Son dresses as Daphne from Scooby Doo for party

[jjenny]

Not a single child ridiculed him for wearing it, it was the children's parents! Those bullying parents are the ones that POISON their children's little minds. The children saw nothing wrong with it. Seems to me anyway, the 5 year olds had FAR more sense than their parents.

How do you know what other children were saying?
The mother isn't privy to that. By the way I don't see that anyone claimed her son is gay for wearing a costume, so why start of with a headline "my son is gay"?

 

[Linda7NJ]

No, wearing a costume on Halloween doesn't make a five year old gay. So maybe the mother shouldn't have wrote her runt about her five year old under a headline "My son is gay."

The title reflects what those idiot parents thought. If you read the article she, very clearly states, "'If you think that me allowing my son to be a female character for Halloween is somehow going to ‘make’ him gay then you are an idiot"

 

[jjenny]

The title reflects what those idiot parents thought. If you read the article she, very clearly states, "'If you think that me allowing my son to be a female character for Halloween is somehow going to ‘make’ him gay then you are an idiot"

Please point me where in her post she claims anyone told her they thought her son was gay. Who does she address her question to?

 

[Linda7NJ]

How do you know what other children were saying?
The mother isn't privy to that. By the way I don't see that anyone claimed her son is gay for wearing a costume, so why start of with a headline "my son is gay"?

I heard her state it on a radio interview. The other children had no issue and many liked his costume.

However, I would expect the children to give him a hard time AFTER listening to their parents. Children learn that crap at home. imo

 

[Linda7NJ]

Please point me where in her post she claims anyone told her they thought her son was gay. Who does she address her question to?

It's inferred, why else would they even care what her son was wearing?

 

[jjenny]

I head her state it on a radio interview. The other children had no issue and many liked his costume.

However, I would expect the children to give him a hard time AFTER listening to their parents. Children learn that crap at home. imo

The woman posted a photo of a five year old on the internet in a purple wig under a headline "my son is gay" so maybe she should have thought about potential consequences before her runt for this five year old, no?

 

[Linda7NJ]

The woman posted a photo of a five year old on the internet in a purple wig under a headline "my son is gay" so maybe she should have thought about potential consequences before her runt for this five year old, no?

What consequences are you talking about?

 

[jjenny]

What consequences are you talking about?

Oh please. You just posted how you think some children might give him a hard time after listening to their parents.
That kind of consequences, what else?

 

[Linda7NJ]

Oh please. You just posted how you think some children might give him a hard time after listening to their parents.
That kind of consequences, what else?

Knowing who the small minded, hypocrites are, is always a positive thing!

Personally, I always prefer to know who the idiots are, so I can keep my distance I have done my very best to raise my child to look out for "them" and steer clear. I have also tried my very best to teach him to be himself, to stand up for what he believes in and to do the right thing. I believe this child's mother is doing the same. The world needs more like her and her son.

 

[jjenny]

Knowing who the small minded, hypocrites are, is always a positive thing!

Personally, I always prefer to know who the idiots are, so I can keep my distance I have done my very best to raise my child to look out for "them" and steer clear. I have also tried my very best to teach him to be himself, to stand up for what he believes in and to do the right thing. I believe this child's mother is doing the same. The world needs more like her and her son.

The woman posted a photo of her son in a purple wig under a headline "my son is gay." It was your idea, not mine, that you expect some children will give him a hard time after listening to their parents who presumably are using the internet. So, pardon me if I am not going to join you in the chorus "this mom rocks."

 

[SheWhoMustNotBeNamed]

The child was "apprehensive" because he knew that some people would pick on him for HIS choice of costume. So, because some people would pick on him, that makes it wrong? NO! A child who loves their new glasses might also be apprehensive to wear them to school because some children will make fun of them for it. Doesn't make glasses wrong either... It said he was apprehensive. Not that he was crying in the car begging not to go inside...

The title "My son is gay" is a way to gather attention to her post. This doesn't mean she actually thinks he is gay, or is calling him gay. If you go on to read, the first line says, "Or he’s not. I don’t care. He is still my son. And he is 5. And I am his mother. And if you have a problem with anything mentioned above, I don’t want to know you."

 

[Linda7NJ]

The woman posted a photo of her son in a purple wig under a headline "my son is gay." I am not going to join you in the chorus "this mom rocks."

Everyone is entitled to an opinion.

 

[jjenny]

The child was "apprehensive" because he knew that some people would pick on him for HIS choice of costume. So, because some people would pick on him, that makes it wrong? NO! A child who loves their new glasses might also be apprehensive to wear them to school because some children will make fun of them for it. Doesn't make glasses wrong either... It said he was apprehensive. Not that he was crying in the car begging not to go inside...

The title "My son is gay" is a way to gather attention to her post. This doesn't mean she actually thinks he is gay, or is calling him gay. If you go on to read, the first line says, "Or he’s not. I don’t care. He is still my son. And he is 5. And I am his mother. And if you have a problem with anything mentioned above, I don’t want to know you."

Well if the headline "my son is gay" was to gain the attention it sure looks like she reached her goal, no?

