It's hard to keep telling ourselves that. But we have to. It's even more aggravating when her family posts as if she is a victim of domestic violence and the world is wrong and the Arias Yreka family is right.
Instincts within us want to embrace them if they can face the truth, they have a disturbed family member. They are not the first family to have a stranger among them. Nor do I actually blame them for what some call inactivity. A parent is not really equipped for all personality types (especially Borderline) I still won't go there and say "bad parenting" or they should have helped her sooner.
I would never pretend to walk in the shoes of her mom and dad when she was born and say they should have seen the signs gotten a great therapist. Heck they may have figured they just had a stubborn hard to handle child. As far as we know, the rest of the kids, cousins etc are very normal non-violent people. They raised them all and only one is in LaLa Land so it says more about Jodi than her family.
My guess is she would have been a challenge no matter what family she was born into. How does anyone handle that, she worked, she moved around a bit, she was not committing crimes, it was a build up of dysfunction on her part, but she was an adult they can't force her to do anything.
The telling thing is that the minute a body was found, 27 people (including her own parents) figured she did it. AND none of them thought he did anything to deserve it, everyone had the impression she was "not" ok and killed him. That speaks volumes.
You want to help them, embrace the family in this time of horrible stress for them too but NOT if they DEFEND HER.
If they defend her, if the cousins have blogs and fundraisers, if they denigrate Jodi's attorney's that god love em' were trying to do what they thought was right and save her life, no matter what we all think of them and I don't agree with what they did, not one word of it, their approach is vile and hideous and in my own mind I can't imagine the Defense team is spiritual in any way (my own opinion)... How can they be to beat up and slaughter an innocent man for years, to allow their client to put forth that totally disgusting unbelievable story about another person WHO is dead?
I can't forgive them for that. The justice system should be to seek the truth in a situation and punish fairly the perpetrator. In fact if she had told the truth, if they could have gotten her to just go with the truth, she was NOT able to get him out of her head, she just couldn't...she became obsessed and would not let go (feelings many can relate to at one time or another in their life.. What each person does about it is another matter) But she has a defect, call it Borderline, or Sociopath, that defect is why she slaughtered him and stuffed him in a shower. And the end of a relationship for others would mean we go our separate ways.
I would think a good Defense Attorney would have reasoned with her to plead guilty. Even to 1st Degree Murder and go with LWOP and not Death. That should have been their only path.
Instead they do something to him that's unforgivable and it makes some of us want that entire team to pay for it. The team, the witnesses everyone associated with them.
I would use my right as a free person that does not commit crimes, to hope nobody ever hires them for anything again. Sorry, that's how I feel. Maybe if people don't take this kind of crap anymore, such horrifying things like they put forth in their phoney Defense will stop happening. It's like they got hired by her from the State to be a spokesperson for one of the decades worst murderers.
She deserves a defense? Not if you don't believe her. Her defense is she has no Defense, she killed someone and should have been remorseful and begged for her life. If she did I would not even have wanted her put to death. Show you are human. I guess she can't, because she isn't.
Yesterday I found myself getting sucked in by the twisted words of the murderer...what was I thinking???:facepalm:
Peeps, if I ever do this again, please remind me to ignore her and not get in a
anic: over anything that comes out of this creature's mouth. She is all about control and manipulation and will use whatever means she can to get it.
Nothing, nothing, nothing she says should be taken at face value.
Note to self: do not attempt to "translate" the words or actions of the murderer.
I need to have continued faith in the judicial system and this jury to do the right thing.
Phew, glad I got that off my chest.:skip: