Spanish Doctor ordered to pay for child's upbringing after botching abortion

[sweetheart29]

But I she will claim she loves him and wants him until he at least 26 cause if she don't have him she will lose a lot of money.

 

[drip~drop]

I am prochoice, most everyone here knows that. But this, this travesty, I don't support this.

When you go in for a medical procedure, and it fails, that's your problem. There's no guarantees in any medical procedure. Now what, every oncologist that doesn't get all the cancer, every orthopedist that can't set a shattered bone so that there is no loss of function, and every brain surgeon that can't fix their patients slurred speech and migraines, will be sued. And the patient will win.

She is not the first woman to have a failed abortion. The rest of the women that suffered one didn't sue...they either bit the bullet and raised their child, alone if need be, or they gave it up for adoption. And don't even get me started on the money for her ruined morals.

That's why I wanna be you when I grow up. Ok, maybe in the next life but you get it. You have sense.

 

[butwhatif?]

Actually, it doesn't always mess a kid up. My mother was honest with me...she got as far as the needle in her arm to sedate her for her abortion with me and then changed her mind. In essence, this is no different. The procedure failed, for whatever reason. Just because a woman considered abortion, or attempted to have one, doesn't mean that you are incapabale of showing a child love once it's born. She might feel a lot like I do...once it's born, it's a baby, deserving of love and attention, but before it's born, it's just cells. I know a lot of pro life advocates can't understand that mindset, but a lot of people have it. She might have had personal reasons, such as fear of delivery to not want to have the baby, but once the worst had already happened, she was okay with raising the child. Let's not assume what the child feels or will feel. My guess would be that since the boy has lived for a year and half and is still in her care, that she obviously is capable of meeting his basic needs, and that's a lot better than a lot of the parents that make it to WS. He'll be alright.

I was an accident. I was concieved while my mum was taking the pill.
It did damage me when my dad would tell me that my mum had wanted to abort me, and if it weren't for him I wouldn't be around.

He actually convinced the doctor to lie to my mum and say that she was further into the pregnancy than she actually was, so that an abortion wasn't possible. She actually believed it was a 13 mth pregnancy until yrs later!

But the idea that my sweet loving mother didn't want me was always in the back of my head. She clearly loved me. Never once did she say or imply she regretted having me. I was her 'baby', and even her 'favourite'.
But the dark cloud was always there.
I wasn't wanted. I wasn't SUPPOSED to be here.
Despite having plenty of therapy, 'I wasn't supposed to be here' has become a mantra of sorts. It's still with me, but everyone is different.

 

[Sonya610]

I can't imagine how he could have botched the abortion unless the woman was carrying twins and only one was aborted ... I mean, there must have been something that was aborted for the doctor to believe that he had performed the procedure.

She was only 7 weeks pregnant (or maybe less, who knows) and he just plain missed it. Doctors in the US don't like to perform abortions before 6 weeks for that very reason, those machines suck up the lining of the uterus which is probably a bloody clumpy mess, they can't always be sure of what is in it, fraternal twins are also a possibility.

 

[not_my_kids]

I was an accident. I was concieved while my mum was taking the pill.
It did damage me when my dad would tell me that my mum had wanted to abort me, and if it weren't for him I wouldn't be around.

He actually convinced the doctor to lie to my mum and say that she was further into the pregnancy than she actually was, so that an abortion wasn't possible. She actually believed it was a 13 mth pregnancy until yrs later!

But the idea that my sweet loving mother didn't want me was always in the back of my head. She clearly loved me. Never once did she say or imply she regretted having me. I was her 'baby', and even her 'favourite'.
But the dark cloud was always there.
I wasn't wanted. I wasn't SUPPOSED to be here.
Despite having plenty of therapy, 'I wasn't supposed to be here' has become a mantra of sorts. It's still with me, but everyone is different.

That's why I said everyone reacts differently. Maybe the difference is in our personal belief systems. It has never bothered me to know that I wasn't supposed to be here. None of us really were. We are either the experiment of loving creator or we, as a planet and species, climbed out of the muck as some sort of freaky chain reaction. And every day that we live, someone somewhere, that we likely never even met, made a decision that changes or saves our lives. The guy that stopped at 4 beers, instead of five, and didn't wipe you out drunk driving, the doctor that didn't abort you, the guy that would have shot you robbing your bank, if he hadn't asked for a loan from his parents first...they all saved your life. That's how I see it. We're all connected. I also believe in reincarnation, and that influences a lot of the way that I think and how I feel about things.

Buck up, at least your mother didn't regret that she had you. Mine did. That was a daily theme that I lived with for 15 years, it still didn't affect me. You are here, I am here, that's all that matters for either of us.

So that I can pretend to be on topic, I'll try to bring this full circle. If the child has problems, that's still not the doctor's fault. That would be on the mother, for suing in the first place. Like the quoted comment shows, most mothers, even if they initially wanted to abort, end up either raising their kid (and most even do a decent job) or they give them up for adoption.

 

[PeteyGirl]

It's a matter of the doctor failing to deliver a treatment he agreed to deliver.

Apart from that, the very idea of suing the doctor for failing to eliminate a pregnancy that resulted in a wanted and loved child . . . indicates a mother greedy for funds.

Doctors who fail to remove "all" of the cancer, once discovered, aren't sued for the expenses incurred for further oncology treatment. I smell that this woman zero'd in on a loophole in hopes of getting some free money. That is disgusting to me, morally.

 

[Sonya610]

I am prochoice, most everyone here knows that. But this, this travesty, I don't support this.

When you go in for a medical procedure, and it fails, that's your problem.

With some procedures the outcome is uncertain, with others it is cut and dry.

Looks like this doc messed up twice, first time he missed the fetus during the abortion, then two weeks later he missed it again on the ultrasound. Sounds like maybe he was taking things a bit too casually, he also could have had previous problems which is why this case was "unprecidented".