sleuthy sleutherson
Love is patient, love is kind, love is not envious
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I understand you are upset and find yourself probably asking why this happened. It is never just one thing one can point to and say this is why...after the fact--- ie: she should have seen this coming.
Granted Rachael made some bad choices..we all do; but she also tried to remedy the problem by getting out of the situation. She was already in his crosshairs at that point. She was doing all the positive things to take care of herself and her children. Finding a good job, going back to school and trying to get their lives back on track from this train-wreck named CAC. She, as with other women, had no idea how disturbed this man was, until it's too late. She was trying to protect herself and her family and had been working with LE and the system to help her do this. It failed--as also happens too frequently. What RA was negligent of was the knowledge and awareness that all women need to possess and pass on to each other, their mothers, children, sisters, co-workers etc. LE and the media could be a big part of this in that area. I'm sure it would behoove them and hopefully reduce the incidents of domestic violence calls and God forbid--worse as we have in RA' case. It's rampant and the frequency goes up anytime there is a fall in the economy as well--more stressors. Many women marry or get into a relationship with someone and find out it's not a good thing and remove themselves from the situation and that's the end of it--normally. This man was not...no where near it. He has a rage for women somewhere in him--from what I don't know. I'm am NOT coming to his defense, but am curious as to why that rage was there and too find it upsetting that he could not control his emotions.
Yes, RA made some bad choices and bypassed the warning signs---for whatever emotional or logically reasons---but she was a victim as well. Please don't forget that. Please put your energies of being upset, confused, and blaming to help others see and take actions upon those warning signs---I think Rachael would want you to.
Not lecturing and sorry for the long post--it's just the way I see it.
I understand these situations happen, too often...however, I also know that the fathers of these children were more then HAPPY to have had their sons in their care at the time she started to be harrased and they should have been. My frustrations simply lie in that issue, she was not afraid of these men and knew they would not hurt her children. She absolutley was a VICTIM and it is sick and everyone is upset about the scary crap and abuse she went through. I know she was trying with LE and yes it is very disturbing that too many of this situations are not taken seriously enough from the beginning and that is not her fault. But everyone needs to understand when you have a safe place to turn to for your children you should, it's not about your personal life and trying to be independent, it's about your children being safe. Making a better a life for herself and children was great and I know she was trying and it is so sad that it appears this will not happen now. Again, I am glad her sons are safe and I wish she was too! I have nothing but sadness for her, she was a pretty woman with great children and grandchildren. I just know there are things that could have been done differently and I hate to hear these boys talk about the piece of crap CC was and how scared their mom was of him, they should have been with their dads during this time IMO.:twocents: