Found Safe WI - SMF, 16, Beaver Dam, 2 Feb 2025 *3 mo's pregnant, believed to be with 40-year-old father of the baby*

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Angelcat13 said:
Unfortunately parenting doesn’t come with a manual and, even if it did, what works for one kid may not work for another kid - even two siblings raised in the same house. And being a kid/teen doesn’t come with a manual either. Some kids are lucky to be born into and/or raised in a family that is supportive, encourages growth and self-esteem and gives them a safe place to be when life is hard, failures happen, etc.

I’ve raised 3 kids and I’ve been lucky that they were all basically good kids that are hard-working, know right from wrong, believe in family and are kind at heart. No, they are far from perfect and can also be mouthy, rude, self-centered, etc (as I think we all can be), but when they have a chance to re-group they are usually good at apologizing and being loving. I always made sure that they knew I wasn’t perfect and that I made mistakes along the way and that that is how you grow and learn. I was always involved in their lives - school, sports, friends, etc - and let them know that there was always room for one more at the table or to stay with us if they needed it. It makes me so happy to see them live like this, too.

I had wonderful parents but that didn’t keep me from being a difficult teen. Although I was a bit older than Sophia is, I ended up in a relationship with an older guy (I was 20, he was 32). It wasn’t physically abusive, but he became jealous and controlling as I got older and more independent. He would tell me that no one would love me (or put up with me) like he did and that he would kill himself if I ever left, even putting a gun to his head in front of me on more than one occasion. I was a “nurturer”, taking in stray animals and being sympathetic towards people that others may have turned away from. I thought I could fix him if I could just be better. I see so much of who I was then in Sophia and it is heartbreaking. I eventually managed to get away from him, but it was a long process full of fear. My saving grace was that he loved his successful public image and was afraid of losing his job, his image and possibly being arrested that he finally left me alone when he realized I had enough evidence to destroy him and it would become public if anything happened to me.

Sophia has a long road ahead of her that often only comes with maturity and experience and with a strong support system to help her. It is even harder with a baby - I know this, too, having my 1st child as a senior in HS. I wish I could tell Sophia so many things to give her strength and a belief that this “man” does NOT love her and that he only cares about himself and what he can get from others. I just hope she can survive long enough to learn these things and find the strength to get away from him safely.
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Any person who threatens to kill themselves if you leave - yeah, leave them and let the chips fall where they may.
 
Protectwomenandgirls said:
They could easily be in any US state by now. He probably isn't going to go or stay where authorities are looking for him. He has lots of options to hide outside of Wisconsin, Illinois & Arkansas. Hopefully national action happens soon
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I'm wondering how weather/storms might affect his route as well. That car doesn't look fit for deep snow.
 
iusedtofloat said:
As a person from the Midwest, I'm trying to think of where he would go. Lots of rural areas to hide out in - this day and age it's impossible to use cash etc to stay at a hotel without an ID and a card on file ICE. i hope he's dumb enough to leave a paper trail
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I live in the Midwest and just paid cash for a hotel room 2 weeks ago. I kindly disagree imo
 
Plus there are those prepaid/re-loadable VISAS that work like credit/debit cards.

This 40 year old was living with his mother in Arkansas, yes? (Or did I misunderstand?) and driving an older vehicle. It seems like men in that sort of situation are either dirt poor, so he's going to run out of options soon while on the run OR because he's had no real living expenses, he lives a rather frugal life but has a lot of savings, and the hotel living could last longer than expected.

I hope they are located soon and that Sophia and her future baby are able to receive proper support and care after this 2nd ordeal.
 
Angelcat13 said:
Unfortunately parenting doesn’t come with a manual and, even if it did, what works for one kid may not work for another kid - even two siblings raised in the same house. And being a kid/teen doesn’t come with a manual either. Some kids are lucky to be born into and/or raised in a family that is supportive, encourages growth and self-esteem and gives them a safe place to be when life is hard, failures happen, etc.

I’ve raised 3 kids and I’ve been lucky that they were all basically good kids that are hard-working, know right from wrong, believe in family and are kind at heart. No, they are far from perfect and can also be mouthy, rude, self-centered, etc (as I think we all can be), but when they have a chance to re-group they are usually good at apologizing and being loving. I always made sure that they knew I wasn’t perfect and that I made mistakes along the way and that that is how you grow and learn. I was always involved in their lives - school, sports, friends, etc - and let them know that there was always room for one more at the table or to stay with us if they needed it. It makes me so happy to see them live like this, too.

I had wonderful parents but that didn’t keep me from being a difficult teen. Although I was a bit older than Sophia is, I ended up in a relationship with an older guy (I was 20, he was 32). It wasn’t physically abusive, but he became jealous and controlling as I got older and more independent. He would tell me that no one would love me (or put up with me) like he did and that he would kill himself if I ever left, even putting a gun to his head in front of me on more than one occasion. I was a “nurturer”, taking in stray animals and being sympathetic towards people that others may have turned away from. I thought I could fix him if I could just be better. I see so much of who I was then in Sophia and it is heartbreaking. I eventually managed to get away from him, but it was a long process full of fear. My saving grace was that he loved his successful public image and was afraid of losing his job, his image and possibly being arrested that he finally left me alone when he realized I had enough evidence to destroy him and it would become public if anything happened to me.

