Teen fakes pregnancy to teach peers a lesson

[Truthful Lies]

I don't know why many of you are having issues with this. She's not psychotic, or anything like that. It was just an experiment, & that's all that there is.

At the same time, her boyfriend's parents must be happy that she really isn't pregnant at all, considering that they want their son to have a bright future after high school or college. Finish that first, & then think about having a child.

I give thanks to mysteriew & southcitymom for not bashing her about it.

I have an issue with it and can only speak for myself. Since you used my post as an example, im anwsering. We may not always agree, but we respect each other's opinions - This is the best thing about being part of the Websleuths' family - we never attack the poster. We go for tit and tat over theories or rebuttals, but always respectfully and with good intentions (at least most all members).

The freedom to be ones own self here is amazing - and even if I never agree with a certain line of thinking, I respect it. Funny to think about it, but id put my all into any long-term/known poster's needs. It's truly a village here.

I used the term "psycho" as I would speak it, not literally, although I do suspect there is underlying mental illness to want to carry on this charade so long and fool even her brothers. We can easily read/watch what it's really like for pregnant teens. Everyone that supported/reached out to her will now think twice before doing so to those truly in need - that is what I find repulsive...to play on emotions when so many others need it. The "subjects" in this "experiment" probably really cared for this imaginary baby - id never consider the level of deception, unless it would save tons of people's lives.

I think WSers, including me, read about so many wonderful lives/people gone senselessly, that purposeful infliction of pain (betrayal, lying, etc.) just doesn't make sense in the already very wicked world we live in.

I'm a complete snot sometimes, yet my family here loves me for me - not because of who I am or what I look like/have accomplished.

The same goes for you - I hope you see the love here in our virtual community. It's amazing to have all walks of life and different perspectives/experiences to brainstorm/share with.

I can't think of a single WSer I don't respect (save the big fiasco).


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[Truthful Lies]

I'm not bashing her, but I think she will find some trust issues that will have to be overcome. Her experiment does not yield a singular result-- perhaps she overlooked (or ignored)the ramifications of lying in her planning. jmo

eta: BTW, she was the only one in an experiment, everyone else was in real life.

I couldn't have said it better - hugs to you, quiche. xoxo

 

[Soulmagent]

If her mother knew it was a lie ,the experiment is flawed. The biggest issue with being a teen who is pregnant is dealing with close family members. The child /parent relationship and it strains and struggles. IMO

I feel awful for his mother. Yes is she relieved ,probably but did she want to be relieved ? Probably not.

Would I want to deal with acceptance ,shock and learning to cope while planning a new furture for my whole family TWICE, based on this girls lie? No , I would sue her parents for emotional distress because that is what teen pregnancy causes I would times my dollar amount by two. IMO.

 

[Quiche]

I don't like this.
I don't understand it.
What was she trying to accomplish... that part hasn't really been made all that clear......

I think what she did was a disservice to real pregnant teens.

http://www.kimatv.com/news/120428639.html

The article even refers to it as a lie, rather than experiment. Quote: It's amazing the lie was pulled off at all.

It's a thin line between a lie and a con-- I'd like to know if she received any assistance during this time. jmo

 

[Linda7NJ]

Speaking as a mother of a son....I would be furious! I can not believe they allowed his parents to believe he had fathered a child only to learn some six months later it was all a lie. I would have already loved that baby and shopped for that baby and I am sure I would have grieved the loss of that baby just the same as if she had miscarried.

It was beyond cruel. imo

 

[raeann]

Speaking as a mother of a son....I would be furious! I can not believe they allowed his parents to believe he had fathered a child only to learn some six months later it was all a lie. I would have already loved that baby and shopped for that baby and I am sure I would have grieved the loss of that baby just the same as if she had miscarried.

It was beyond cruel. imo

ITA... the stress and worry and pain could have caused family members to suffer severe health difficulties and mental anguish. If it had been done to my family, I would seriously consider taking the legal action of a civil lawsuit against the girl, her mother, the principal and the school. None of them had any right to victimize someone else for their own personal gain, whether that be a grade on a senior project or a "great" essay for their college application. What if one of the parents had a heart attack or had been upset about the situation and wrecked their car?

jmo

 

[WhyaDuck?]

I don't know why many of you are having issues with this. She's not psychotic, or anything like that. It was just an experiment, & that's all that there is.

At the same time, her boyfriend's parents must be happy that she really isn't pregnant at all, considering that they want their son to have a bright future after high school or college. Finish that first, & then think about having a child.

I give thanks to mysteriew & southcitymom for not bashing her about it.

How exactly was everyone else bashing her? Many of us were just expressing sympathy with the boyfriend's parents. I am not sure that is the same as bashing the girl.

 

[jjenny]

I don't know why many of you are having issues with this. She's not psychotic, or anything like that. It was just an experiment, & that's all that there is.

