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I could envisage a troubling scenario where some form of mental health episode/anxiety/depression was involved (I speak from personal experience here please do not think I am being insensitive when I bring this up).
Scenario-
Can’t sleep/wakes fretfully at night.
Goes to beach alone at night to “get some air”, “clear my head”, “experience the magic of the sea at night time”
Doesn’t have a formed plan of doing anything in particular but equally doesn’t have a means of being returned fully present to the here and now to make a risk assessment of the dangers or otherwise of the water.
Messages family at some point on the way to the beach - was this fearful (someone is following me, making a safety call) or cryptic (this place is beautiful, isn’t life great)? The reported “never mind” makes me feel quite sad because it indicates to me perhaps she might have been looking for emotional support but had not/could not articulate what she actually needed (because she didn’t really know herself).
Perhaps she leaves her phone and shoes on the beach for safe keeping and intends to paddle to “feel something”.
The cold water takes over or maybe she goes for a swim.
An element of cold water shock has a devastating effect and sadly she drowns?
Things I would want to know to test this theory -
What was the weather like the night she went missing (not that it would matter per se but if she just wanted to clear her head then a calm night might draw one to the sea, whereas if it was really nasty out that might just make the beach a bit TOO wild in terms of matching any emotional turmoil which would lead me to seek other reasons for her being by the beach at 1.30am)
Were there any other last messages she left? Were they emotional? Mundane? Cryptic as to an emotional state her family were unaware of (mental health problems very often hidden by sufferers - much to horror of loved ones when they finally discover them).
What was the tide doing - her belongings were reportedly found 300m up the beach from where she was found, but was this 6 hours after she went into the water? Was the tide going out? Can any locals advise on the tidal distance? And also, anyone know how strong or otherwise the tides in that location can be?
Could she swim well? I only ask because the currents and waves on the beaches can be misleadingly strong (even if the water appears calm) and unless one knows the area well (does anyone know if she was a regular visitor to that part of the coast?) then what might have looked like calm sea could have been v treacherous. Not suggesting there was any intention to take her own life, but maybe it was a tragic accident but with something else going on that drew her to the sea?
Alternatives-
Did she meet anyone in Bexhill who she was planning to meet up with that night who could have wanted to do her harm?
Was she followed to the beach?
Were there any other suspicious individuals walking around the area at the same time that could have an intention to do harm?
Scenario-
Can’t sleep/wakes fretfully at night.
Goes to beach alone at night to “get some air”, “clear my head”, “experience the magic of the sea at night time”
Doesn’t have a formed plan of doing anything in particular but equally doesn’t have a means of being returned fully present to the here and now to make a risk assessment of the dangers or otherwise of the water.
Messages family at some point on the way to the beach - was this fearful (someone is following me, making a safety call) or cryptic (this place is beautiful, isn’t life great)? The reported “never mind” makes me feel quite sad because it indicates to me perhaps she might have been looking for emotional support but had not/could not articulate what she actually needed (because she didn’t really know herself).
Perhaps she leaves her phone and shoes on the beach for safe keeping and intends to paddle to “feel something”.
The cold water takes over or maybe she goes for a swim.
An element of cold water shock has a devastating effect and sadly she drowns?
Things I would want to know to test this theory -
What was the weather like the night she went missing (not that it would matter per se but if she just wanted to clear her head then a calm night might draw one to the sea, whereas if it was really nasty out that might just make the beach a bit TOO wild in terms of matching any emotional turmoil which would lead me to seek other reasons for her being by the beach at 1.30am)
Were there any other last messages she left? Were they emotional? Mundane? Cryptic as to an emotional state her family were unaware of (mental health problems very often hidden by sufferers - much to horror of loved ones when they finally discover them).
What was the tide doing - her belongings were reportedly found 300m up the beach from where she was found, but was this 6 hours after she went into the water? Was the tide going out? Can any locals advise on the tidal distance? And also, anyone know how strong or otherwise the tides in that location can be?
Could she swim well? I only ask because the currents and waves on the beaches can be misleadingly strong (even if the water appears calm) and unless one knows the area well (does anyone know if she was a regular visitor to that part of the coast?) then what might have looked like calm sea could have been v treacherous. Not suggesting there was any intention to take her own life, but maybe it was a tragic accident but with something else going on that drew her to the sea?
Alternatives-
Did she meet anyone in Bexhill who she was planning to meet up with that night who could have wanted to do her harm?
Was she followed to the beach?
Were there any other suspicious individuals walking around the area at the same time that could have an intention to do harm?