UK - Arthur Labinjo Hughes, 6, killed, dad & friend arrested, June 2020 #2

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We have Dutton (stepfather ET) willing to lie on the stand for ET. In regards to an SS call. Not a prosecution witness but a defence witness. Why not a prosecution witness if he had witnessed this treatment?.

Really good point @Tinksx about Dutton being a defence witness not prosecution witness…if he had indeed called SS, you would think that would put him in the prosecution camp…I didn’t think of this.


ET's stepfather was not a defence witness, he was called by the prosecution.



Stepmum accused of murdering Arthur was 'catalyst' for tragedy

11:01
Trial resumes on Day 19

[...]

13:15
Tustin's stepfather gives evidence

John Dutton, Emma Tustin's stepfather, is called to the witness stand.

He confirms Hughes and Tustin would bring Arthur to his home.

Describing his initial impressions of the boy he says: "He looked a nice looking lad. Nice, healthy lad, played in the garden running around with my two grandchildren, full of energy. Normal six-year-old.

"He was quite built, didn't look different to any other child."

13:16

Arthur had lost weight

Mr Dutton states that he never saw Arthur misbehaving in his home.

He tells the court Arthur 'loved football' and usually came to his home wearing a Birmingham City or Liverpool football shirt.

Mr Dutton confirms the first time he saw Arthur after the first lockdown - in March 2020 - was six to eight weeks afterwards.

He agrees the boy had 'changed' adding that he appeared to have 'lost a lot of weight'.

13:18

Hughes 'ripped up Arthur's football tops in front of him'

Mr Dutton tells the court when Hughes brought Arthur to his home after lockdown he would tell him to sit at the table.

He says: "Sit there, hands on the table. He sat and stared at the wall. He wouldn't move. He would stay like that for hours."

Mr Dutton confirms Arthur was not allowed to play with the other children and adds: "It was always Tom. He said he had been naughty, playing up."

He tells the court Arthur would previously wear tracksuits or football shirts to his home but after lockdown he was always in his trainers and pyjamas.

Mr Dutton recalls that Hughes told him he had ripped up Arthur's football tops in front of him.


13:32

Arthur sat at table 'like a zombie'

Mr Dutton states there came a point in April or May time 2020 that he told Tustin to inform Hughes that he was not to bring Arthur to his home any more because the way he was disciplined was too much for he and his wife Karen Dutton - Tustin's mother - to witness.

He says: "I thought it was over the top the way he was disciplining him, making him sit at the table."

He adds: "The way he (Arthur) sat there, just sat there like a zombie. He didn't say a word."


13:35

'You could see he wasn't happy with Tom'

Mr Dutton tells the court if he offered to give Arthur food or drink that Tustin would refer him to Hughes, who would usually say he would feed Arthur at home but he could have water.

He says: "He just said he had been naughty. Most of the time he (Hughes) refused the water. He had never been naughty in our house. He was a pleasant little lad.

"He always came back with the same answer 'he's my boy, I'll bring him up the way I want to'."

Mr Dutton confirms he suggested Arthur should go back to live with his nan and grandad.

"You could see he wasn't happy with Tom, all he went on about was his nan, grandad and uncle Blake," he adds.


13:39

Tom had 'gone to town' on Arthur

Mr Hankin
asks Mr Dutton if he ever heard references about injuries to Arthur.

He replies: "Yes. One Sunday, Tom came up, he said he had gone to town on him and when he done it, he went up into the shower and cried his eyes out."

Mr Dutton becomes upset and takes a few moments to compose himself.


13:42

Tustin's parents contacted social services

He states he took Hughes' phrase 'gone to town on him' to mean 'belt the life out of him'.

Mr Dutton says he was 'shocked' because Hughes 'didn't seem the type'.

He then tells the court that he made an anonymous referral to social services because he felt Arthur was 'in danger'. He confirms his wife was aware and was 'for it'.


14:27

Tustin 'victim of previous assaults'

The trial resumes following a lunch break.

John Dutton returns to the witness box. Ms Prior begins cross-examination.

Mr Dutton confirms he met Tustin as a teenager and at the time she had a number of difficulties, including being the victim of serious assaults, which impacted on her mental health.

He agrees that he became close with Tustin and she stated he was 'the nearest to a dad' she has ever had.

Mr Dutton also acknowledges that the relationship between Tustin and her mother Karen has not been so good.

