i don't know. i have a hard time with that because my mother is a horrible horrible person and i don't and will never defend nor have anything nice to say because of what she has done. i am not loyal to her because she has done horrible things. i do not believe blood is thicker than water.
im not saying i disagree with you, but from a perspective of a person who's mother has been arrested, charged with a felony and nearly killed my father (who stayed with her)......i would never defend nor love a human being who has done what she has done. im not wired that way. im just not at that place of say forgiveness. kudos for those who can reach it. and i guess kudos for family members who can just ignore the evil behaviors of other family members. my brothers are like that. they act like she has never done anything wrong ever. they grovel at her feet (maybe because i come from a very very wealthy family and $$ is thrown to them)....but i am the only one in the family who has put my hand up and said HELL NO im not sticking by.
im not being snarky with you. im just bitter due to my own situation

:/ just one of those days.............and typing that out was not easy....but just had to give my perspective.