I have great memories working on Beth and her mum for all those years.

Beth is very smart and I just remembered she was going to marry also. I need to look her up.


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