 

[SheWhoMustNotBeNamed]

Well if the headline "my son is gay" was to gain the attention it sure looks like she reached her goal, no?

Um, yes? I think that was the point. Like I said... Not sure where you're going with that...

These issues need our attention so we can educate the bullies. THAT was the point.

"Just as it was heartbreaking to those parents that have lost their children recently due to bullying. IT IS NOT OK TO BULLY. Even if you wrap it up in a bow and call it ‘concern.’ Those women were trying to bully me. And my son. MY son."

 

[Linda7NJ]

Well if the headline "my son is gay" was to gain the attention it sure looks like she reached her goal, no?

Sure, her readership went from 11-12 people to thousands overnight.

Good for her, good for her son and every little boy & girl that is loved enough to have the courage to be their self! It's great it's being discussed.

Bringing to light the ridiculous reaction of the other parents is a great thing. If just a few step back and re-access their inappropriate, hateful, narrow-minded behavior, she's & her son have done a great service. no?

BULLYING is a hot topic now. and it should be, no?

 

[Linda7NJ]

The woman posted a photo of her son in a purple wig under a headline "my son is gay." It was your idea, not mine, that you expect some children will give him a hard time after listening to their parents who presumably are using the internet. So, pardon me if I am not going to join you in the chorus "this mom rocks."

"presumably are using the internet" .......... ya lost me.

IMO Those children's parents said things to their own children about the way the boy was dressed. They would want to instill in their own children just how they felt about it and that it was wrong....God forbid if their own little darlings ever got such a notion, have to nip it in the bud....One even said so.

 

[Linda7NJ]

How many more have to die before people get it?

http://www.websleuths.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=398

If there were more like that mom and her son speaking out, loving and embracing their children for who they are, and taking a stand against bullying, in ALL forms, maybe the bodies will stop piling up!

Frankly, I am sick of it.

 

[jjenny]

How many more have to die before people get it?

http://www.websleuths.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=398

If there were more like that mom and her son speaking out, loving and embracing their children for who they are, and taking a stand against bullying, in ALL forms, maybe the bodies will stop piling up!

Frankly, I am sick of it.

He is five. Are you really suggesting he is the one "speaking out?" From her blog, she writes how she wants her son to do whatever he wants. But when he expressed doubts about the costume because of his concerns people would laugh at him, that certainly didn't seem to phase her into getting him a new one.

 

[jjenny]

Sure, her readership went from 11-12 people to thousands overnight.

Good for her, good for her son and every little boy & girl that is loved enough to have the courage to be their self! It's great it's being discussed.

Bringing to light the ridiculous reaction of the other parents is a great thing. If just a few step back and re-access their inappropriate, hateful, narrow-minded behavior, she's & her son have done a great service. no?

BULLYING is a hot topic now. and it should be, no?

Where am I going with this? Do you think this attention she got for her "my son is gay" blog about her five year old is going to benefit this five year old?
His photo is on the internet, and once something is on the internet it's going to stay out there forever, and can five year old make an informed decision on whether his photo should be on the internet or not, assuming he was even asked about any of this?

 

[SheWhoMustNotBeNamed]

Where am I going with this? Do you think this attention she got for her "my son is gay" blog about her five year old is going to benefit this five year old?
His photo is on the internet, and once something is on the internet it's going to stay out there forever, and can five year old make an informed decision on whether his photo should be on the internet or not, assuming he was even asked about any of this?

I know this question was not directed at me, but YES, this is positive attention. And YES, this attention will benefit this child as well as others. Whether he is gay or not, people need to understand:

#1 - Allowing a child to wear their choice of Halloween costume, no matter the gender stereotype of that costume, will not change that child's gender identity or sexual orientation.

#2 - People need to see a mother's unconditional love for her child, no matter the judgment's of others. She will love him regardless of whether he turns out to be gay, straight, bisexual, transgender, or other, regardless of whether he wants to play with stereotypical girls' toys instead of boys', and regardless of whether he wants to wear dresses instead of pants.

#3 - Bullying is not okay. Whether it is parents bullying other parents for what they allow their own child to do, parents bullying children, children bullying children, or whatever. Bullying is NOT OKAY. And just because something is different, doesn't make the bullies right. This child should not have had to change his costume because it made OTHERS uncomfortable. (And the only reason he was uncomfortable is because he was afraid of what others would think. That he would be bullied. Again, NOT OKAY.)

#4 - People need to ease up on gender stereotypes in general. It is not a gender binary. None of us are 100% male or female. We all have characteristics of each, and lie somewhere on a SCALE of gender. Certain toys and clothes should not be labeled "boys" toys or "girls" toys. Why should it matter if a boy wants to wear a dress and play with a barbie doll, or a girl wants to wear camo and play with tonka trucks?


I was a huge "tomboy" growing up, and still am to this day. For some reason, it's okay for girls. Just shows what a masculine-dominant world we live in. It's okay for girls to imitate daddy, want to wear daddy's clothes or be like daddy, or to dress up like male figures. But if a boy wants to imitate mommy, wear mommy's clothes, or dress up like female figures, suddenly it's all wrong.