He agrees they are both 'stubborn' and that they did not speak for around two years after one particular fallout.


14:32

Tustin once 'tried to take her own life'

Mr Dutton confirms Tustin tried to take her own life by jumping from the sixth floor of a multi-storey car park, and that Karen did not hesitate in helping to care for her after.

Ms Prior moves on to Tustin's relationships and says: "Emma doesn't like being alone. You have had to talk to her and explain that a bad relationship is worse than no relationship. She tends to cling on wanting something to last."

Mr Dutton agrees.

He tells the court that he and Karen 'worry' whenever Tustin starts a new relationship. But he adds that Tustin 'seemed happy' with Hughes at the start and there was 'nothing to worry about'.


14:47

Hughes told his discipline was 'over the top'

Ms Prior takes Mr Dutton to the 'definite change' between Hughes and Arthur after the first lockdown.

The witness confirms he told Hughes he thought his discipline was 'over the top'. He states Hughes 'shrugged his head' in response.

Mr Dutton states he became aware of Joanne Hughes' referral to social services. He tells the court he was unhappy about it because it would put more strain on Tustin and because there was an easy solution which was for Arthur to return to Joanne Hughes' home.

Ms Prior revisits the occasion when Hughes 'went too far' with Arthur and later 'cried about it in the shower'. She asks Mr Dutton if he suggested to Hughes that Arthur should return to his grandmother's home.

He replies: "Yes. I said it's getting too far."

Mr Dutton adds: "It could have been one of my grandkids."


14:56

'She was scared of Tom'

Ms Prior asks Mr Dutton if Tustin ever challenged Hughes about his refusal to let Arthur have any food at his home.

He replies: "I don't think so. I think she was scared of Tom."

Mr Dutton recalls on one occasion Tustin told him she had to pull Hughes off Arthur to stop him hitting him.

Ms Prior asks if he noticed any change in Tustin after lockdown.

Mr Dutton: "She's always been quiet, she might have been a bit more quiet."


14:57

Mr Dutton denies seeing Tustin shout at Arthur

Ms Prior concludes her questions.

Mr Richmond begins cross-examination.

Mr Dutton denies ever seeing Tustin shout or raise her voice at Arthur at his home.

He says it was 'always Tom' and that Tustin was 'frightened of Tom'.


15:07

Mr Dutton quizzed over police statement

Mr Richmond takes Mr Dutton to the statement he made to police.

He asks why he never included Hughes saying the exact phrase 'I've gone to town on him' and instead used the phrase 'gone too far'.

Mr Dutton insists the phrase Hughes said to him was that he had 'gone to town' on Arthur.

Mr Richmond asks Mr Dutton why his statement says that Karen Dutton made the anonymous call to social services and not himself.


15:10

Witness accused of lying

The witness replies: "Does it make a difference whether I made it or not?"

Judge Wall intervenes and states Mr Dutton is 'not to argue with counsel'.

Mr Dutton: "I'm not arguing."

Judge Wall: "With respect you are now arguing with me."

Returning to the issue at hand Mr Dutton says: "I thought I had made it (the social services call)."

Mr Richmond puts it to him that his account about the call 'is a lie'.

Mr Dutton: "No it isn't a lie."

He concludes his evidence.
 
  • #802
ET's stepfather was not a defence witness, he was called by the prosecution.



Stepmum accused of murdering Arthur was 'catalyst' for tragedy

11:01
Trial resumes on Day 19

[...]

13:15
Tustin's stepfather gives evidence

John Dutton, Emma Tustin's stepfather, is called to the witness stand.

He confirms Hughes and Tustin would bring Arthur to his home.

Describing his initial impressions of the boy he says: "He looked a nice looking lad. Nice, healthy lad, played in the garden running around with my two grandchildren, full of energy. Normal six-year-old.

"He was quite built, didn't look different to any other child."

13:16

Arthur had lost weight

Mr Dutton states that he never saw Arthur misbehaving in his home.

He tells the court Arthur 'loved football' and usually came to his home wearing a Birmingham City or Liverpool football shirt.

Mr Dutton confirms the first time he saw Arthur after the first lockdown - in March 2020 - was six to eight weeks afterwards.

He agrees the boy had 'changed' adding that he appeared to have 'lost a lot of weight'.

