Ha ha!!! Well, you're doing better than me. It's my birthday but I have to go in for dental work!!!!!
The thing I keep focusing on is that you can't use a sociopath. They have no emotions that allow them to be used. They are ALWAYS the abuser and never the victim.
It is clear from testimony and out of court statements from his friends that Travis, while he enjoyed the sex, was not the pursuer and felt very ambivalent about it. In fact, his dildo comment indicates HE felt used in the "relationship." How is accepting sex from someone who is of age and not intellectually disabled, etc., who is thrusting it you, "using"?
Travis accepted sex from an ex who kept offering it to him despite his clear statements that he was not going to commit to her. If she kept offering it to him despite his statements, how was he using her? Perhaps he felt she just liked it. Perhaps he knew she was trying to use him with it but by accepting it, he was just allowing her to play her game. He wasn't playing her back.
The definition of a user is a person who is: "An exploiter, an abusive user (a person who uses something or someone unfairly, selfishly and/or unethically)."
http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/user
Travis was not exploiting jodi by accepting sex from her. He was being stupid, but not abusive. She was the one exploiting Travis. Because ultimately, IMO, it was not about sexual enjoyment for her. It was a tool she used to ensnare her prey.
Sociopaths, as I stated before, do not really enjoy sex like most people do. They use it as just another tool in their bag of manipulative tricks:
Also, here's a scholarly article titled, "
Coercive and Precocious Sexuality as a Fundamental Aspect of Psychopathy"
http://psycserver.psyc.queensu.ca/q...y/Harrisetal2007JPD-PsychopathicSexuality.pdf
I know some disagree that jodi is a sociopath. And I'm no psychologist but i have studied sociopaths and psychopaths and I have to deal with diagnosed sociopaths in my job so I am very familiar with them. Based on her obvious premeditation of this crime, the day of sex play before the murder when Travis was naked and vulnerable, the fact that she went and dry-humped another guy the very next day after she created carnage in Travis' bathroom, her remorseless, cold and chilling behavior in the police interviews and t.v. interviews, the way Travis' friends described her as superficially charming but "off", her extreme use of sex with men, her constant questions trying to figure out what in her behavior gave her away and her attempts to figure out how a normal person would act if not guilty, in such a situation so that she could adapt her behavior, etc., ("Is it because I;m not crying? [What gave it away?] Just tell me. It's not that I;m going to try to change my behavior or anything.") (Yeah, right), all of that tells me she is either sociopathic, psychopathic or at the least, ASPD.
