Support Network for Anthony family

[Torrie]

I totally agree with you. After some of the not so nice comments I posted on the board yesterday, I thought about how I would feel if someone I loved was missing and presumed dead. I'm pretty sure the A's have lied and mislead the police and I don't condone that behavior, but I genuinely feel sorry that they will never see their granddaughter again. I know a lot of people will say that they brought a lot of this on themselves with their actions, and I agree, but that doesn't mean they aren't in pain. They know KC harmed Caylee. Yes, they have chosen to protect KC over finding Caylee and I will never agree with that decision, but I can also feel maybe just a smidgen of compassion for them. JMO

I agree with this post. I kind of lost it myself, yesterday, after some footage of Cindy on NG from the night before. Generally, I believe they have kept thing from LE that may help the case, and that they have not conducted themselves in a way that I would, but then, who's to know HOW I would react. These poor people have had their world turned upside down, in so many ways. They ARE in pain, for many reasons.

I read a post on another thread today, about Cindy possibly being/becoming suicidal, and I thought, my GOD, what if one of my nasty posts contributed to that? I may not support the Anthony's actions, but I am VERY sympathetic to their plight, and I cannot imagine, as a mother and grandmother, what Cindy is going through. The Anthonys do have my prayers and compassion. I hope that they may find some semblance of peace soon.

 

[Torrie]

Yes, excellent post, Macushla. Very nicely said.

 

[LI_Mom]

I think the sad reality is that many, many people have reached out to try to support & help the Anthony family and they have repeatedly shown they have no interest in anybody who will not help them defend Casey and help them deny all the evidence in this case.

Until they are willing to face reality, the ONLY support they will continue to have are the people &/or organizations that are willing to enable the enabling.

They're living a nightmare but honest & decent people just do not want to help them keep avoiding the truth & so they have nothing to offer the Anthonys.

 

[PhoneBoothBandit]

I think your first sentence IS their excuse for their actions over the last few months. They are lashing out at anyone who says Caylee is dead, I don't know if I woudn't do that myself. They are criticizing LE, while I don't agree with them, it goes along with the fact that they don't believe Caylee is dead AND they believe whatever story Casey has told them. Have you ever tried to change someone's mind about something they believe with all their heart and mind? Some people won't believe it no matter how much proof you have - they just can't wrap their minds around a reality that does not match theirs.

Many posters have talked about the fact that CA, in particular will never believe Caylee is gone and will spend the rest of her life looking for her. 10 years from now she will be staring at every 13 year old brown haired, hazel eyed girl she sees and wonder, are you my granddaughter? How can you not feel sorry for someone who will go through that.

Their pain must be unrelenting and overwhelming, and they have my utmost sypmpathy - 'there but for fortune....go you and I' - quote from an old Joan Baez song.

I think your post hits the reality of what CA will go through on the head... I can't imagine living like that.

 

[barb0301]

I spent some brief moments with G & C while in Orlando recently. I am also a member of TES. While we differ in our opinions of what happened to Caylee, I am also a mother and grandmother, and can see the deep pain in their eyes. I don't support everything they have done, but I do have empathy for what they are going through. As a fellow human, they have my unconditional prayers and empathy.

 

[icherish]

No lynching from me.

It's actually nice to see a little compassion around here for a change. I got so tired of skimming and wading through page after page of the same old vitriol that I've all but stopped reading or posting in most threads. I just come by to see what's new in the case, and visit Caylee's thread.

Anyway clockstickin, I think your insights are very fair and I share your sentiments. Thanks for posting. :blowkiss:

 

[icherish]

I spent some brief moments with G & C while in Orlando recently. I am also a member of TES. While we differ in our opinions of what happened to Caylee, I am also a mother and grandmother, and can see the deep pain in their eyes. I don't support everything they have done, but I do have empathy for what they are going through. As a fellow human, they have my unconditional prayers and empathy.

:clap: You are a truly beautiful person. :blowkiss:

 

[DollyPardonMe]

After seeing the Anthonys on an interview today with Michelle B I thought, God forgive me. I haven't been the kindest person I could have been to this family whether they deserve it or not. They have lost their little Caylee. They have to watch divers dive in mirky waters hoping to God they don't come up with something of Caylees, so they keep their hopes up by unsubstantial sightings that give them hope. It must be horrible hearing about body fluids found in the trunk of Caseys car. It must break their heart to see little Caylees picture all over their home and not being able to hold her. Do they hear the memories of her singing "You are my sunshine" or hear her laughter running through the house everyday? How can I blame them for still loving their daughter? I feel like this case has made me a prisoner of hate towards Casey. Corrie Ten Boom, a Christian woman who survived a Nazi concentration camp during the Holocaust, said, "Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free, and to realize the prisoner was you."

