You cannot examine this situation from a healthy perspective, a healthy frame of reference because you don't have one. You cannot assess with accuracy the intrinsic dynamics of this crime. The innate part of us that knows the value of human relationships, particularly among moms and dads and their kids, is missing. And, unfortunately it is like trying to describe color to someone blinded from birth.
Guys, I've gotta admit finding this tedious. Not that I want to tell you what to discuss, this is between you two though, I'm just skimming (if at all).
But I think we're talking about love and guilt?
You see, from the IDI point of view, I can barely understand how much guilt PR (and JR probably in a different way) must have felt. This I guess is for those mothers with children. I'm not saying men don't feel strongly about their children, but it's women who have the market cornered in guilt when it comes to their kids and them coming to harm.
Imagine how you would cope:
If you slept soundly and woke to find your baby had kicked off the covers and was cold and crying, you would feel very guilty.
or
If you slept soundly and woke to find your baby had died in its bed (from SIDS), you would feel enormously guilty.
or
If you slept soundly and woke to find your baby had been taken from her bed by someone and held for ransom, you would feel overwhelmingly guilty (and panic stricken for her safety).
or
If you slept soundly and woke to find your baby had been taken from her bed by someone, taken to the basement of your own home, tortured sexually, bashed on the head and strangled with a chord, you would feel the overwhelming kind of guilt, anger, sadness, fear, that is indescribable and your ability to function would be impaired probably permanently.
then
Imagine this happening and then the tabloids, TV chat shows, news broadcasts, internet groups, neighbours, friends, people you don't know, seemingly the whole world, all thinking or saying you did this yourself?
Give it a go. Put yourself in Patsy's shoes for a while.