Woe.be.gone
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When someone on these boards who may know more about a subject then I do comes by and allows me to question them, I will tell them that I am so happy to hear from them, that I really appreciate them taking time to answer our questions, that they were a help, etc.
I do that because I really want them to come back Not because I agree with them, or like them, but because I read these Websleuths forums because I really like being an amateur sleuth. I really want to solve the case, even if it is only for my own satisfaction. And the more sources I can glen information from, the better able I am to do so.
If anyone connected to the case, even people I have come to intensely dislike post here, like JB or CA I would do the same.
I assume other posters who are thanking TP feel the same as I. I doubt any poster here is card carrying member of the Tony Fan Club, or even a non-card carrying member of his fan club, and I resent that just because I will bend over backward to be nice to him, that some posters seem to believe I am not looking at what he is saying objectively but are in the midst of a juvenile crush.
Without benefit of facial expressions, tone of voice, etc. it's hard to tell at times where people are coming from.
I for one, sometimes sense arse kissing or what sounds like that to me. (I'm not saying that to you). My husband always said "I don't benefit from yes men - I benefit from those who help me see things from a new angle and then I make a decision." I guess I even felt I was around "yes women" at times as an Army wife and was turned off by disingenuous people.
Sometimes it's not clear where or why people say what they do around here as you pointed out in an earlier post.