13:18

Hughes 'ripped up Arthur's football tops in front of him'

Mr Dutton tells the court when Hughes brought Arthur to his home after lockdown he would tell him to sit at the table.

He says: "Sit there, hands on the table. He sat and stared at the wall. He wouldn't move. He would stay like that for hours."

Mr Dutton confirms Arthur was not allowed to play with the other children and adds: "It was always Tom. He said he had been naughty, playing up."

He tells the court Arthur would previously wear tracksuits or football shirts to his home but after lockdown he was always in his trainers and pyjamas.

Mr Dutton recalls that Hughes told him he had ripped up Arthur's football tops in front of him.


13:32

Arthur sat at table 'like a zombie'

Mr Dutton states there came a point in April or May time 2020 that he told Tustin to inform Hughes that he was not to bring Arthur to his home any more because the way he was disciplined was too much for he and his wife Karen Dutton - Tustin's mother - to witness.

He says: "I thought it was over the top the way he was disciplining him, making him sit at the table."

He adds: "The way he (Arthur) sat there, just sat there like a zombie. He didn't say a word."


13:35

'You could see he wasn't happy with Tom'

Mr Dutton tells the court if he offered to give Arthur food or drink that Tustin would refer him to Hughes, who would usually say he would feed Arthur at home but he could have water.

He says: "He just said he had been naughty. Most of the time he (Hughes) refused the water. He had never been naughty in our house. He was a pleasant little lad.

"He always came back with the same answer 'he's my boy, I'll bring him up the way I want to'."

Mr Dutton confirms he suggested Arthur should go back to live with his nan and grandad.

"You could see he wasn't happy with Tom, all he went on about was his nan, grandad and uncle Blake," he adds.


13:39

Tom had 'gone to town' on Arthur

Mr Hankin
asks Mr Dutton if he ever heard references about injuries to Arthur.

He replies: "Yes. One Sunday, Tom came up, he said he had gone to town on him and when he done it, he went up into the shower and cried his eyes out."

Mr Dutton becomes upset and takes a few moments to compose himself.


13:42

Tustin's parents contacted social services

He states he took Hughes' phrase 'gone to town on him' to mean 'belt the life out of him'.

Mr Dutton says he was 'shocked' because Hughes 'didn't seem the type'.

He then tells the court that he made an anonymous referral to social services because he felt Arthur was 'in danger'. He confirms his wife was aware and was 'for it'.


14:27

Tustin 'victim of previous assaults'

The trial resumes following a lunch break.

John Dutton returns to the witness box. Ms Prior begins cross-examination.

Mr Dutton confirms he met Tustin as a teenager and at the time she had a number of difficulties, including being the victim of serious assaults, which impacted on her mental health.

He agrees that he became close with Tustin and she stated he was 'the nearest to a dad' she has ever had.

Mr Dutton also acknowledges that the relationship between Tustin and her mother Karen has not been so good.

He agrees they are both 'stubborn' and that they did not speak for around two years after one particular fallout.


14:32

Tustin once 'tried to take her own life'

Mr Dutton confirms Tustin tried to take her own life by jumping from the sixth floor of a multi-storey car park, and that Karen did not hesitate in helping to care for her after.

Ms Prior moves on to Tustin's relationships and says: "Emma doesn't like being alone. You have had to talk to her and explain that a bad relationship is worse than no relationship. She tends to cling on wanting something to last."

Mr Dutton agrees.

He tells the court that he and Karen 'worry' whenever Tustin starts a new relationship. But he adds that Tustin 'seemed happy' with Hughes at the start and there was 'nothing to worry about'.


14:47

Hughes told his discipline was 'over the top'

Ms Prior takes Mr Dutton to the 'definite change' between Hughes and Arthur after the first lockdown.

The witness confirms he told Hughes he thought his discipline was 'over the top'. He states Hughes 'shrugged his head' in response.

Mr Dutton states he became aware of Joanne Hughes' referral to social services. He tells the court he was unhappy about it because it would put more strain on Tustin and because there was an easy solution which was for Arthur to return to Joanne Hughes' home.

Ms Prior revisits the occasion when Hughes 'went too far' with Arthur and later 'cried about it in the shower'. She asks Mr Dutton if he suggested to Hughes that Arthur should return to his grandmother's home.

He replies: "Yes. I said it's getting too far."

Mr Dutton adds: "It could have been one of my grandkids."


