I listened to Chris Hughes today talking about forgiveness.
I feel I need to say something.
a lot of people forgive cuz its no big deal, might even think they would have done something similar.
I had a trusted and loved relative embezzle from me for 3 years. I had hired her as my bookkeeper.
upon my discovery she threatened to turn my company in for not reporting payroll taxes and workers comp reports accurately unless I looked the other way. She was the one who cooked my books, reported payroll taxes, reported workers coml reports. I had no idea what trouble she had set me up for. I called the IRS who told me if my story was true to prosecute her. I eventually got money back from the IRS for all the penalties we had paid for late filing employee taxes. Yes. I had my own stepsister prosecuted. I was not about to let her embezzle and further extort from me.
the family has never healed because of her evil deeds. I was devastated by the betrayals. I was consumed by it. I was unhealthy.
then, I forgave her. Not for her! For me! I refused to let the evil she put on my life affect me anymore!
her evil ways had nothing more to do with my life! I was and am free of her!
I will never forget, never let her in my fold. She will always be my stepsister. But all of her power she had from being my stepsister is gone forever.
so I forgive her so that the hatred doesnt become a part of who I am. I am healthy