At the same time, her boyfriend's parents must be happy that she really isn't pregnant at all, considering that they want their son to have a bright future after high school or college. Finish that first, & then think about having a child.

I give thanks to mysteriew & southcitymom for not bashing her about it.

Her "experiment" involved deceiving a large number of people (her boyfriend's parents, her classmates, etc). And what was the purpose of this experiment? How exactly did she break any stereotypes by pretending to be pregnant? Even if she herself isn't pregnant, plenty of teenagers are. If she can go to college, it's because she isn't actually pregnant, so what stereotypes did it break? I mean if she actually did get pregnant, and then went to college anyway, she could have said she broke a stereotype. I suppose not getting pregnant and then going to college by itself would be breaking a stereotype. But what does pretending to be pregnant accomplish?

 

[angelmom]

Let's imagine that the girl was not some student with a few misguided adults helping her play out this con game.

What if she were just a regular girl/woman who lied to a bunch of people about being pregnant. It happens. We know what we think of those women. Some do it for attention, some do it to hang on to a man, some do it to get money out of desperate, hopeful adoptive parents.

Personally, I think if this girl got ONE DIME out of her elaborate con, she should be prosecuted. As the mother of two teenage boys and also as someone who has grieved terribly over three miscarried babies, I think this "experiment" was shameful, hurtful, and not thought through. I would be livid. The only thing this girl would be learning about is how lying to people can harm her for life; while some will forgive, I doubt anyone will forget and ever trust her easily again. That's a hard lesson to learn.

 

[Tuffy]

It's interesting that along with letting her own mother in on the hoax, she let her boyfriend in on it too. Wouldn't that be an interesting result for her to learn as well? How do teenage boys react to finding out they are going to be fathers before they get out of high school?

I am also shocked that the school principal was in on it, and thought this was a good idea too. I really worry for the children at that school.

 

[Quiche]

It's interesting that along with letting her own mother in on the hoax, she let her boyfriend in on it too. Wouldn't that be an interesting result for her to learn as well? How do teenage boys react to finding out they are going to be fathers before they get out of high school?

I am also shocked that the school principal was in on it, and thought this was a good idea too. I really worry for the children at that school.

By letting Mom and boyfriend in on it, she guaranteed it wouldn't get too real for her. jmo

 

[Soulmagent]

It's interesting that along with letting her own mother in on the hoax, she let her boyfriend in on it too. Wouldn't that be an interesting result for her to learn as well? How do teenage boys react to finding out they are going to be fathers before they get out of high school?

I am also shocked that the school principal was in on it, and thought this was a good idea too. I really worry for the children at that school.

Yeah ,If that was my son, I would feel people were supporting him in a poor choices ,the school going along with it would make me feel as if they were undermining my parenting and purposely causing emotional pain. I would feel they wanted to see my family suffer stress and that they wanted to ruin an important period in my sons high school life. FOR FUN or whatever it was they were hoping to gain from this. The school overstepped their bonds by supporting this hoax.

Now my son being in on it would be an issue for me as well but being support by other adults is just mind numbing . Teenagers could be expected to do something of the sorts but seeking the adults guidance is a clue that they wanted advice and the advice they got was wrong. This was cruel.

Lucky for them I wasnt the boys mother. I am mad for just reading about it, with my fake theories of how I would feel. I really cannot know how I would actualy feel. Even worse if say the boys granparent had died or some figure in ones family as babies always make one reflect on the family unit while looking for plus sides to teens having babies. IMO.

 

[Bobbisangel]

What exactly was the purpose of this experiment?
Frankly there are enough pregnant teenagers as it is, without one having to fake it. So I really fail to understand what was it all about.

When she stood up in front of the school to tell them she wasn't really pregnant...she also read the remarks that were made about her and to her when everyone thought she was having a baby. I think the purpose...or one of them...was to help other teens have some compassion for pregnant teens and not to say cruel things to them. The other teens just thought this girl was pg and some of the teens really tore into her. She found out what a pregnant teen goes through in school and then shared her thoughts with the student body. As far as not telling the boy's parents...the more people that knew the truth the more of a chance the secret had of becoming known. I would guess that she had a good reason for just telling the people that she told. I think if I had been the boys parent I would have laughed and laughed when I found out the truth...from relief that my son wasn't going to become a father in high school.

 

[Cypros]

"...who enlisted two mentors from Yakima Valley Memorial Hospital's Childbirth Education Program to help her with the project."

So it was officially an experiment? I suspected that this girl was originally pregnant but then lost the baby and made up the "experiment" to regain her reputation.

I am not sure what new any of us gains from such an experiment. Naturally, people become very upset when there is a teen pregnancy. It means that the lives of the teen mother and father are forever changed and their choices about their future are limited, the ability to achieve their goals becomes more challenging.

I am on the side of those who think that lying to the boyfriend's parents was cruel.