Troubled country singer Mindy McCready, RIP

[Filly]

The survivors of suicide suffer for years, decades later. My Nanny killed herself in 1994. Everyday, I deal with the effects of what she chose to do.

I suffer from the same illness she was suffering. The fact she took her own life is the only thing that keeps me alive to this day.

Because of what I felt and still to this day feel because the most important person in my life chose to end her life instead of living another day, shapes me. It shapes how I deal with life, my son, my family!

As horrible as this may sound, if it wasn't for my Nanny killling herself in 1994, I would NOT be alive today. LITERALLY! I would have already taken my own life years ago! The lose I felt at her death taught me that I could NEVER make another human feel how bad I felt loosing her. My son might not even be here if she didn't kill herself, and even if he was, I might not be to teach him to be a understanding human.

Maybe this post has nothing to do with Mindy right NOW, but eventually, for her children, it WILL!

Roxye, please know I am so very sorry for all the pain you have endured. May you continue to carry on with the strength you have shown. I have no doubt your beloved Nanny is watching over you.

Prayers for the very talented Ms. McCready. May she now be free of the demons that haunted her.

 

[tlcya]

Very sad to wake and read this. I hope Mindy has finally found the peace in death she was unable to in life.

I am so sad for her babies. What a selfish, self absorbed thing to do, leaving them in this manner, but that is the nature of depression coupled with addiction. Sufferers are so tangled up in their own hopelessness and pain they cannot think clearly about the repercussions to those around them.

 

[Filly]

I have had many people try to tell me because she killed herself, my Nanny went to hell.

People are ignorant and just plain a**h****. Those very people that would have the audacity to say such a thing are the very ones commiting sins daily.

IMO Mindy McCready, your Nanny and a host of very good, decent people are sitting right up there next to the good Lord. Anyone who suffers in this life so badly surely makes it to heaven. They already did their hell right here.

 

[ScarlettScarpetta]

Very sad to wake and read this. I hope Mindy has finally found the peace in death she was unable to in life.

I am so sad for her babies. What a selfish, self absorbed thing to do, leaving them in this manner, but that is the nature of depression coupled with addiction. Sufferers are so tangled up in their own hopelessness and pain they cannot think clearly about the repercussions to those around them.

Especially the baby. Whose parents are both dead of possible suicide poor little guy. I hope there is someone amazing to raise him. .

 

[lizzybeth]

I have had many people try to tell me because she killed herself, my Nanny went to hell. I have never agreed with them. She was Godfelt her entire life! Lived a sin free life and raised 5 wonderful children along with many other grandchildren, and great grandchildren before she took her own life.

Thank you so much for understanding! It means so much to me that others understand mental illness isn't the end all be all. For some, it is the beginning of understanding and hopefully, change.

My father also chose suicide. Your Nanny is not in Hell. She's with her God that loves her, just like He does my Daddy. Depression is an illness just like cancer. God doesn't judge us for our illnesses. I wish people didn't either.

RIP Mindy. May you feel the peace that you never did here on Earth. May your children have family that will love them, hold them, and explain to them how their mother's pain and demons had NOTHING to do with them. Most likely she stayed here longer than she would have because she loved them so much. She's happy now and will greet them with a smile and open arms when she sees them many, many, many years from now.

 

[Hopeful One]

Depression is a nasty, painful, chronic and sometimes fatal disease. Unless you have experienced it, you have no idea how paralyzing it can be. Your brain changes. You don't think rationally. You TRULY believe that the people in your life would be better off without you. You experience very irrational thoughts. I believe her mind was in this irrational state. (and by 'you' I mean that in general, I'm not directing it to anyone here)

I'm not excusing her actions. I think suicide is selfish. However, I do understand the tremendously painful feelings, a deep, deep sadness, hopelessness, that takes over one's brain, and could drive a person to it.

 

[ATasteOfHoney]

I think this is like the fourth celebrity that has appeared on Dr. Drew's "Celebrity Rehab" that has killed themselves. :waitasec:

(and of course, I'm in no way blaming Dr. Drew but it shows the magnitude and pervasive nature of mental illness and the strange life celebrities endure in our society. Wouldn't want to be famous----ever!).

 

[tezi]

This is one of the things that has me on the not suicide train.

What if some shot her dog then shot her making it look like suicide.

I think LE in this case knows it was a definite suicide. I don't think anyone shot her to make it look like she killed herself. JMO.

I am terribly sorry that Mindy felt that suicide was her only option. I imagine she felt her world was coming to an end.

With that said, I do think that Mindy killed her boyfriend. The only people saying that the case was suicide were Mindy and her spokesperson. Mindy even said on the "Today" show that she didn't know if David killed himself or not.

I also don't think it's a stretch to say that Mindy would have quite possibly killed her children if they would have been there. She apparently not thinking rationally, so I don't think it would be out of the realm of possibility that she could have killed her children also.

I can only hope that she is finally at peace. She was truly a tortured soul.

I also think Dr. Drew should STFU. Mindy's death is the fifth one from his show. And for him to say that Mindy's death was preventable is wrong. I can only imagine how her father feels after just leaving her yesterday to go back home.

JMO, IMO, :moo: , and all other disclaimers.

 

[dodie20]

I think LE in this case knows it was a definite suicide. I don't think anyone shot her to make it look like she killed herself. JMO.

I am terribly sorry that Mindy felt that suicide was her only option. I imagine she felt her world was coming to an end.

