WA WA - Sky Metalwala, 2, Bellevue, 6 Nov 2011 - # 2
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Could be, but I'm going to allow her some slack because all the "trouble" began shortly after he was born.
Sept. '09 Sky born.
Dec. '09 He was left in the car at Target
Mar. '10 She was in a mental hospital
Jun. '10 She filed for divorce.
Seems she's been hospitalized 3x's for mental issues, but I can't find the dates. Nor when she moved out of the home. Mental issues including a straining divorce.... I really don't think taking pictures would be her first priority in the last year, imo.
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I am in agreement with the father. I, too, think this is some kind of game mom is playing. If the child is alive though, who would help her? If it is a game, someone has to have been taking care of Sky the last 48 hours (hopefully). But who would do that for mom? I know there is some kind of underground system for hiding children from allegedly abusive parents, but I don't know much about it. Could mom be using the underground to hide Sky for some reason?
My son is 3 and growing like a weed. Clothes last him about 6 months..I usually buy them a little big to give him room to grow. Same with shoes. Shoes last about 9 months maybe a year if I buy them a size big and give him room to grow.I feel so sorry for Sky...it is not looking good for him at all. I hope they arrest his mother soon.
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Seems to me she used FB when M was younger and then switched over to fliker. That has a lot more pics of Sky. That said what is with some of those pics??? I have always taught my daughter modesty from a young age. Of course there is nothing wrong with the pics I would not choose to put them in a public forum. JMO
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King 5 News stated the Bellevue Police were going to have a news conference, in a few minutes. (just after 8 am). It was announced that foul play is suspected. However, they did not mention a suspect.
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Doesn't sound like it'll be good news.
The PC should be soon, right? 3 hours behind Eastern Time Zone?
Her daughter is naked in a bath tub in quite a few of those photos. I'd say those are not appropriate photos to put in a public domain. But we are talking about the woman who left her child in a car while she went shopping, and now claims she left him alone in the car again when her car run out of gas. So what else is new?
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http://www.king5.com/news/cities/be...-to-take-second-polygraph-test-133433438.html
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I want to address something, but please don't think I'm defending the Mother. I have my own thoughts on what happened to this poor baby, but am not ready to say (makes it too real for me, kwim?)
I feel people are reading entirely too much into her having dreams about harming her children. I had dreams while pregnant and after my son was born. One was a dream of me throwing him off a bridge, another of him burning his hand on my curling iron and me doing nothing about it. I have NEVER harmed my son in any way. He is 11 years old now and his biggest worry is being restricted from video games =).
What I'm trying to say is, we have dreams about our worst fears all the time, that doesn't mean we will act on those dreams. I think the fact that she told her stbx about them means she was very disturbed by those dreams and was seeking comfort from him. JMO
I feel people are reading entirely too much into her having dreams about harming her children. I had dreams while pregnant and after my son was born. One was a dream of me throwing him off a bridge, another of him burning his hand on my curling iron and me doing nothing about it. I have NEVER harmed my son in any way. He is 11 years old now and his biggest worry is being restricted from video games =).
What I'm trying to say is, we have dreams about our worst fears all the time, that doesn't mean we will act on those dreams. I think the fact that she told her stbx about them means she was very disturbed by those dreams and was seeking comfort from him. JMO
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The father took a polograph test that came back inconclusive.
http://www.king5.com/news/cities/be...-to-take-second-polygraph-test-133433438.html
http://www.king5.com/news/cities/be...-to-take-second-polygraph-test-133433438.html
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I couldn't get on last night as we were working on homework. My kids demanded all my attention last night - and I was happy to oblige! After going to bed, I couldn't get little Sky off of my mind.
I am wondering about the apparent breakdown of the marriage after having Sky. I know that we have all noticed the similarity between Sky and dad; however, I wonder if there are any suspicions of paternity. Could SM know about another person that may have been in his wife's life that also had darker skin? Could this have caused contention in the marriage?
I am still on the fence about the abuse allegations. I think it is highly possible given the fact that SHE is the one that has had mental breakdowns, that she may not have been abused. If she was abused, I wonder what the context of the abuse was? I wonder if he thought that one child was enough for her and knew that with her OCD she could not handle another child?
I had a lot of ideas running through my mind. I just am very worried about Sky. I HOPE that police do NOT find anything sinister at mom's apt. I would MUCH rather this be about control (mom's control) over the kids - and SKy is somewhere safe.
