How terribly sad Lonetraveler!!!! Wish I could hug your precious grandbaby. As for what to do, i wish I were of more help. Maybe you could try a few different tactics.
Record the date, time, and person spoken to. Is the Boys and Girls Brigade directly related to the school? If so, make sure there is a rep from the school in the meeting. Are there professionals there with experience working with Autistic children? Also, try to record specific things done to your grandson. Get specific with names, dates, times, adults in the vicinity. It angers me that no teachers seem to be helping J.
Does the school district have parent liasons? If so, make sure they are invloved in every single aspect from now on. If not, perhaps you could ask around if there any other students getting bullied, and attempt to involve their parents as well. You would be surprised how many teachers would go off the record and suggest others that are getting the same treatments. Strength in numbers.
There is always someone higher up in the chain, so if you get no results, go up the chain. Make sure to have everything recorded for reference.
Not sure of the rules in your district, but would they allow a parent to attend class with the student? It sounds like your daughter works long hours, so I dont know how realistic that option is. Bullies scurry when faced with authority. But, then again, it may just start back up once the parent stops attending.
Perhaps try to discuss this in a meeting with the bullys' parents'. Once you get the names, you could ask the administration to arrange a sit down. But often times, it seems, bullies do not seem to have the most stable home lives. If all else fails, call the local newspaper. They may be able to do a story or investigate more to expose the lack of a positive outcome that the school admin is displaying.
Lastly, hug your grandbaby as often as you can, and his Mother. Make sure they know you are ALWAYS on their side. Good luck today!
. Makes me even MORE proud of him for standing up for himself!!!
