I know, it's just what he said. I assumed he meant he wasn't a Mormon anymore. Thanks for the clarification.
I'm not doing very well today! Look what I did by omitting a hyphen!
AM-ish! :floorlaugh:
Why do I keep thinking it's Saturday???
Ha ha!!! Well, you're doing better than me. It's my birthday but I have to go in for dental work!!!!!
In saying TA used Jodi for sex, I'm *not* saying Jodi didn't also use TA as well. That's my point the relationship based solely on sex is unhealthy because in the end someone is bound to get hurt. I think it is being misconstrued that making TA out to look like he's the only one to blame for this unhealthy relationship and I'm not. But no mistaking it takes TWO to create an unhealthy relationship. So Travis made it clear that he didn't want to date her and he didn't want his friends to know he was even spending time with her. But he was having sex with her. Um....so what WAS her purpose for being there then (under cover I might add) other than for sex??? It's called being used for sex and Jodi used him for sex AND domination and control issues as well.
But I am content to agree on our different takes on that. I realize that by calling a spade a spade it appears aggegious to the deceased and I am not trying to trash a good man. I was more interested in letting other women out there know what NOT to accept as "acceptable" in a relationship, according to the professionals.
The thing I keep focusing on is that you can't use a sociopath. They have no emotions that allow them to be used. They are ALWAYS the abuser and never the victim.
It is clear from testimony and out of court statements from his friends that Travis, while he enjoyed the sex, was not the pursuer and felt very ambivalent about it. In fact, his dildo comment indicates HE felt used in the "relationship." How is accepting sex from someone who is of age and not intellectually disabled, etc., who is thrusting it you, "using"?
Travis accepted sex from an ex who kept offering it to him despite his clear statements that he was not going to commit to her. If she kept offering it to him despite his statements, how was he using her? Perhaps he felt she just liked it. Perhaps he knew she was trying to use him with it but by accepting it, he was just allowing her to play her game. He wasn't playing her back.
The definition of a user is a person who is: "An exploiter, an abusive user (a person who uses something or someone unfairly, selfishly and/or unethically)."
http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/user
Travis was not exploiting jodi by accepting sex from her. He was being stupid, but not abusive. She was the one exploiting Travis. Because ultimately, IMO, it was not about sexual enjoyment for her. It was a tool she used to ensnare her prey.
Sociopaths, as I stated before, do not really enjoy sex like most people do. They use it as just another tool in their bag of manipulative tricks:
11. PROMISCUOUS SEXUAL BEHAVIOR -- a variety of brief, superficial relations, numerous affairs, and an indiscriminate selection of sexual partners; the maintenance of several relationships at the same time;
a history of attempts to sexually coerce others into sexual activity or taking great pride at discussing sexual exploits or conquests.
http://sociopathicstyle.com/traits/classic.htm
15. Sex life impersonal, trivial, and poorly integrated Invariably there are peculiarities in the sociopath's sex life. As in other areas, it only takes the slightest impulse for them to engage in deviant sexual behavior. There is little repugnance or other inhibitions to stop them from trying out different things.
Remember that they cannot love, so sexual aims don't seem to include any important personality relations or any great desire to share an intimate experience. Sex is limited to literal physical contact with none of the emotional aspects that make adult love relations so thrilling and indescribable.
One of the sociopath traits in the group Hervey Cleckley's studied was that they never seemed to find anything emotionally meaningful or personal in the relationships, there were simply localized and temporary sensations.
He believes their sexual promiscuity is probably due to a lack of self restraint rather than to any strong passions or drives.
It's very likely nowadays that many psychopaths have realized intimate sexual contact is a great way to control others. Once a person has given up their intimacy, they have surrendered everything. http://www.decision-making-confidence.com/sociopath-traits.html
Also, here's a scholarly article titled, "
Coercive and Precocious Sexuality as a Fundamental Aspect of Psychopathy"
http://psycserver.psyc.queensu.ca/q...y/Harrisetal2007JPD-PsychopathicSexuality.pdf
I know some disagree that jodi is a sociopath. And I'm no psychologist but i have studied sociopaths and psychopaths and I have to deal with diagnosed sociopaths in my job so I am very familiar with them. Based on her obvious premeditation of this crime, the day of sex play before the murder when Travis was naked and vulnerable, the fact that she went and dry-humped another guy the very next day after she created carnage in Travis' bathroom, her remorseless, cold and chilling behavior in the police interviews and t.v. interviews, the way Travis' friends described her as superficially charming but "off", her extreme use of sex with men, her constant questions trying to figure out what in her behavior gave her away and her attempts to figure out how a normal person would act if not guilty, in such a situation so that she could adapt her behavior, etc., ("Is it because I;m not crying? [What gave it away?] Just tell me. It's not that I;m going to try to change my behavior or anything.") (Yeah, right), all of that tells me she is either sociopathic, psychopathic or at the least, ASPD.