I cannot believe how convoluted this case is!
I am wondering about the apparent breakdown of the marriage after having Sky. I know that we have all noticed the similarity between Sky and dad; however, I wonder if there are any suspicions of paternity. Could SM know about another person that may have been in his wife's life that also had darker skin? Could this have caused contention in the marriage?
I am still on the fence about the abuse allegations. I think it is highly possible given the fact that SHE is the one that has had mental breakdowns, that she may not have been abused. If she was abused, I wonder what the context of the abuse was? I wonder if he thought that one child was enough for her and knew that with her OCD she could not handle another child?
I had a lot of ideas running through my mind. I just am very worried about Sky. I HOPE that police do NOT find anything sinister at mom's apt. I would MUCH rather this be about control (mom's control) over the kids - and SKy is somewhere safe.
I cannot believe how convoluted this case is!
I guess he can say that without fear of contradiction. : ( I don't think ANYBODY thinks that baby unhitched his carseat, opened the door, and wandered off on the horizon.
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I think I would suspect the woman who dreamed of strangling her baby boy!
:yes: that would be my #1 suspect.
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Interesting series of articles about the underground networks that hide children from alledged abusive parents. I had no idea it was that extensive.
http://dartcenter.org/content/children-underground
http://dartcenter.org/content/children-underground
I don't suspect the father at all, based on her story. He had no way of knowing she was going to leave the child alone in the car again.
Good morning Sleuths 
I just finished reading all the threads. My thoughts -
1) Perhaps she is, in fact, hiding Sky. It would probably be difficult to hide her little girl since she's older and clearly very attached to her mother. From the audio recording Julia posted online, it seemed that the little girl definitely suffered from not being able to see her mother for 7 months. (I'm not positive that this is 100% true, but based on the recordings. I would think children would always suffer when kept from a parent for such a long period of time, if that did happen) Sky is so young, maybe he hasn't had such a difficult time adjusting to the divorce and all of the nastiness that's come along with it. And maybe it was easier to leave him with a trusted friend of family member. Plus, he may not be able to verbalize to people what he's seen and heard.
2) As far as her diagnosis of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder goes - there are widely varying degrees of OCD, and it all depends on the doctor diagnosing and what the patient shares with that doctor. The father mentioned that she "cleans the house too much" (this was in a posted quote in this thread) among other things. I was actually diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder myself. After I had my twin boys, I went through a CRAZY period induced by lack of sleep and just feeling overwhelmed (as to be expected!). I became extremely anxious because I felt like everything was out of my control. So I started obsessively focusing on the only things I felt like I COULD control - which was cleaning and organizing our house.
I wasn't on my hands and knees with a toothbrush scrubbing the grout in the tile floors, but I basically wore myself out trying to manage the twins and the cleaning everyday. And whenever I let the house go for a day or two, I'd become extremely anxious to the point that it would actually depress me when I looked around and saw the chaos.
When I went to see a Psychiatrist for the anxiety and depression, he suggested that I consider taking some medication for sleep, anxiety, and depression. Because of my description of symptoms and triggers, he diagnosed as OCPD and post-pardem depression. In order for insurance companies to cover doctor's visits and prescriptions they must have a diagnosis, so that's what we ran with at the time. My point is, she may not actually have full-blown OCD which can truly interrupt your life - people can have rituals of turning the lights on and off 20 times before leaving every room etc. Depending on the doctor, she may have felt out of control in her marriage, and her finances and was hyper-focusing on things that she could control.
If she was feeling bad enough to have a stay in the hospital, it could very well have been situational issues - which is VERY different from someone who has a mental illness. However, her husband may not have understood that.
If she DOES truly have a mental illness, medication and therapy would be needed (except for personality disorders which are often resistant to medication). Based on the fact that she seems to be VERY focused on natural health, she may have been resistant to medications - which could be VERY bad in terms of her being well.
***Because of the very turbulent period of time that they were obviously struggling through, taking pictures of Sky was probably not priority. People generally take pictures when they are spending time doing enjoyable things together. There probably wasn't much of that going on. When I struggled during the year my twins were 1-2 years old, there DEFINITELY wasn't any pictures taken. My mother-in-law took all the pictures that year, which I'm eternally grateful for. The boys will never have to know what I dealt with.
