The problem with doing this continuously for the past thirty years is that it has hidden key elements of what was going on.
The idea that the family has been pushing, that Amy was so attractive that men were constantly coming up to her, lay the seeds for the idea that she was abducted and sexually trafficked. She was a perfectly normal woman, and I do not think I ever got why Amy was such a focus of attention. Now that her sexuality is evident, this insistence makes much more sense as an artifact of the family still not dealing well with the fact that Amy was not interested in men as sexual or romantic partners. Even with her gone, her family is still trying to make her heteronormative--get her dressed up nicely, talk about her boyfriend, try not to talk about the girlfriends--and to downplay Amy's sexual orientation and their bad reaction to said as much as possible.
This all, in turn, feeds into some significant misreadings of what could have happened. Hiding her sexual orientation for so long complicates the story that they were telling. It seems pretty unlikely that Amy's interest in a man was a significant factor, now. It also seems clear that this goes a long way towards explaining why she drank so much, a combination of college freedoms and her reactions to her problems with her family. Someone with substance issues could easily get in trouble, whether you are talking about someone who accidentally fell off the balcony or someone who (much less likely) ended up getting abducted.
All of this does relate, of course, to the family's trauma. If Amy had come back from her cruise, then they would have been able to move forward in their lives, the family getting used to the idea that Amy was out and definitely not straight. She did not, and they have remained caught up in the denial that they were still in that night. I feel for them, but they really hampered a proper understanding of what happened to Amy. Out of a combination of their desperate desire to believe that Amy was still alive and their continuing troubles with her sexual orientation, they promulgated a myth of Amy as uniquely sexually attractive to men and an obvious target for sexual trafficking. Lots of people still believe this myth. They failed to separate their perceptions from the reality, creating this mystery.
Incidentally, while Curaçao was in the late 1990s definitely more conservative than the Netherlandss, it was then and still is one of the most LGBTQ-friendly places in the Caribbean.
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It is not clear to me that being less private about Amy's sexual orientation would have harmed the search for her there, whether you are talking about the search for a body or a search for a living person.