No offense to you at all Live...I am just jumping off of your post and this is more of a rant......
I am sick and tired of people making excuses for these monsters. If you are responsible enough to take part in creating a child, you darn well should be responsible about knowing what's going on AT ALL times in your child's life and especially when they are younger and need you THE MOST. He figured out how to make a baby so should have been responsible enough to figure out how to take care of his child.
I will not make any excuse for this man (and I use that term loosely). IMO, I don't care if he murdered her, dismembered her, had no clue or whatever. HE PUT HER IN THAT SITUATION. HE FAILED HER and for that alone even Hell is too good for him. :furious:
ITA. My husband tends to be rather clueless about things. I have to point out when I get my haircut, or if I want him to notice I did the dishes. He often forgets to tell me things that his family has told him that I need to know. He can get very much so into his video games and become oblivious to the world around him. He even forgets to let the dog in sometimes, and she stays outside for a few hours until I let her in. It's irritating, yes, but I love him anyway.
But you know what, he notices his daughter. If there is anything wrong, he addresses it. He notices if I get too much onto her and tells me to have more patience. He notices when she's not doing her homework and makes her do it. If there is a problem with her, he takes notice and does something about it. I guess what I'm saying is, if I were abusing her, or someone else was, he would notice and if it was me, probably divorce me. If it was someone else, there's no telling what he would do. He might try to deny that her abandonment issues aren't as bad as they are, but he knows she's been suffering since her mom left her at age 5. She's now seeing a child psychologist for it, and he's paying for each session. I guess what I am saying is, as clueless as he is about other things, he takes the time to notice his daughter and be a great daddy to her. He protects her and loves her no matter what. And he would never let anyone harm her, NEVER.
I am not buying that AB is just some dumb, clueless father. I am sick of hearing that. If he loved that child so much, he should have noticed her, period. He should have taken care of her, period. He should have noticed his new wife not being a great stepmother and prevented her from hurting his child, PERIOD. He should not have allowed negative and evil things to come into his daughter's life and lead her to death, PERIOD.
There is just no excuse for a parent not noticing their children, not taking care of them, and letting evil things happen to him. I don't care how clueless and dumb and gullible he is, he is a bad parent and I can't believe he didn't know ANYTHING about this. He is not innocent here even if he didn't do the murder or dismemberment - something that didn't even upset him, btw. If he loved her so much, why didn't anything upset him about her death until rape allegations that were proven false? He couldn't even have emotion for her being missing in a 911 call. None of this makes any sense for a good father that loves and takes care of their children. There is no excuse for him dragging her across the world to be abused and killed and dismembered and whatever else happened to her. NONE.
He's guilty, and there's no excuses for his epic failure to love and protect his own flesh and blood.