 

[TxLady2]

Has anyone ever thought that it is because of all the trashing of them that they act this way? When you sit down and really think about it... consider what they've been through, and what they are facing now. They've lost their only grandchild and their only daughter is facing life in prison or maybe the death penalty. Isn't that enough to give anybody some sleepless nights??!!
I've seen a lot of hateful comments on these blogs... some that honestly make me sick! To see something that pompous and judgemental just blows my mind! I really don't know how some can sleep at night, after spewing such hate all day!
But...... yes, I have always had compassion for them for this nightmare they've gone through. I might not like everything they do or I might say or do things different.... but I still hurt for them.
And I would like to add... so many on here claim to love Caylee and mourn her loss, and that is understandable.... but to turn around and accuse the grandparents of not loving her or choosing Casey over Caylee is just wrong!! It is that love for her that is making it so hard for them to accept this!! Doesn't that make sense?? And how could WE love this child more than her own family does?? It's not possible... so don't even go there!
I am just very angry at a lot of the trashing and bashing I see lately... not pointing the finger at anyone in particular... I see it other places too... but I think WE should be above that!!!

 

[Grace1984]

I have always had compassion for the both of them. They are only human and can only handle so much. Until we walk in their shoes we have no right to judge them in any way.
Now, I don't always agree with the things they say and do but I can't imagine what it's like to be where they are right now.
I hope they find peace in their lives...One way or another.

 

[cfromcanada]

What the Anthony's are going through? I can't even imagine..I won't let myself, it's too scary. Has anyone thought though about the sunshine law? At this point in time, the Anthony's are still victims of a crime in the most unimaginable way. Their own daughter and the loss of their granddaughter! On top of that, every embarrassing and painful secret the family has ever had, is being held under the light for everyone to see! Pain that is unbearable, humiliation that is unthinkable and yet they are the ones who have suffered the biggest loss. In this regard, I am very happy I live in Canada. I would never want to suffer as a crime victim and then be put under a microscope of public humiliation by the amount of info that has been released. There are those that will argue that they have embarrassed themselves in public. Okay...but that is nothing compared to the private information released about them on a daily basis. I do pray for them.
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[Aleve N Fla]

NONE of us could ever know what the Anthony's are going through. While I do not agree with some of their actions, to know that a grandchild is missing, a daughter is probably going to jail for murdering her, and to know that there are so many people in the world who despise them would wreck havoc on anyone's lives.

I too ask God to embrace them...... until all of us walk a mile in their shoes no one here on this board - or any board can know what they are going through.

Hopefully someday they can find a bit of peace again - perhaps that would make them whole again.

 

[tiredofthis]

After seeing the Anthonys on an interview today with Michelle B I thought, God forgive me. I haven't been the kindest person I could have been to this family whether they deserve it or not. They have lost their little Caylee. They have to watch divers dive in mirky waters hoping to God they don't come up with something of Caylees, so they keep their hopes up by unsubstantial sightings that give them hope. It must be horrible hearing about body fluids found in the trunk of Caseys car. It must break their heart to see little Caylees picture all over their home and not being able to hold her. Do they hear the memories of her singing "You are my sunshine" or hear her laughter running through the house everyday? How can I blame them for still loving their daughter? I feel like this case has made me a prisoner of hate towards Casey. Corrie Ten Boom, a Christian woman who survived a Nazi concentration camp during the Holocaust, said, "Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free, and to realize the prisoner was you."

It has made me a prisoner of hate towards KC. I know it has, but I can't bring myself to forgive. Maybe some day, I will be able to understand why she did what she did, but not now. I do feel compassion for GA and CA even though I am positive they are withholding information.

 

[zadari]

i feel terribly for them too .. but cindy if your reading this please dont do interviews .. this is a private time of your life.. your heart is breaking i know it .and in your grief you are hurting kc and yourself more by talking to the public .. help to find caylee dead or alive .your daughter did what she did theres no going back and YOU DID NOT MAKE KC DO WHAT SHE DID dont blame yourself for that .. kc is an adult would your mother have done the same for you ? or would she expect you to do the honorable thing by your innocent granddaughter.. you NEED TO THINK OF CAYLEE she was an innocent baby !!!..you say you love her then do her the honor of having a decent burial .. but if you feel she is alive for an absolute fact then tell america why you think that without talking in circles . im not trying to be cruel to you im trying to help you .. you need help.. who wouldnt in your shoes .? the pain your going through will go away over time .. it will take a LONG time .but honesty helps .. if you beleive in god then remember he knows what you know .. and why havnt you begged whoever has her to bring her back ? with tears in your eyes .. why havnt we seen any of you cry ? why do you care about being composed at a time like this ?

 

[Manny]

What bothers me is that not one friend or family member has pushed Cindy and George into therapy. They need help and it is obvious from Cindy's weight loss and other things that they need to be supported by professionals. This is a horrendous wound that has been inflicted on the family structure. I don't think anyone can help with the exception of professionals. I wish they had sense enough to seek that help now. Sadly , these things are not easy to see from the inside looking out, someone from their circle of close friends will have to intercede. JMHO

 

[donnam]

Please don't lynch me!
I did a little soul searching last night. Fortunately, none of us have EVER been in the position in which G&C have found themselves and therefore will never know what motivates their response. But watching NG last night and hearing the "protesters" (which is a ridiculous call name for a lynch mob)-I see them more as caged animals in a box that gets increasingly smaller everyday. Yes-they are grasping at straws/yes-they are hanging on to very thin threads of hope/yes-they lash out and spew hateful criticism---but remember that the light of their lives is gone...vanished....completely disappeared---and the fact that she was missing for 31 days before they even realized it has eaten them to the core. I think they would be much more willing to "cooperate" if the people that needed info weren't villianizing their every move. I think we should all say a little prayer for the Anthonys-a prayer for strength and clarity. Perhaps with enough positive energy moving their way-some good will follow. Just a thought.

