Thank you, It's good to keep all possibilites open. People will never know the true family dynamics within that household. You can only wonder who wore the pants. Josh wouldn't lift a hand to his wife- only the silent treatment when being struck or yelled at- one can imagine.
I hope they find her.
Thank you for your contribution here.
I'll admit. I have a hard time seeing things from Josh's perspective in this.
Why don't you share more of your thoughts with us? I have just a few specific questions for you - background stuff that really doesn't have anything directly to do with the disappearance. Help me understand what I am missing, with regards to Josh.
1) Is it true that Susan had to ride her bike to work; to walk to church (even if it was a short distance); to ask permission to buy certain groceries? If these things are true, how would you explain them - keeping in mind that Josh really isn't a bad guy or husband?
2) Why does Josh stand back and let his father talk about Susan the way he does? Why didn't he stand up to him when Susan supposedly made him a cuckold, with his own father? Even if Susan was, for argument's sake, sexually flirtatious with Josh's father, why would Josh be okay with his father's claim that he reciprocated the flirtations? Why wouldnt he expect his father to say, Susan, this is inappropriate - I am loyal to my son, and I will not stand for you dishonoring him this way?
I have more questions, but I will stop with those. You sound like you know Josh, and consider him to be a victim in all of this. I am usually a good devil's advocate (Im not calling him a devil! Its just a figure of speech okay, BeanE?
). I sincerely try to consider even the most unlikely scenarios in a case like this - where a potentially-innocent, decent person might be getting railroaded by popular opinion.
Josh and I actually have quite a few things in common. We're roughly the same age; we live in the same area (SLC, Utah area); we have similarly-aged children; we have a similar religious background - heck, we even both married girls named Susan.
So, I get to thinking. If we were a one-car family, would I ever make my wife ride a bike to work? I would actually be worried sick about her, if she even had to do it one day. I would walk or bike myself; maybe I would just work from home; I would use public transportation; I'd find her car-pool opportunities; worst case scenario, I would take her and pick her up myself. I would do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING I could to avoid having her strap on a helmet and ride 5-10 miles each way on dangerous roads every day.
Then there is the issue with Steve. Apparently, he and Susan were openly flirting with each other, right under Josh's nose. Again, I try and consider that situation. I would, of course, be hurt and upset with my wife. But I would also consider it a relationship-ender with my dad. I'd say, "Let me get this straight, Dad. My wife was getting sexually aggressive with you. And despite the fact the she was YOUR OWN SON'S WIFE, you were flattered to the point of reciprocating it? Of all the other 3 billion women in the world, you decided that YOUR OWN SON'S WIFE was the one you wanted to play with? And now, you think it's okay to giddily parade it in front of me to the media? And you expect me to stand in the background, and not defend myself/her?"
So, let's take the disappearance out of the equation. Let's, for argument's sake, say that this is just a normal situation - that Susan and Josh are separated, but that Susan's whereabouts are known. I would still have a hard time feeling anything positive about Josh. You seem to know him. Are we missing something?