I'll be honest I liked the extra attention people gave me while I was pregnant. Not the crazies who came out of the wood work with horror stories or thought my belly was suddenly public property, just the smiles and old men who went out of their way to hold doors, older women who shared their stories, stuff like that. Pregnancy over and that all stops, the attention immediately goes to the baby. I was always good with that. I loved showing off my little bundle and of course the real trade off was the wonderful little person I got to bring home.
I wonder if after 5 back to back pregnancies, NS just enjoyed the attention a little too much? Then the attention she would have gotten with the last one. She must have felt like a celebrity in the hospital all that time. The staff is wonderful about spending time with OB patients who get stuck in the hospital for months. Usually speaking they are otherwise healthy women sitting around essentially a human incubator. Separated from family and friends, worry for the kids at home, the staff does everything possible to keep them focused on the goal and to encourage them to keep their mood up.
If Nadya already had a deep seated need for attention, a need to feel special, these pregnancies all brought by medical intervention, the twins 2 years ago followed a little more than a year later by the Oct pregnancy which would have been considered high risk from the first ultra sound; all would have been feeding her psychological needs with out ever addressing what happens to Nadya at the end of the pregnancy. What does Nadya need to do to continue to feel special when she no longer has medical teams and strangers feeding her?
Nadya is educated in psychology. She knows what to say and what not to say to the specialists. In her case this could truly be a case of a little knowledge being dangerous.
She needs to get help and she needs to get a clue. If she doesn't, her behavior, her needs, will escalate at the expense of her children.
