Teen Kills Herself over "Sexting" Incident

[MCDRAW]

Personally, my daughter is an honor student and is in the process of the final stages of publishing her own fantasy book at the age of 18. She sends text messages often throughout the day to me with all the text lingo, abreviations, minus the proper punctuation. She may have rebelled, ignored me or simply stop texting if I got her to send text's me in full sentence structure.

Certainly has not hurt her English language ability & talents. JMHO.

I'm the 'Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" kinda mom. If text lingo is the "in thing", that's perfectly fine by me. I'll go with any methods to always keep the communication door open with my teens.

This poor sweet girl, if she only knew in a matter of months, these people would be but a distant pathetic memory that has no bearing on her real life.

My daughter brought a paper home she wrote at school, it was full of abreviations and text lingo. That's when I made her start spelling everything out in her text. Your daughter may have been one of the lucky one's. My kids are too addicted to stop texting.

 

[Malapoo]

My sister's boyfriend's son got a nude pic from his girlfriend by e-mail. They're 14 I think. Now he's a nice and somewhat shy kid and he was so upset about it, he printed it out but left it in the printer so my sister would find it. He couldn't figure a way to bring it up on his own, so he left it to be found. They've talked to him and my sis has talked to the girl. They haven't told her guardians at this point because it's a somewhat messed up family situation, but hopefully my sister's talk with her has shown her that she's demeaning herself doing that, there are risks of it getting out there and their relationship is because he LIKES what's INSIDE her, not the wrapping paper and the inside is what she should focus on.

 

[reportertype]

When I first started texting, my son sent me a message it read IDK. All day I would send him a message asking what does IDK mean? He would send IDK back. By the time he got home I was mad, as soon as he walked in the door, I said what does IDK mean? He said I don't know. I screamed and told him not to text something if he didn't know what it meant. He of course, fell in the floor laughing. I felt stupid. They now know they had better spell things out for me.

ROTFLMAO!! I know you didn't find it funny at the time, but that just made me snort!

 

[angelmom]

:laugh::laugh::laugh:

When I first started texting, my son sent me a message it read IDK. All day I would send him a message asking what does IDK mean? He would send IDK back. By the time he got home I was mad, as soon as he walked in the door, I said what does IDK mean? He said I don't know. I screamed and told him not to text something if he didn't know what it meant. He of course, fell in the floor laughing. I felt stupid. They now know they had better spell things out for me.

I'm so sorry, but this is hilarious! I am going to have to do that to someone.

I could probably drive my DH crazy with that.

 

[jnTexas]

These kids do not realize that this is a felony. they do proscute. this is considered child . There have been several cases of this in the recent past. These kids end up having to register as SO. We need to educate our children about the birds and bees of cell phones. this world gets worse as the days go by.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/28679588/

 

[~Lisa~]

When I first started texting, my son sent me a message it read IDK. All day I would send him a message asking what does IDK mean? He would send IDK back. By the time he got home I was mad, as soon as he walked in the door, I said what does IDK mean? He said I don't know. I screamed and told him not to text something if he didn't know what it meant. He of course, fell in the floor laughing. I felt stupid. They now know they had better spell things out for me.

LOL...that's a great story!
Now I'm trying to figure out who I can do that to :innocent:

 

[Hopeful One]

This is so sad. I didn't even know what sexting was until I read this article. This is why technology scares me, especially when it comes to my kids. Sexual predators can more easily find victims through advancements in technology. Scary.

 

[invictus]

My son is 14 and his dad just got him a cell phone. We will be discussing this tonight.

 

[Hopeful One]

When I first started texting, my son sent me a message it read IDK. All day I would send him a message asking what does IDK mean? He would send IDK back. By the time he got home I was mad, as soon as he walked in the door, I said what does IDK mean? He said I don't know. I screamed and told him not to text something if he didn't know what it meant. He of course, fell in the floor laughing. I felt stupid. They now know they had better spell things out for me.

HAHAHAA!! Great story!!

 

[RammerJammer]

When I first started texting, my son sent me a message it read IDK. All day I would send him a message asking what does IDK mean? He would send IDK back. By the time he got home I was mad, as soon as he walked in the door, I said what does IDK mean? He said I don't know. I screamed and told him not to text something if he didn't know what it meant. He of course, fell in the floor laughing. I felt stupid. They now know they had better spell things out for me.

Priceless! Have you considered sending that in to Reader's Digest? It would most likely be published!

 

[GlitchWizard]

My son is 14 and his dad just got him a cell phone. We will be discussing this tonight.

Ugh. I can't imagine how uncomfortable it would be to discuss this topic with my mother.

 

[hockeymom]

The issue of sexting has just been addressed in my son's middle school. There have been several incidents of girls sending boys naked pictures,and I have warned all of my boys of the consequences of posting and sending of pictures on their phones and the internet.
I may not be too popular on here for saying this,but why aren't these girls held responsible for sending their pictures out? Although its not right,what teenage boy wouldn't be tempted to show his buddies naked pictures? I have a feeling that if a boy sent his picture naked out and the girls shared it,the boy would be in trouble.
One of the incidents that happened in our middle school involved a girl I know. Her parents are lovely,but they can't seem to rein her in. I would absolutly take her phone away in a NY minute and I would not blame the boy she sent the pictures to for showing his buddies. She is responsable. Nobody forced her to do that.

 

[southcitymom]

My, how times have changed! I've spent most of my life trying to keep my lady parts properly mysterious to the general public.

I appreciate this thread and will have to keep it in mind as my sons soar towards puberty!

 

[eve]

My daughter has learned that I will not respond to her text messages unless they are full formed, punctuated and correctly spelled.

That would be fully formed, Addie, unless I am mistaken... LOL

I can handle some text lingo/spelling during online communication and cell phone texting; but not on notes, letters, papers turned into me at school (yes they try this all the time), birthday cards, etc.

If we don't insist on the written word being different than the cyber word we could lose the language.

I really feel terrible for this girl and all the parents involved but I also ask what is wrong, at so many levels, with:


1. Where was the right/wrong compass of all these guys disseminating nudie shots of girls they know?

2. Where was the right/wrong compass as well as lack of foresight of the girls disseminating nudie shots of themselves?


Then we have:

3. The extended lack of right/wrong compass on the kids who gossip and bully and don't step up and tell the bullying, harrassing kids to knock it off.

3. The extended lack of foresight shown in suicide as an answer to this, just tragic, it would be a painful but merely embarassing memory very soon. So what was going on psychologically with this girl prior to this?

There's a whole lotta blame to go around but I don't blame it on technology. Parents have to start instilling kindness and morality in their kids, girls and boys alike, and the ability to see beyond right NOW.

Beyond what they want right NOW, beyond what is fun and entertaining right NOW, and beyond how they feel right NOW.

We have to stop using the term "inappropriate" and be more blunt and unwavering.

Some things are just WRONG.

And kids have to step up to the plate, too. If just a few kids would have told some parents or authorities about the extent of this, or told off and refused to tolerate the harassers, we may have had a different result.

Eve

 

[Boyz_Mum]

My, how times have changed! I've spent most of my life trying to keep my lady parts properly mysterious to the general public.

I appreciate this thread and will have to keep it in mind as my sons soar towards puberty!

Back in my teen years we thought it was RACY to take photos IN A BIKINI BATHING SUIT with our 110 instamatic cameras, get the film developed and then mail the photos off to our boyfriends who weren't at Spring Break with us.

Times really have changed!