***It just doesn't seem like she harmed this child to me. I really feel like she's hidden him. I feel like she used the "leaving him in the car" story, because its believeable based on the fact that she's been cited for it before. Her husband as well as LE would know that it COULD be true.
I don't think its going to work in her favor in the end, but I really feel that's what's going on.
If she truly feels that her husband is a monster as she has described, she may be trying to prevent Sky from growing up in his father's footsteps. Plus, if she is worried about the father's behavior when he has the kids for visits, the daughter can TELL her what goes on, but her son can't, and that's very scary for a parent. Its horrifying to feel that you're sending your children off with someone you think is a violent monster (I'm not saying he is or he isn't, but she's seems to feel that way). You want your children to be able to TELL you if anything bad happens.
I just finished reading all the threads. My thoughts -
1) Perhaps she is, in fact, hiding Sky. It would probably be difficult to hide her little girl since she's older and clearly very attached to her mother. From the audio recording Julia posted online, it seemed that the little girl definitely suffered from not being able to see her mother for 7 months. (I'm not positive that this is 100% true, but based on the recordings. I would think children would always suffer when kept from a parent for such a long period of time, if that did happen) Sky is so young, maybe he hasn't had such a difficult time adjusting to the divorce and all of the nastiness that's come along with it. And maybe it was easier to leave him with a trusted friend of family member. Plus, he may not be able to verbalize to people what he's seen and heard.
2) As far as her diagnosis of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder goes - there are widely varying degrees of OCD, and it all depends on the doctor diagnosing and what the patient shares with that doctor. The father mentioned that she "cleans the house too much" (this was in a posted quote in this thread) among other things. I was actually diagnosed with Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder myself. After I had my twin boys, I went through a CRAZY period induced by lack of sleep and just feeling overwhelmed (as to be expected!). I became extremely anxious because I felt like everything was out of my control. So I started obsessively focusing on the only things I felt like I COULD control - which was cleaning and organizing our house.
I wasn't on my hands and knees with a toothbrush scrubbing the grout in the tile floors, but I basically wore myself out trying to manage the twins and the cleaning everyday. And whenever I let the house go for a day or two, I'd become extremely anxious to the point that it would actually depress me when I looked around and saw the chaos.
When I went to see a Psychiatrist for the anxiety and depression, he suggested that I consider taking some medication for sleep, anxiety, and depression. Because of my description of symptoms and triggers, he diagnosed as OCPD and post-pardem depression. In order for insurance companies to cover doctor's visits and prescriptions they must have a diagnosis, so that's what we ran with at the time. My point is, she may not actually have full-blown OCD which can truly interrupt your life - people can have rituals of turning the lights on and off 20 times before leaving every room etc. Depending on the doctor, she may have felt out of control in her marriage, and her finances and was hyper-focusing on things that she could control.
If she was feeling bad enough to have a stay in the hospital, it could very well have been situational issues - which is VERY different from someone who has a mental illness. However, her husband may not have understood that.
If she DOES truly have a mental illness, medication and therapy would be needed (except for personality disorders which are often resistant to medication). Based on the fact that she seems to be VERY focused on natural health, she may have been resistant to medications - which could be VERY bad in terms of her being well.
***Because of the very turbulent period of time that they were obviously struggling through, taking pictures of Sky was probably not priority. People generally take pictures when they are spending time doing enjoyable things together. There probably wasn't much of that going on. When I struggled during the year my twins were 1-2 years old, there DEFINITELY wasn't any pictures taken. My mother-in-law took all the pictures that year, which I'm eternally grateful for. The boys will never have to know what I dealt with.
***It just doesn't seem like she harmed this child to me. I really feel like she's hidden him. I feel like she used the "leaving him in the car" story, because its believeable based on the fact that she's been cited for it before. Her husband as well as LE would know that it COULD be true.
I don't think its going to work in her favor in the end, but I really feel that's what's going on.
If she truly feels that her husband is a monster as she has described, she may be trying to prevent Sky from growing up in his father's footsteps. Plus, if she is worried about the father's behavior when he has the kids for visits, the daughter can TELL her what goes on, but her son can't, and that's very scary for a parent. Its horrifying to feel that you're sending your children off with someone you think is a violent monster (I'm not saying he is or he isn't, but she's seems to feel that way). You want your children to be able to TELL you if anything bad happens.
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