Dear Watchers,
has any testimony been given that based on the abuse Travis SUFFERED as a child, he could have been more likely to put up with abuse FROM JA (mental and physical) for a longer period of time??? Couldn't that explain why he kept giving her another chance?
It makes me sick that the abuse he suffered as a child is now being used against him. He IS the victim.
No, there's been no testimony to that, at least not that I know of, I admit LaViolette was muted a bit. I think there's a lot of debate about it really too - for me, his childhood wouldn't necessarily indicate he'd be any more likely than anyone else to become an abuse victim or tolerate it for a longer period of time.
The compassionate and trusting nature he was known to have though is another matter entirely. I can easily see Jodi manipulating that side of him to keep him in the relationship - threatening suicide or self-harm, recalling (or exaggerating) her own abuse and how everyone's always let her down. Psychopaths often paint themselves as perpetual victims to incur compassion and empathy from others.
Psychological abuse specifically - and especially when the abuser is also a psychopath - can be very covert and extremely difficult to identify. It's not unheard of for victims of it to stay in relationships for years, and sometimes even decades. By the time the abuse escalates to more overt methods, the victim is often so depressed and debilitated by the abuse, they have a very difficult time extricating themselves from the relationship. On average, a woman will return to her abuser 7 times before leaving the relationship permanently. There are no reliable similar statistics for male abuse victims. My side of the pond, men are believed to make up 40% of domestic violence victims. Nearly 5,000 women are prosecuted annually for intimate partner violence accounting for 150% increase in the last few years alone.
Travis showed an
amazing level of insight and wisdom recognizing an abuser and their methods. Which, for me, makes it even more heartbreaking he didn't survive leaving the relationship.