Sophia has a long road ahead of her that often only comes with maturity and experience and with a strong support system to help her. It is even harder with a baby - I know this, too, having my 1st child as a senior in HS. I wish I could tell Sophia so many things to give her strength and a belief that this “man” does NOT love her and that he only cares about himself and what he can get from others. I just hope she can survive long enough to learn these things and find the strength to get away from him safely.
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Wonderful post, @Angelcat13 - agree with you completely, and very sorry that you had to go through that back then. I aspire to parent the same way, also with 3 kids.
 
nhmemorymaker said:
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How do parents teach their budding teen daughters to avoid manipulative middle aged men? Parents probably think more about aggressive hormone burning young men as the "enemy" of their teenage daughters. But these older men....are so much more dangerous in my mind.

moo.
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a short story to try and show you how these things can happen:

when i was 17/18, i "dated" (was groomed by) my 28 year old teacher and he came to my house to meet my mom.

my mom knew it was wrong but she was scared if she said anything i'd go nuclear about how it's my life etc, which she's right to guess i'd have done that. i basically raised myself since my mom worked 24/7 and my dad was homeless and an alcoholic by the time i hit 16, and neither were disciplinarians - more like a friend. sometimes i get angry my mother didnt step in but as i get older i can understand where she was coming from.

a year later, i did get the teacher fired after i came forward to the principal to describe his behavior with me as a student. he attended extensive therapy and oddly enough thanked me for getting him canned because it changed his life for the better.

this case is far more egregious than my situation however.
 
tlcya said:
2019: Day was charged in Independence County, AK with endangering the welfare of a minor after it was reported his four-month-old son broke his femur in Independence County. Doctors noticed more bruising and fractures consistent with blunt force trauma.

2020: Day enters guilty plea on endangering welfare of minor charge from 2019.

July 2023: Day was charged with domestic battery in the second degree for injuries related to his then-four-year-old son in Lonoke County.

May 2023: domestic battery charge dropped.
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The femur is the strongest bone in the body and is extremely difficult to break... it takes a lot of force to break it, like falling from super high up or a car accident. this man is dangerous and absolutely deserves the worst punishment imaginable for all his crimes. anyone who hurts a baby or child on purpose should never be paroled imo. why was the charge dropped??? insane.

also she's actually taller than him. i think that info is important to put out there because people are perhaps looking for a shorter girl and a big man.
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The Dodge County District Attorney’s Office late Tuesday filed two felony charges of Abduction of a Child and two counts of Child Enticement-Causing Mental/Bodily Harm. The first abduction and child enticement count have an offense date of July 29, 2024, while the other two have an offense date of Feb. 3, 2025.

MSHP says Franklin and Day are possibly headed to the state of Arkansas and on an unknown route of travel through Missouri in the Buick LaCrosse.

Officials say there is a no-contact order for Gary and Sophia, also noting that Sophia is 3 months pregnant.

Franklin is described as 5 feet, 9 inches tall, and 186 pounds with brown hair and blue eyes. Day is described as 5 feet, 7 inches tall and 165 pounds with blonde hair and green eyes. It is unknown what clothing either may be wearing.
 
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truthfinder2019 said:
Her fb shows an older photo, blond

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Not an old photo, August of 2024
 
iusedtofloat said:
The femur is the strongest bone in the body and is extremely difficult to break... it takes a lot of force to break it, like falling from super high up or a car accident. this man is dangerous and absolutely deserves the worst punishment imaginable for all his crimes. anyone who hurts a baby or child on purpose should never be paroled imo. why was the charge dropped??? insane.
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It, and the other long bones, are actually quite flexible in babies, which leads to them bending, not breaking outright. In other words, it would actually take MORE force to break a baby's unossified femur than it would to break a solid bone, which makes it worse.
 
iusedtofloat said:
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Not an old photo, August of 2024
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I said older because the one distributed may be more as she looks now, chubbier because pregnant. I would hope they distributed a photo of her as brunette because this is what she actually looked when missing. But she may have changed color in the meantime indeed….
 
iusedtofloat said:
a short story to try and show you how these things can happen:

when i was 17/18, i "dated" (was groomed by) my 28 year old teacher and he came to my house to meet my mom.

my mom knew it was wrong but she was scared if she said anything i'd go nuclear about how it's my life etc, which she's right to guess i'd have done that. i basically raised myself since my mom worked 24/7 and my dad was homeless and an alcoholic by the time i hit 16, and neither were disciplinarians - more like a friend. sometimes i get angry my mother didnt step in but as i get older i can understand where she was coming from.

a year later, i did get the teacher fired after i came forward to the principal to describe his behavior with me as a student. he attended extensive therapy and oddly enough thanked me for getting him canned because it changed his life for the better.

this case is far more egregious than my situation however.
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It's all in how you and them handled it.
Other people or a different teacher and you would have had yourself in a murderous situation . Toss one off balance person into the story and then??
 
One way or another, I suspect he's helped himself to a new car, but then again, what would he have done with the vehicle everyone is looking for? I'm shocked he's been able to stay on the lam this long. I wonder if he's following the news, if he's seen the alerts, if he's on the move, or he's hiding out with her somewhere. I fear he doesn't want to be arrested and what that might. Danger level, high.

JMO
 
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