I agree with you. Very nice thread btw.

 

[donnam]

I was brought up in a family of four children. We were poor, we worked hard on the farm and we were taught values. Out of four children 2 turned okay but one is a drug addict and the other is a self centered pain in the next..My point, the parents cannot be blamed for everything. I don't agree with what they are doing now, of course not, but I do believe they are scared to death and confused. Would I wish this on anyone? NO..I think I will take the advice of others and remember them in my prayers. It can't hurt me, and will probably make me feel better.

I raised six children, they range in age 16-27. All but one turned out ok. My oldest daughter reminds me of Casey in a lot of ways. She has a child, my grandson, Anthony. She has since lost custody of him and he is being adopted by another family member. All of my children were parented the same way. I think at some point in these situations blame needs to stop being placed on parents. At some point, adult children need to take ownership of their own mistakes and problems.
There are a lot of us that have grown up in shi**y familes, yet we take control of our lives and move on the best we can. Parenting is not the bottomline reason for every evil person out there. Sometimes I think certain people are just wired wrong and will take the bad path in life no matter what anyone tries to do.

 

[EclecticArtist]

This is a very nice and compassionate thread. Thank you for posting...

While I agree with every one here about the A's actions, we have never walked in their shoes. I just can't imaging the pain. Their actions and thinking have been for the most part, off the wall..

but, with every one of us knowing that, I am very worried about George and Cindy. When I viewed their last interview, Cindy was "out of it"...Sickly, thin, pale, face sunken in, I am very afraid she is on the edge of a total breakdown. I am sure she was under medications, but even with then, she is in a downward spiral.

I pray that they are or will have help from a professional, mentally, physically and emotionally. Things will be getting worse for them as the months go on. They seem to be all alone in this world, with the exception of the "opportunists" that are latching on to them.

My heart breaks for them. It is all to sad. I am very scared for them and pray they have the strength to endure the months ahead.

 

[Katana]

I think that Cindy and George have strengths but, they have chosen to use them destructively. I hope that one day they can learn to use their strong will and determination in positive ways. As hard as it may be for them to accept, I hope they will soon come to the realization that they cannot control the outcome of Casey's fate but, can only control their own. I see fault in their behavior but, I don't judge them. We don't know the scope of their life, their pain, or their loss. I do have compassion for them and I'm so sorry they lost their precious, innocent Caylee.

 

[Amity]

I raised six children, they range in age 16-27. All but one turned out ok. My oldest daughter reminds me of Casey in a lot of ways. She has a child, my grandson, Anthony. She has since lost custody of him and he is being adopted by another family member. All of my children were parented the same way. I think at some point in these situations blame needs to stop being placed on parents. At some point, adult children need to take ownership of their own mistakes and problems.
There are a lot of us that have grown up in shi**y familes, yet we take control of our lives and move on the best we can. Parenting is not the bottomline reason for every evil person out there. Sometimes I think certain people are just wired wrong and will take the bad path in life no matter what anyone tries to do.

Bolding above is mine.

DonnaM, (my mother-laws initials! Love her! )

I had written several posts over the last several days, deleted them all. After re-reading each, it sounded like I was putting down adult children or parents.
You've put into words what I had been trying to write, with no success (I'm so lousy at putting thought into word). Thank you, Donna M.

I can't even begin to wrap my mind around the pain, physical/emotional/mental, the A's are going through.
Do I agree with some of their actions/tactics re; raising their children/actions during the whole horrid life they are living now? No!

We don't know Cindy or George in Any Other form but what they've presented to us/the public during what is probably the most terrifying time in their lives.
How do we know they weren't the supportive, loving couple/parents, even with some rough patches, before all this happened?
All couples go through rough patches. Couples with children go through just as many if not more.

I have the same situation. Five adult children. All but one turned out to be loving, respectful of all things including nature, productive in society and with scruples beyond reproach.
Then there's that one....my youngest. Raised exactly the same way and within the same time frame (There are only 1-2 years separating all of them).

I can't count the nights over the years I lay awake running through my head "What did I do wrong?"
I can't remember the number of times over the years my husband has broken down in tears wondering where he failed our daughter.

I can almost guarantee Cindy and George have lay awake many, many nights asking themselves the same questions over the years.

Hate them? Oh heavens, no.
Agree with them and their actions over the last almost 6 months? NO!
Want to reach through the tv screen and throttle their necks while trying to bring them back to reality? YES!