14:56

'She was scared of Tom'

Ms Prior asks Mr Dutton if Tustin ever challenged Hughes about his refusal to let Arthur have any food at his home.

He replies: "I don't think so. I think she was scared of Tom."

Mr Dutton recalls on one occasion Tustin told him she had to pull Hughes off Arthur to stop him hitting him.

Ms Prior asks if he noticed any change in Tustin after lockdown.

Mr Dutton: "She's always been quiet, she might have been a bit more quiet."


14:57

Mr Dutton denies seeing Tustin shout at Arthur

Ms Prior concludes her questions.

Mr Richmond begins cross-examination.

Mr Dutton denies ever seeing Tustin shout or raise her voice at Arthur at his home.

He says it was 'always Tom' and that Tustin was 'frightened of Tom'.


15:07

Mr Dutton quizzed over police statement

Mr Richmond takes Mr Dutton to the statement he made to police.

He asks why he never included Hughes saying the exact phrase 'I've gone to town on him' and instead used the phrase 'gone too far'.

Mr Dutton insists the phrase Hughes said to him was that he had 'gone to town' on Arthur.

Mr Richmond asks Mr Dutton why his statement says that Karen Dutton made the anonymous call to social services and not himself.


15:10

Witness accused of lying

The witness replies: "Does it make a difference whether I made it or not?"

Judge Wall intervenes and states Mr Dutton is 'not to argue with counsel'.

Mr Dutton: "I'm not arguing."

Judge Wall: "With respect you are now arguing with me."

Returning to the issue at hand Mr Dutton says: "I thought I had made it (the social services call)."

Mr Richmond puts it to him that his account about the call 'is a lie'.

Mr Dutton: "No it isn't a lie."


He concludes his evidence.

Ms Prior and Mr Richmond are QCs for ET and TH, so the step dad was called as a defence witness for ET.
Ah OK, checked time stamp, first mention is QC Hankin. Apologies!
 
  • #803
Yeah she mentioned she suffered with really bad anxiety and depression. Surprised she wasnt asked to name her personality disorder, fear of abandoment seems to be a big thing for her, wonder what that could be in a personality disorder. Didnt she say one of the reasons she didnt let Arthur leave was she has a fear of being on her own. Seems so off the wall, shes that afraid of being alone, she would live in a house of horrors instead
There have been many, many discussions about ETs potential personality disorder. Fear of abandonment is a symptom of both borderline PD or dependant PD.
 
  • #804
There have been many, many discussions about ETs potential personality disorder. Fear of abandonment is a symptom of both borderline PD or dependant PD.
She admitted she was scared TH and Arthur would leave her. She also wouldn't have appreciated THs brother saying he found nothing attractive about her. That must have stung
 
  • #805
The sheer cries for love and food from arthur have broken me. He awoke in such a distressed state already. These monsters say his “behaviour spiralled “ over time. I think it was the daily malnourishment inflicted by them that was manifesting. He looked sooooo delirious anf weak in that video :(

I feel like if it wasn’t for that fateful day , that help for Arthur was imminent. They couldn’t have hid him much longer. Schools would have gone back, family/teachers would’ve enquired more and more which would’ve lead them to see how ill treated he was and They would’ve acted more :(((((

His grandmother I know sent some pics to child services etc but the threat of being arrested due to lockdown would not have deterred me from creating a much bigger fuss for his safety !!
I would’ve created a right Royal scene until he got removed.

I’m heartbroken she was able and willing to care for him., that 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬 Emma wanted the gran to have him too … so WHYYYYYYYY did they not just let him live with his grandparents or uncles. WHYY?!?!??

I’m all the way in Australia and this story popped up on my Facebook. I have not been able to forget it

during our longgggg lockdown here we were still able to send vulnerable kids to school. That never ever stopped !!

Had he just been at school help could’ve been provided to him.

I’m sorry for ranting /venting it’s truly hard to comprehend. I know I’m with like minded people on here

I just hope the angels met him in heaven and hugged him so tight without letting go. I truly believe that

NO ONE can hurt you now Arthur. NO ONE. :(
 
  • #806
ET said she wanted Tom not Arthur, she wanted Arthur to live with his gran.
It’s so frustrating and gut wrenching they didn’t just drop him to his grans.

