Bertolino’s statements making Brian and Gabby equivalent remind me of a great true crime type book I read called The Events of October.
There was a murder-suicide at Kalamazoo College, a fancy private college in Michigan. In the aftermath the shellshocked leaders kept referring to the happenings as a double tragedy, two bright young lives lost too soon, two of our own gone senselessly etc. etc.
The author of the book, a professor there who was well-versed in violence against women, had to reset their perspectives and wrote the book to address such cultural biases.
Almost half of women who are murdered are murdered by an intimate partner. Only one out of 20 for murdered men. Three out of four murder suicides involve intimate partners, and in almost ALL of them, about 95%, women are the victim.
murder suicide is a extremely violent and extremely selfish act. And almost all of them are against women, So the victim blaming and equating the perpetrator and the victim as tragedy all around is almost always biased against women and something very ugly that masks the true nature of murderous violence against women.
so it is surprising or disturbing in this day and age to read Bertolino statements saying that two families lost a child and May Gabby and Brian rest in peace and its tragedy all around, very much avoiding the elephant in the room that one committed extreme violence against the other.
It’s One of two things, either he is too biased to see how unbelievably offensive it is or It’s almost as if the Laundries somehow blame Gabby for all this. Blame her for dreaming big and taking Brian on this joyride that he couldn’t handle and being too much for him and provoking him to tragic end. They think they lost their son because of Gabby? Because of the Petitos? How else can you explain how cold and cruel they’ve been right through the end of this?
Some say Bertolino did his job by keeping the laundries protected from criminality But I think he almost did them a far greater disservice by his terribly offensive and infuriating communication throughout this ordeal.