Passeridae
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Yeah. It kind of sounds like maybe there was some instability in her personal relationships around the time she went missing - one person at the press conference said she was estranged from many people in her life. Maybe they all thought she took Tatiana and left and had no interest in making contact.unfortunately, this or a previous little squabble, is all too common, and is used to justify the distance when like you said tragedy had already struck. heartbreaking.
For what it's worth, I have a sister who developed addiction issues who I haven't spoken to in years, and she regularly fell off the map for months at a time until about two years ago. I myself had some mental health struggles and cut off contact with many of my friends, and even after I got treatment I have not really been able to rebuild those relationships. For both of us, there was a pattern of disappearing and no matter how hard they try and how much they care, people do eventually get tired of always being the one to reach out and put effort into maintaining contact. It's hard work to be friends with someone who has withdrawn, especially over a huge distance, if they don't reach back.
I'm not saying Tanya struggled with mental health. She may have just been an incredibly busy single mom trying to build a life in a very expensive place over a thousand miles from her family, at a time when the internet wasn't ubiquitous, many people didn't have cellphones, and long-distance phone calls could be expensive and difficult to schedule. Or maybe she was struggling with something. There are a lot of reasons someone might fall out of touch with friends and family.