I just want to scream
 
  • #807
She admitted she was scared TH and Arthur would leave her. She also wouldn't have appreciated THs brother saying he found nothing attractive about her. That must have stung


Sorry I posted a reply to your msg above but it doesn’t seem to have worked . I’m new and just leading to navigate this page :)
 
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Sorry I posted a reply to your msg above but it doesn’t seem to have worked . I’m new and just leading to navigate this page :)
Welcome!
The navigation takes a while to get your head round. If you're quoting a post your post will appear at the bottom. Or you can do @Name and reply that way too :)
 
  • #809
ET's stepfather was not a defence witness, he was called by the prosecution.



Stepmum accused of murdering Arthur was 'catalyst' for tragedy

11:01
Trial resumes on Day 19

[...]

13:15
Tustin's stepfather gives evidence

John Dutton, Emma Tustin's stepfather, is called to the witness stand.

He confirms Hughes and Tustin would bring Arthur to his home.

Describing his initial impressions of the boy he says: "He looked a nice looking lad. Nice, healthy lad, played in the garden running around with my two grandchildren, full of energy. Normal six-year-old.

"He was quite built, didn't look different to any other child."

13:16

Arthur had lost weight

Mr Dutton states that he never saw Arthur misbehaving in his home.

He tells the court Arthur 'loved football' and usually came to his home wearing a Birmingham City or Liverpool football shirt.

Mr Dutton confirms the first time he saw Arthur after the first lockdown - in March 2020 - was six to eight weeks afterwards.

He agrees the boy had 'changed' adding that he appeared to have 'lost a lot of weight'.

13:18

Hughes 'ripped up Arthur's football tops in front of him'

Mr Dutton tells the court when Hughes brought Arthur to his home after lockdown he would tell him to sit at the table.

He says: "Sit there, hands on the table. He sat and stared at the wall. He wouldn't move. He would stay like that for hours."

Mr Dutton confirms Arthur was not allowed to play with the other children and adds: "It was always Tom. He said he had been naughty, playing up."

He tells the court Arthur would previously wear tracksuits or football shirts to his home but after lockdown he was always in his trainers and pyjamas.

Mr Dutton recalls that Hughes told him he had ripped up Arthur's football tops in front of him.


13:32

Arthur sat at table 'like a zombie'

Mr Dutton states there came a point in April or May time 2020 that he told Tustin to inform Hughes that he was not to bring Arthur to his home any more because the way he was disciplined was too much for he and his wife Karen Dutton - Tustin's mother - to witness.

He says: "I thought it was over the top the way he was disciplining him, making him sit at the table."

He adds: "The way he (Arthur) sat there, just sat there like a zombie. He didn't say a word."


13:35

'You could see he wasn't happy with Tom'

Mr Dutton tells the court if he offered to give Arthur food or drink that Tustin would refer him to Hughes, who would usually say he would feed Arthur at home but he could have water.

He says: "He just said he had been naughty. Most of the time he (Hughes) refused the water. He had never been naughty in our house. He was a pleasant little lad.

"He always came back with the same answer 'he's my boy, I'll bring him up the way I want to'."

Mr Dutton confirms he suggested Arthur should go back to live with his nan and grandad.

"You could see he wasn't happy with Tom, all he went on about was his nan, grandad and uncle Blake," he adds.


13:39

Tom had 'gone to town' on Arthur

Mr Hankin
asks Mr Dutton if he ever heard references about injuries to Arthur.

He replies: "Yes. One Sunday, Tom came up, he said he had gone to town on him and when he done it, he went up into the shower and cried his eyes out."

Mr Dutton becomes upset and takes a few moments to compose himself.


13:42

Tustin's parents contacted social services

He states he took Hughes' phrase 'gone to town on him' to mean 'belt the life out of him'.

Mr Dutton says he was 'shocked' because Hughes 'didn't seem the type'.

He then tells the court that he made an anonymous referral to social services because he felt Arthur was 'in danger'. He confirms his wife was aware and was 'for it'.


14:27

Tustin 'victim of previous assaults'

The trial resumes following a lunch break.

John Dutton returns to the witness box. Ms Prior begins cross-examination.

Mr Dutton confirms he met Tustin as a teenager and at the time she had a number of difficulties, including being the victim of serious assaults, which impacted on her mental health.

He agrees that he became close with Tustin and she stated he was 'the nearest to a dad' she has ever had.

Mr Dutton also acknowledges that the relationship between Tustin and her mother Karen has not been so good.

