Yes, yes, and yes.
The grave visiting and the coordinating of present deliveries and photo ops has become a spectacle that I suspect is serving to fulfill a need that Tabitha has that has nothing to do with grieving. And I don't think it's guilt because she somehow didn't prevent what happened to Noah. In my opinion, most people do not flagrantly display their guilt. Some people may think that taking photos of your smiling children holding a stuffed animal that was on the grave of a 5 year old who has been dead for a week, a normal grieving behavior. I don't, but to each their own. The posting of those pictures of the children on a public facebook page that is often filled with threats, animosity, and just general ugliness, is irresponsible in the least. If you want those photos, keep them private, or post them on your private fb page. Tabitha's personal page, despite me hearing directly from her (not on here) that she has been the recipient of death threats and whatnot, is still public (as of yesterday) and one could read and see everything. I am concerned that her need to be the Great Arbiter of Advocacy for the Memory of Noah is exploitative of her children and possibly even exposing them to danger. You're receiving death threats, woman... Quit posting pictures of your kids for the crazies to see. Even if it is a "normal" part of grieving for her, protect your children. Making your grieving and the grieving of your children public is not as important at the moment as the safety of your family.