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I was bullied, harassed, phone-stalked, cyber-stalked, received death threats from, and had my car vandalized by an older man during my senior year of high school.I appreciate what you’re getting at, but I don’t think your experience as a man is reflective of Missy’s, mine, or any other woman that happens to be reading this. If my daily routine were dictated by how safe I felt in my environment, I’d never leave the house. My subconscious is a never ending news ticker of violence against women and missing girls. It never subsides. All we can do is lull ourselves into a false sense of security with Ring notifications, neighborhood apps, pepper spray, etc. No one is going to pay my bills if I live like a recluse, and I’m sure Missy felt the same.
I fully understand what its like to not feel safe at your own home and spending more time at relatives home you rarely visit, making sure you are always around a lot of people, and avoiding being alone in places you may be attacked at.
Having said all that (with my experiences in mind) if I felt unsafe in Missy's shoes (no matter if I was in her body or mine) I would have not stepped foot into that church alone. I would have waited for the other cars to show up, and may have intentionally ran a little late to ensure I wasn't the first one there. I would have done all I could to avoid being there alone.