He agrees they are both 'stubborn' and that they did not speak for around two years after one particular fallout.


14:32

Tustin once 'tried to take her own life'

Mr Dutton confirms Tustin tried to take her own life by jumping from the sixth floor of a multi-storey car park, and that Karen did not hesitate in helping to care for her after.

Ms Prior moves on to Tustin's relationships and says: "Emma doesn't like being alone. You have had to talk to her and explain that a bad relationship is worse than no relationship. She tends to cling on wanting something to last."

Mr Dutton agrees.

He tells the court that he and Karen 'worry' whenever Tustin starts a new relationship. But he adds that Tustin 'seemed happy' with Hughes at the start and there was 'nothing to worry about'.


14:47

Hughes told his discipline was 'over the top'

Ms Prior takes Mr Dutton to the 'definite change' between Hughes and Arthur after the first lockdown.

The witness confirms he told Hughes he thought his discipline was 'over the top'. He states Hughes 'shrugged his head' in response.

Mr Dutton states he became aware of Joanne Hughes' referral to social services. He tells the court he was unhappy about it because it would put more strain on Tustin and because there was an easy solution which was for Arthur to return to Joanne Hughes' home.

Ms Prior revisits the occasion when Hughes 'went too far' with Arthur and later 'cried about it in the shower'. She asks Mr Dutton if he suggested to Hughes that Arthur should return to his grandmother's home.

He replies: "Yes. I said it's getting too far."

Mr Dutton adds: "It could have been one of my grandkids."


14:56

'She was scared of Tom'

Ms Prior asks Mr Dutton if Tustin ever challenged Hughes about his refusal to let Arthur have any food at his home.

He replies: "I don't think so. I think she was scared of Tom."

Mr Dutton recalls on one occasion Tustin told him she had to pull Hughes off Arthur to stop him hitting him.

Ms Prior asks if he noticed any change in Tustin after lockdown.

Mr Dutton: "She's always been quiet, she might have been a bit more quiet."


14:57

Mr Dutton denies seeing Tustin shout at Arthur

Ms Prior concludes her questions.

Mr Richmond begins cross-examination.

Mr Dutton denies ever seeing Tustin shout or raise her voice at Arthur at his home.

He says it was 'always Tom' and that Tustin was 'frightened of Tom'.


15:07

Mr Dutton quizzed over police statement

Mr Richmond takes Mr Dutton to the statement he made to police.

He asks why he never included Hughes saying the exact phrase 'I've gone to town on him' and instead used the phrase 'gone too far'.

Mr Dutton insists the phrase Hughes said to him was that he had 'gone to town' on Arthur.

Mr Richmond asks Mr Dutton why his statement says that Karen Dutton made the anonymous call to social services and not himself.


15:10

Witness accused of lying

The witness replies: "Does it make a difference whether I made it or not?"

Judge Wall intervenes and states Mr Dutton is 'not to argue with counsel'.

Mr Dutton: "I'm not arguing."

Judge Wall: "With respect you are now arguing with me."

Returning to the issue at hand Mr Dutton says: "I thought I had made it (the social services call)."

Mr Richmond puts it to him that his account about the call 'is a lie'.

Mr Dutton: "No it isn't a lie."

He concludes his evidence.

Thank you, this case is so long, it gets overwhelming.
 
  • #810
I could be wrong but I think if you're called as a witness for the prosecution , you don't have much choice in the matter. If you fail to attend, they can put a warrant out for your arrest and they will physically bring you to court.
 
  • #811
ET said she wanted Tom not Arthur, she wanted Arthur to live with his gran.
It’s so frustrating and gut wrenching they didn’t just drop him to his grans.

I just want to scream
I don't understand why, when that was said TH didn't pick his son up and leave.
I'm settled with my partner, but, life happens and circumstances change. Most of us would make it very clear, that us and our children come as a unit. You can't have me, and not my kids.
 
  • #812
I don't understand why, when that was said TH didn't pick his son up and leave.
I'm settled with my partner, but, life happens and circumstances change. Most of us would make it very clear, that us and our children come as a unit. You can't have me, and not my kids.

yes, it was in a text he said something like “you can’t have one and not the other”
 
  • #813
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I didn't know there was a thread about Arthur. I've got a lot of catching up to do. I'm glad to have found it/found you all, I'm in Australia, and have been following in the media, and my heart is broken, and Arthur needs to be remembered. I don't think I could stand it if his death, and his last months, is forgotten.


