In reality, a good 90% of DV victims are women - but it won't help men to come forward if even advocates won't fully concede they can be every bit as abused or victimized, and sometimes even more so, than females.
Actually, an advocate for abused women, Murray-Strauss, did a study to confirm some findings and found that there's actually parity in domestic violence, women initiate as often as men (which is often dismissed by the bogus claim women don't do much damage) and where a weapon is used, women do it more. In other words, in trying to confirm some results he found results that made him anathema.
The dynamic of domestic violence is extremely complex and isn't served by the old tropes of sexual politics.
People talk, and rightly so, about how under-reported rape is, and the need to make it less painful and stigmatized for a woman to come forward.
That being the case, it's not hard to imagine how under-reported men as victims of domestic violence is.
And the problem is worsened by the Violence Against Women Act (what's wrong with the "Violence Against People Act?)but all that assumes men = perpetrator and makes it so that should a man report being a victim of domestic violence, he's basically called himself in a reservation at the jail.
