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Unfortunately, I don't think there is any "better, less confrontational way" the mother could have approached this situation and not gotten a violent reaction from the boy. Even if the daughter had, of her own accord, broken up with the boy, this could easily have happened. We've seen it a million times in the news. If a kid is willing to kill himself, he'll have no problem killing an "enemy."
The only surefire, safe thing to do would have been to pack up the whole family and go into hiding in the dead of night, leaving everything behind-- an option that seems too extreme and personally/professionally/financially devastating for most people to contemplate or actually do--I couldn't do it. It seems silly and cowardly and unnecessary--until something like this happens. Once the girl entered into this relationship, it was all over for this family--a terrifying thought. I think this is why people question what victims could have done differently. We don't want to think that our own lives could spiral completely out of control through no fault of our own. But they can. I've seen it happen in my own family.
The only surefire, safe thing to do would have been to pack up the whole family and go into hiding in the dead of night, leaving everything behind-- an option that seems too extreme and personally/professionally/financially devastating for most people to contemplate or actually do--I couldn't do it. It seems silly and cowardly and unnecessary--until something like this happens. Once the girl entered into this relationship, it was all over for this family--a terrifying thought. I think this is why people question what victims could have done differently. We don't want to think that our own lives could spiral completely out of control through no fault of our own. But they can. I've seen it happen in my own family.
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