With that said, I do think that Mindy killed her boyfriend. The only people saying that the case was suicide were Mindy and her spokesperson. Mindy even said on the "Today" show that she didn't know if David killed himself or not.

I also don't think it's a stretch to say that Mindy would have quite possibly killed her children if they would have been there. She apparently not thinking rationally, so I don't think it would be out of the realm of possibility that she could have killed her children also.

I can only hope that she is finally at peace. She was truly a tortured soul.

I also think Dr. Drew should STFU. Mindy's death is the fifth one from his show. And for him to say that Mindy's death was preventable is wrong. I can only imagine how her father feels after just leaving her yesterday to go back home.

JMO, IMO, :moo: , and all other disclaimers.

I've been a Mindy Mccready fan for a long time and I've kept up with her life. Anybody paying attention, could see that she was spiraling dangerously out of control. I watched the Today show interview you mentioned, and it was just horrible. Her pain was raw, she was a mess, and her world was crumbling down. It was painful to watch. If she was involved in her boyfriend's death, (and the interview didn't allay those suspicions), I think she regretted what happened. Her life was such a mess of drugs and alcohol, who knows. If she wasn't involved, I'd like to see her name officially cleared, because this is an awful burden for her children and parents. What a sad, depressing end to a sad, depressing life. And at one time, she had it all! She was a very good singer and was even engaged to Dean Cain. For her fans, that seems like centuries ago.

 

[redheadedgal]

She was a very good singer and was even engaged to Dean Cain.

not really the best phrase considering how MM killed herself, but he sure dodged a bullet breaking up with her ...

 

[mysterygirl]

I think this is like the fourth celebrity that has appeared on Dr. Drew's "Celebrity Rehab" that has killed themselves. :waitasec:

(and of course, I'm in no way blaming Dr. Drew but it shows the magnitude and pervasive nature of mental illness and the strange life celebrities endure in our society. Wouldn't want to be famous----ever!).

I read that addicts who don't stay clean...and so many require multiple rehab stints........90 percent die of "un"natural causes.

 

[kimlynn]

Re: Her dog

Do we know where she got the dog? Was it from the deceased boyfriend? If so, then perhaps she did have a hand in killing him, and didn't want his dog around, either.

If this article from Cnn is correct in that the dog belonged to her boyfriend,your scenerio seems likely to me.


http://www.cnn.com/2013/02/18/showbiz/mindy-mccready-death/index.html?hpt=hp_c1

I'm having a hard time dredging any sympathy up for the killer of an innocent animal.I do feel sorry for the two children left behind.
IMO

 

[SyraKelly]

I listen to her Guys Do It All The Time CD almost everyday while cleaning.I am very sad for the way her life ended.But I have a question for you all.Some of you think she may have had something to do with her BF's death-Why would she kill him and if she didn't kill him,were there any stories on maybe why he would kill himself?

 

[Kimberlyd125]

If this article from Cnn is correct in that the dog belonged to her boyfriend,your scenerio seems likely to me.


http://www.cnn.com/2013/02/18/showbiz/mindy-mccready-death/index.html?hpt=hp_c1

I'm having a hard time dredging any sympathy up for the killer of an innocent animal.I do feel sorry for the two children left behind.
IMO

Depression is very complex.

You totally have the right not to have sympathy for her but please try to understand that people who are depressed and feel hopeless enough to commit suicide are not thinking rationally.

She probably thought (in her depressed/not normal mind) the dog was better off dead.

 

[kimlynn]

Depression is very complex.

You totally have the right not to have sympathy for her but please try to understand that people who are depressed and feel hopeless enough to commit suicide are not thinking rationally.

She probably thought (in her depressed/not normal mind) the dog was better off dead.

I do understand that people in pain aren't thinking rationally but also think that a person never loses full control of their nature....good or bad.
imo

 

[Kimberlyd125]

I do understand that people in pain aren't thinking rationally but also think that a person never loses full control of their nature....good or bad.
imo

I disagree.

But that's ok.

Unless you have been directly impacted by true depression wether yourself or someone you love, it's very hard to understand.

 

[Kimberlyd125]

She also had previous brain damage from the beating that almost cost her her life.
Not sure how that affected her thinking skills either. (If it did)

I just remember her seizure and seeing the brain scans on Celebrity Rehab.

 

[kimlynn]

I disagree.

But that's ok.

Unless you have been directly impacted by true depression wether yourself or someone you love, it's very hard to understand.

Yes it is okay to disagree.I went through this on another thread dealing with drugs.I do hold firm in my belief that no matter what you ingest or your current state of mind that there is always that little part of you in the back of your mind that can stop you from crossing a certain line.
I may be wrong in that belief but I do understand about depression and drugs.

IMO

 

[redheadedgal]

did police questioning wilson's death cause her suicide?

"At no point did [police] tell her she was a suspect, and she wasn't officially one," says the source. "But she knew that some of her answers didn't stand up to questioning. She was very cooperative, but she just wasn't making a lot of sense."

http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20675099,00.html

 

[Kimberlyd125]

Yes it is okay to disagree.I went through this on another thread dealing with drugs.I do hold firm in my belief that no matter what you ingest or your current state of mind that there is always that little part of you in the back of your mind that can stop you from crossing a certain line.
I may be wrong in that belief but I do understand about depression and drugs.

IMO

I was just trying to explain that I've seen depression in its most raw, horrible form.
Someone I know very well and have since my first breath.
He said and did things that I KNOW went against his nature.

It controls you and debilitates you.

ETA: and alcohol fuels it.