Hi @minusfour

I’m in Australia too (vic!). How bloody horrendous is this story. I just cannot deal. it popped up on my fb feed. Broken heart for this sweet young boy
 
  • #814
yes, it was in a text he said something like “you can’t have one and not the other”
Yes, that's right. And still he stayed.
Imagine how a 6 year-old felt, watching his dad leaving the house with her 2 kids to go and organise a cake and other birthday celebrations. Leaving him in the isolation area, with her.
 
  • #815
Hi @minusfour

I’m in Australia too (vic!). How bloody horrendous is this story. I just cannot deal. it popped up on my fb feed. Broken heart for this sweet young boy
I didn't know there was a thread about Arthur. I've got a lot of catching up to do. I'm glad to have found it/found you all, I'm in Australia, and have been following in the media, and my heart is broken, and Arthur needs to be remembered. I don't think I could stand it if his death, and his last months, is forgotten.
 
  • #816
I have a hard time believing TH was a great father before he met ET, I've seen too many parents blame their adult child's partner/spouse for their bad actions and decisions.
When he was allegedly such a great dad, did he live with his family?
Because having parents/grandparents contributing to live-in child care and support is not like a normal, independent, "great dad". In a situation living with his folks, he could very likely have hardly participated with child care.
Maybe he mostly spent his time on internet dating and 🤬🤬🤬🤬 sites and doing drugs for all I know, while mom took care of his child, acting like a great dad on the surface. Wouldn't be the first time.
I don't believe his horrid treatment of his son was due to the influence of a vixen. He's responsible for his bad actions and choices, just like her.
He was unbelievably brutal and abusive to his son, I have no doubt about that fact.
In his testimony, he denies responsibility when confronted with his own abuse of his child, abuse any normal human or parent finds shocking and appalling, and claims he wasn't a bad father. Under oath.
I don't think he miraculously changed from a good dad, he doesn't even know what it means.
 
  • #817
I have a hard time believing TH was a great father before he met ET, I've seen too many parents blame their adult child's partner/spouse for their bad actions and decisions.
When he was allegedly such a great dad, did he live with his family?
Because having parents/grandparents contributing to live-in child care and support is not like a normal, independent, "great dad". In a situation living with his folks, he could very likely have hardly participated with child care.
Maybe he mostly spent his time on internet dating and 🤬🤬🤬🤬 sites and doing drugs for all I know, while mom took care of his child, acting like a great dad on the surface. Wouldn't be the first time.
I don't believe his horrid treatment of his son was due to the influence of a vixen. He's responsible for his bad actions and choices, just like her.
He was unbelievably brutal and abusive to his son, I have no doubt about that fact.
In his testimony, he denies responsibility when confronted with his own abuse of his child, abuse any normal human or parent finds shocking and appalling, and claims he wasn't a bad father. Under oath.
I don't think he miraculously changed from a good dad, he doesn't even know what it means.
While I agree with you for certain points, emotions have been running very high here recently with regards to was he/ wasn't he a good dad. So I will be unable to discuss your post with you at the moment.
 
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I could be wrong but I think if you're called as a witness for the prosecution , you don't have much choice in the matter. If you fail to attend, they can put a warrant out for your arrest and they will physically bring you to court.
I don't think there's any suggestion he was reluctant to be called as a witness, or hostile to the prosecution in court. He gave a police statement so I'm assuming he chose to be a witness.
 
  • #819
I don't think there's any suggestion he was reluctant to be called as a witness, or hostile to the prosecution in court. He gave a police statement so I'm assuming he chose to be a witness.
You could be right, but speaking from experience, I once witnessed a man physically attacking, I presume his girlfriend. I called the police and was asked to give a statement. I then received a letter, summoning me to court as a witness, the letter stated that if I didn't attend, a warrant would be put out for my arrest, so I had no choice but to attend. That was quite a few years ago now though so I don't know if things have changed since then.
 
  • #820
Welcome to our new contributors!

Might I respectively suggest that newcomers to this case/thread take the time to read back over the posts from the beginning to familiarise themselves with the discussions. Thankfully so far the thread has remained quite tidy but, from past experience, once "old ground" begins to be gone over again threads can become quite muddled and frustrating

Thank you :) xx
 
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