BritsKate
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Michelle likely married him because he didn't act this way initially. At first he was more than likely charming. Abusers are predators who study their prey intensely and use their innermost desires and weaknesses to manipulate/control them. They are chameleons capable of mimicking normal human response and emotion even when they are incapable of truly feeling.
At the beginning stages of their relationship he would have appeared her Prince Charming and told her everything she most wanted to hear. During the actual abuse phases he would revert back to the Prince in order to secure and maintain control. (Known as the 'honeymoon' phase.) It is this phase that usually keeps a victim with his/her abuser. They manipulate hope.
As an example it is quite possible JY initially sympathized with Michelle over her sexual assault in college. I believe he would have attempted to identify and empathize with her. Later though we know he used it as a resentful weapon against her probably to excuse his own behaviors.
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At the beginning stages of their relationship he would have appeared her Prince Charming and told her everything she most wanted to hear. During the actual abuse phases he would revert back to the Prince in order to secure and maintain control. (Known as the 'honeymoon' phase.) It is this phase that usually keeps a victim with his/her abuser. They manipulate hope.

As an example it is quite possible JY initially sympathized with Michelle over her sexual assault in college. I believe he would have attempted to identify and empathize with her. Later though we know he used it as a resentful weapon against her probably to excuse his own behaviors.
MOO