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Jason said out loud to a friend he was "done" with his marriage. So why didn't he divorce MY instead? Let's see:
1. He told one friend he was afraid MY would take CY and move to NY where she was from and he'd never see the daughter again.
2. He told MF that staying married to MY was 'easier' than divorce. Divorce was the last option in his mind. Getting MY dead was #1.
3. In a divorce, he would be paying $$$, both for a divorce itself, child support, possible other payments to Michelle, he'd have to split proceeds on house, 401Ks, etc, etc. There was already significant debt.
4. He had at least a $million other reasons too. A $1M life insurance policy on Michelle. He had a $2M accidental death policy on her.
5. Another child = less time for mistresses, more financial pressure, more helping the wife, more child care time, less sports, less drinking out with the guys, less playtime, plus the ongoing conflicts, nagging, which would surely increase as his responsibilities increased.
6. His MIL looming ever closer, possibly helping with baby #2, which he so very clearly did not want.
His world was closing in and things were getting out of HIS control. He came to hate his wife, he hated being tied down, he hated having to be responsible, he didn't want to grow up, he was being forced to be a husband when he didn't want that.
If he just had CY, he could let his sister and mother parent her a large part of the time (remember the first thing he said to his sister, Heather was, "You're going to make a wonderful mother to CY") while he could gallivant around. In fact, that's just what he did!
1. He told one friend he was afraid MY would take CY and move to NY where she was from and he'd never see the daughter again.
2. He told MF that staying married to MY was 'easier' than divorce. Divorce was the last option in his mind. Getting MY dead was #1.
3. In a divorce, he would be paying $$$, both for a divorce itself, child support, possible other payments to Michelle, he'd have to split proceeds on house, 401Ks, etc, etc. There was already significant debt.
4. He had at least a $million other reasons too. A $1M life insurance policy on Michelle. He had a $2M accidental death policy on her.
5. Another child = less time for mistresses, more financial pressure, more helping the wife, more child care time, less sports, less drinking out with the guys, less playtime, plus the ongoing conflicts, nagging, which would surely increase as his responsibilities increased.
6. His MIL looming ever closer, possibly helping with baby #2, which he so very clearly did not want.
His world was closing in and things were getting out of HIS control. He came to hate his wife, he hated being tied down, he hated having to be responsible, he didn't want to grow up, he was being forced to be a husband when he didn't want that.
If he just had CY, he could let his sister and mother parent her a large part of the time (remember the first thing he said to his sister, Heather was, "You're going to make a wonderful mother to CY") while he could gallivant around. In fact, that's just what he did!